KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 There is a guy I like, he is only a year younger than me, tall, smart and well spoken. I have spoken to him a lot usually about work, but we do seem to have some similarities (personality/interests) with each other. The problem is that I am just so shy in front of him (I'm a bit better now) but I can't look at him properly when he comes to check on me with work and stuff. So, I either look at my monitor or he does. He is also mentoring me, so we do exchange emails and messages quite a bit. He is also sort of the quiet type but he regularly has people around him, so I guess he is sociable too. Its just that he talks to everyone else but me about general stuff, and I feel awkward. I even told him that he could speak to me, and he just said that he has trouble showing his emotions... but he seems fine with everyone else? I tried talking to him yesterday, and he does sort of stare and smile whilst I am asking him something, and always makes sure that I am OK with everything. Might he like me, or he is just doing his job? He also sits quite close to me sometimes, when he is explaining something, and just smiles in general whenever he sees me, but never says anything around the office. I feel like he acts cold, but is still really attentive in terms of work, he has never said he was busy or cannot help me. He says things like "Please come and ask me any questions" "Its good for me to take a break from my work" and he was really grinning when I said I did well for my mock interview. He avoids looking at me directly when we are in meetings, but I can see him staring at me in the corner of my eye whenever I am not paying attention. Then when I said "ah you're going for a higher role within the team..." and he said "Nothing is going to change, I'm still always going to help you." then when I said "when new starters join, then the manager will tell you to manage them" and he said "I tell the manager what I want to do, not him." Also, I was really mad at him one time, because we had a meeting and he completely avoided looking/talking to me, when we were about to leave, he tried talking to me, because I was ignoring him, he went first...then when I went outside he was still waiting for me, he said "I was waiting for you, are you mad at me?" then when I didn't say anything he said "Sorry I know its all my fault. (I assume because the project was more complicated)" then I said "...its fine, its not your fault." "Seems like it is though." Then I got upset, because it wasn't his fault he gave me that project to do. So, I spoke to him. "I feel really bad..." "Why?" "Don't say sorry, you have done so much for me, and you're..." "I know I'm brilliant" and he was grinning. Then I got a bit teary eyed, and he said "Don't worry about it, its fine!" "Happy?" "No." "I'll make you happy then, you'll be fine." ... We don't directly flirt with each other, but more indirectly...through talking but its not...(sorry hope that makes sense) Anyway, not sure how I can approach him properly and become close...I don't feel like I am good enough... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 There is a guy I like, he is only a year younger than me, tall, smart and well spoken. I have spoken to him a lot usually about work, but we do seem to have some similarities (personality/interests) with each other. The problem is that I am just so shy in front of him (I'm a bit better now) but I can't look at him properly when he comes to check on me with work and stuff. So, I either look at my monitor or he does. He is also mentoring me, so we do exchange emails and messages quite a bit. He is also sort of the quiet type but he regularly has people around him, so I guess he is sociable too. Its just that he talks to everyone else but me about general stuff, and I feel awkward. I even told him that he could speak to me, and he just said that he has trouble showing his emotions... but he seems fine with everyone else? I tried talking to him yesterday, and he does sort of stare and smile whilst I am asking him something, and always makes sure that I am OK with everything. Might he like me, or he is just doing his job? He also sits quite close to me sometimes, when he is explaining something, and just smiles in general whenever he sees me, but never says anything around the office. I feel like he acts cold, but is still really attentive in terms of work, he has never said he was busy or cannot help me. He says things like "Please come and ask me any questions" "Its good for me to take a break from my work" and he was really grinning when I said I did well for my mock interview. He avoids looking at me directly when we are in meetings, but I can see him staring at me in the corner of my eye whenever I am not paying attention. Then when I said "ah you're going for a higher role within the team..." and he said "Nothing is going to change, I'm still always going to help you." then when I said "when new starters join, then the manager will tell you to manage them" and he said "I tell the manager what I want to do, not him." Also, I was really mad at him one time, because we had a meeting and he completely avoided looking/talking to me, when we were about to leave, he tried talking to me, because I was ignoring him, he went first...then when I went outside he was still waiting for me, he said "I was waiting for you, are you mad at me?" then when I didn't say anything he said "Sorry I know its all my fault. (I assume because the project was more complicated)" then I said "...its fine, its not your fault." "Seems like it is though." Then I got upset, because it wasn't his fault he gave me that project to do. So, I spoke to him. "I feel really bad..." "Why?" "Don't say sorry, you have done so much for me, and you're..." "I know I'm brilliant" and he was grinning. Then I got a bit teary eyed, and he said "Don't worry about it, its fine!" "Happy?" "No." "I'll make you happy then, you'll be fine." ... We don't directly flirt with each other, but more indirectly...through talking but its not...(sorry hope that makes sense) Anyway, not sure how I can approach him properly and become close...I don't feel like I am good enough... If he stares like "his eyes telling you that he loves you so much but he can't tell" you that's the sign that the guy might have interest on you. Well let him approach first and see what do you want to see in him. Just be yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 3, 2017 Author Share Posted June 3, 2017 If he stares like "his eyes telling you that he loves you so much but he can't tell" you that's the sign that the guy might have interest on you. Well let him approach first and see what do you want to see in him. Just be yourself The problem is that he isn't...and I am just getting a bit frustrated, because other people are starting to notice how awkward we are when we are around each other. So, thats why I am trying to act normal...but he never asks me anything first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 The problem is that he isn't...and I am just getting a bit frustrated, because other people are starting to notice how awkward we are when we are around each other. So, thats why I am trying to act normal...but he never asks me anything first. Such a shy type guy then if he doesn't make his move then try to approach him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 3, 2017 Author Share Posted June 3, 2017 Such a shy type guy then if he doesn't make his move then try to approach him. I guess thats the plan... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JihyoStoleMyHeartAYAYAY 22,189 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 I guess thats the plan... Well try it first, if it doesn't work then go to plan B. "Stay away from him" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the8 is my m8 407 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 if you have to ask then he doesn't. guys ALWAYS make it obvious and it's what high school dating and even present dating has taught me. if he does like you, then it must not be strong enough for him to show. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miyami 642 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 Ask him out to have a drink tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 If his eyes sparkle when he looks at you, then he is interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted June 4, 2017 Share Posted June 4, 2017 He may be Maybe you should ask him out somewhere(like a fun place) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 There's a chance he does like you or at least I would have behaved like that when I was younger as I'm also a serious type of person. So I think he could be acting cold because he's anxious around you and wants to hide the fact he likes you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sana Minatozaki 3,305 Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 if you're both awkward or shy I think nothing will happen , sorry . But if you make a move , well that's another story Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
King Jaejoong 1,701 Posted June 5, 2017 Share Posted June 5, 2017 Look don't rush things up, it can be that he likes you but it's also possible that he's just a genuinely nice guy and you misunderstood, my tip is , try to start a conversation with him about personal stuff, like , your relationship status or his . I don't know but from my experience normally when you praise a guy and he likes you he'd listen and let it sink in , becomes flustered and nervous ( even if it's not too obvious you'd still notice a slight changement in his behaviour ) ,but the way you describe how he said that " I'm brilliant" is weird....I don't know guys are not all the same so I cannot judge based on just that ....however , from the way you describe him, he's the shy type so he should have had a more obvious reaction.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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