Ellin 269 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 So full disclosure I'm a huge stickler for good manners. Was on a first coffee date with a girl today. She kept staring at her phone and texted right in front of me at least 4 times in a span of ~30 minutes, all without saying excuse me one time. To me, it is very disrespectful to me and my time, and it's like her explicitly saying she didn't want to be there. The moments we actually talked, we had a great conversation and had a few good laughs. However, in the end, I said good day to her and I will not contact her again. I've never had this happen to this extreme and wanted to know, is it normal with people nowadays, or if anyone else finds it rude/ as a deal breaker as well? Would you be okay with your date constantly texting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gayness 2,400 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 i think it's rude. but then again i do it with my best friend ;-; i needa stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~CinnamonBuns~ 2,259 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 I understand if you on your 10th date(and confirmed relationship status), it's okay to text and be comfortable with each other. But on your first....you did the right thing OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Overhaul 595 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 it's rude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trixbox 2,982 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Its normal but on the phone for 30 minutes? Nope. She doesn't seem interested and bored. If you get on a date first time, always have a wingman and ask her if she can bring a friend too. Always do this on first dates, only ask her on a personal date when she's comfotable with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thatoneuser 3,235 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 That's absolutely rude. Don't contact her again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebells and Snowdrops 3,566 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 It is really rude to text while being on a date with someone. I think you're in your full right to not want to contact her again. I wouldn't date someone who always texted in front of me either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uwu 532 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 it's rude, to me at least, it bothers me a lot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HardWorkBeatTalent 1,096 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Imo you're boring lol, if she is interested, she won't looking at her phone all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaishaix 2,737 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Did you split the bill at least?? Jokes!! Don't even bother remembering her face... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joon 8,222 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 I'm someone that is always on my phone and can be on my phone and hold a conversation at the same time, but, I wouldn't do that on a first date...or second or third for that matter. And I try not to do so when in a formal setting or when having a nice meal. I could see how me using my phone while conversing could be seen as rude by those that don't know me, but those that do know me know that I am a person who constantly has to be doing something, I probably have ADD or some sort of attention disorder because I find it really hard to just be idle. I also have social anxiety so my phone helps avoid me having to look at others in the eye for anything more than a moment. Anyway, I personally think it is a little harsh to not go on a second date for that reason alone, especially if the other moments were really great. It is hard to find someone that has no flaws, and you could just speak with her and let her know that you would prefer if she didn't use her phone while you two were getting to know one another. You could let her know that it made you feel like she was disinterested. Maybe she had something going on like a sick friend or relative as well and was a bit distracted... Well I would have given her a second chance but I also would have communicated that it was bothersome to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 It's definitely rude... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magalii 561 Posted May 19, 2017 Share Posted May 19, 2017 Ii is rude but I think that if the date went well (minus the phone problem), you could give her another chance. I think you should call her out on that and if she continues, just say bye to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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