cthchy 376 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 please share your opinions~~ I've been thinking about this for days but I honestly can't figure it out and would like to hear what others consider a true friend to be, whether it's someone who you're comfortable around or someone you can message anytime or anything really [emoji14] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I always categorize my friends based on the idea if I could/would call them at 3am crying my eyes out without feeling embarrased. If I can then theyre likely my closest friends. If I feel weird about it then theyre just friends... Yesterday I had a job interview and I was anxious, I called my friend up and she just got out of work and was tired as hell but still went all the way to my job interview and waited for an hour when I was inside. Like not many of my friends would do that, thats why she is my best friend~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cthchy 376 Posted May 17, 2017 Author Share Posted May 17, 2017 I always categorize my friends based on the idea if I could/would call them at 3am crying my eyes out without feeling embarrased. If I can then theyre likely my closest friends. If I feel weird about it then theyre just friend... Yesterday I had a job interview and I was anxious, I called my friend up and just got out of work and was tired as hell but still went all the way to my job interview and waited for an hour when I was inside. Like not many of my friends would do that, thats why she is my best friend~~ ahh.. That's nice In my case I can't even call a friend without being embarrassed but then again that's just me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 ahh.. That's nice In my case I can't even call a friend without being embarrassed but then again that's just me Ah thats unfortunate... Maybe it comes with time, my best friend that I was talking about, we know each other like 10 years~~ There were times (at the beginning) that I couldnt talk to her about my problems. But in the 10 years so much has happened that we eventually started talking about all the deep stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cthchy 376 Posted May 17, 2017 Author Share Posted May 17, 2017 Ah thats infortunate... I comes with time, my best friend that I was talking about, we know each other like 10 years~~I'm not the best friend so honestly now that I think about it my longest friendship was only about 5 years? But I don't even remember much about them since it was when I was really young (I know it from pictures..) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shaishaix 2,737 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone that know your flaws but still accept you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trigger 38 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone that know your flaws but still accept you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ByulHarangBona 35,161 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 A true friend is someone who will always be there for me through thin & thick. He/she must not be afraid to tell me when I am in the wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hqnnik 1,528 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone who knows my true self. I don't open up easily. When I let down my wall it's to friends who I want to be close to. And you know it's like I consider them my friend but... I feel like they think lower of me than I think of them. When I do open myself up to them, they don't take it seriously don't know how hard it is for me, to. Yeah, it always ends up me getting hurt in the process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabula X 636 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I always categorize my friends based on the idea if I could/would call them at 3am crying my eyes out without feeling embarrased. If I can then theyre likely my closest friends. If I feel weird about it then theyre just friends... Yesterday I had a job interview and I was anxious, I called my friend up and she just got out of work and was tired as hell but still went all the way to my job interview and waited for an hour when I was inside. Like not many of my friends would do that, thats why she is my best friend~~ Aww that's beautiful.. <3 I don't feel comfortable calling when I have troubles myself.. Or should I say I feel embarrassed and indebted as well. Hmm a friend is someone who truly accepts and tries to understand you for who you are, struggles, flaws and all and is sincere and honest to you, in the kind way,even if the truth sometimes hurts. So disagreements happen. Someone who genuinely listens, not to react, but to understand. Someone who doesn't solve your problems, because that's impossible, but is rooting for you and motivating you to solve it yourself. Someone who's there in good as well as bad times, knowing that just their presence is a huge comfort. A friend would never use your weaknesses and flaws against you in even in the most subtle ways. E.g.: Once I told a friend about my past and we came to the conclusion that I was slightly rebellious in my teens. Few years later, our mutual good friend had issues with her parents and we tried to give her some advice, but every time I tried to give my advice to our friend, the friend who knew about my past cut me off and emphasized more than necessary how she had never once been rebellious or defiant to her parents in her life and that our friend should really listen to her because she knows better. I just didn't have any room to speak to our friend whatsoever. To me that felt like she was implying that I didn't have the right to advice our friend because of my past. To avoid drama, I just shut up and discussed this issue later with her. It's something really small, but I felt like it was completely irrelevant to emphasize that and so I lost my trust in her at that time. I think trust is really important. To be able to be vulnerable and yet safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Aww that's beautiful.. <3 I don't feel comfortable calling when I have troubles myself.. Or should I say I feel embarrassed and indebted as well. Hmm a friend is someone who truly accepts and tries to understand you for who you are, struggles, flaws and all and is sincere and honest to you, in the kind way,even if the truth sometimes hurts. So disagreements happen. Someone who genuinely listens, not to react, but to understand. Someone who doesn't solve your problems, because that's impossible, but is rooting for you and motivating you to solve it yourself. Someone who's there in good as well as bad times, knowing that just their presence is a huge comfort. A friend would never use your weaknesses and flaws against you in even in the most subtle ways. E.g.: Once I told a friend about my past and we came to the conclusion that I was slightly rebellious in my teens. Few years later, our mutual good friend had issues with her parents and we tried to give her some advice, but every time I tried to give my advice to our friend, the friend who knew about my past cut me off and emphasized more than necessary how she had never once been rebellious or defiant to her parents in her life and that our friend should really listen to her because she knows better. I just didn't have any room to speak to our friend whatsoever. To me that felt like she was implying that I didn't have the right to advice our friend because of my past. To avoid drama, I just shut up and discussed this issue later with her. It's something really small, but I felt like it was completely irrelevant to emphasize that and so I lost my trust in her at that time. I think trust is really important. To be able to be vulnerable and yet safe. Awhhh and I totally agree with you, accepting and trust is really important. The thing I said about calling someone at 3am is just an example of thought. Its something I think about to see if someone is close to me or not. Its not that I really do it lol. I jusy think about X and ask myself would I get anxious/embarrased etc when I call them? No? Than he must be someone I feel comfortable with~~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabula X 636 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Awhhh and I totally agree with you, accepting and trust is really importants. The thing I said about calling someone at 3am is just an example of thought. Its something I think about to see if someone is close to me or not. Its not that I really do it lol. I jusy think about X and ask myself would I get anxious/embarrased etc when I call them? No? Than he must be someone I feel comfortable with~~ Yes, sometimes it's confusing whether someone really is a good friend despite being close to you and by putting it that way, you'd know good if that person is a good friend. That's a good indicator I guess. I'm afraid in life there really will be times that one has to actually call their friends at inconvenient times, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel. :/ I hope your interview went smooth. It's so nice that your friend was there with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sana Minatozaki 3,305 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 loyalty is the most important to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vion 11 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 loyalty is the most important to me This and how comfortable im with that person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tsega 5,646 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 someone that will be by your side for the good, the bad and the ugly. i'm lucky to have two of the most awesome friends in the world. the three of us have been together since we started walking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MuntiGrey 0 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 who always support you and ready to help when you need Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone that helps you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pleasure 2,956 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone who's very loyal. Loyalty is a huge factor for who I consider my friends. Someone who has my back like I have theirs. Dependable. Keeps my personal secrets just between us. I can trust them. Isn't afraid to be honest and upfront with me. I can count on them and lean on them when I'm going through struggles. Also someone I can enjoy spending time with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakurahanabira 6,634 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 someone who can respect me as a person even if we don't agree on the same things or have things in common all the time, trustworthy, dependable, and someone I can count on to have my back. Also someone who doesn't ditch me if I refuse to do something with them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nowhere Boy 2,431 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Someone that is always there for you, no matter the circumstances. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fluffyhairedbaek 4,740 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 someone whos there for you and you know you can be you around them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gold Digger 200 Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 someone who's super sweet, loyal, & loves shopping ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taengoo is our king 👑 69 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 Do they even exist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted May 22, 2017 Share Posted May 22, 2017 Someone I can trust and will be there for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cthchy 376 Posted May 23, 2017 Author Share Posted May 23, 2017 Do they even existnot for me at least Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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