Ellin 269 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 So I've gone on two dates with a new girl I've met. First was a short coffee date and the second was a walk in the park and dinner date. I feel bad for saying this, as I don't feel the right to judge anyone, but I just don't feel the attraction. You know, the "butterflies in the stomach" you have when you're truly "into" someone. However, we have gotten to know each other a bit and she seems like a nice/honest person. We also have similar musical interests. Is it necessary for me to tell her how I feel or should I just let things be and she will implicitly understand my intensions if I just not ask for a third date? I do feel like we can be friends. She just told me how much she enjoyed our 2nd date and I feel really bad atm that I have these thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deâ„“phina 14,904 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Go watch the movie and friend-zone her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasySteezy 860 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Did you kiss her or sleep with her or anything? If not you can just play it off as it being more of a friend thing. I mean you said she's nice. Don't tell her you don't feel an attraction or anything though. That shit hurts to hear. That will lead her to think you don't find her physically appealing. If I was that girl I'd be pretty hurt. I prefer it when a guy just gets really "busy" all the time. That might be just me though. I probably just gave shitty advice though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sully 4,318 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Be honest and tell her that you don't feel a spark. Not saying anything and just brushing her off in hopes she gets the hint won't help either one of you in the end. It'd better for her to know the truth than to deal with you suddenly disappearing. I personally would rather the guy be honest with me. I've been in situations where he just starts ignoring me and goes MIA and that is an awful time. It makes you wonder what you did wrong that you're being treated like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
courtingpoem 1,521 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Be honest but be gentle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yoonar 26 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 just be honest and say smethin like "hey I really enjoy ur company, but i don't really feel that special connection. I'd love to stay friends tho" blah blah blah if someone said that to me i'd be more than understanding Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DramaticTaeyeon" 2,851 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Marry her. See how you feel then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Downvotesforeveryone 1,601 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Just be honest and tell her! It'll hurt her now, but be thankful later. Don't lead her on and make her think you have feelings for her. You can't force a connection. But who am I to talk, every time this happens to me and I don't like the guy, I just end up ignoring them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
denizen mars 5,911 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 lol you have to be honest and tell people you don't like them (but in a diplomatic way), otherwise you're wasting their time and may end up in awkward situations ugh I've never felt attracted to a single person I've gone out on a date with though, pray 4 me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted May 14, 2017 Share Posted May 14, 2017 Better be direct rather than dragging on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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