Candykiss 2,124 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 I have heard horror stories of friendships being broken up because they see each other 24/7 Any personal experience/suggestions please Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NATURAL NI KOISHITE 2,184 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Not to be sounding like a goof but Chandler and Ross Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abel 1,273 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 If you guys are actually close friends, then it should be no problem since you should already know everything about them and what they're like. If you guys are just good/okay friends, be wary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArseneLupin 4,475 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 YEs this true, seeing a person 24/7 or too often makes it a boring/predictable relationship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D Kawaii Adventurs Of Ayyu 1,265 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 well i shared a house with my friends during uni for 2 years. we were in the same classes aswell. so 24/7. it was fun, and we helped eachother out alot. got on fine. its like they were a sibling. but i know of other friends who shared a house along with one of their girlfriends- had a massive falling out about chores and bills etc. it can go either way, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sunggyuluver 6,762 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 depending on your friendship with the person I'll just give my sister's experience. She moved in with a friend she knew for a few months. They stayed living together until the friend decided to move in with her boyfriend. Leaving my sister to pay for the bill until the apartment lease was up. After the whole incident, They stopped being friends cause of that and backstabbing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iv7 307 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 If it's a mature friend you absolutely, perhaps. It's that, the relationship changes completely when you 2 move into a shared space. It's a completely different situation than when you guys are out on public space, whether it's university or at a club party. Are you sure you feel comfortable getting to know his or her habits? What if he brings his/her boyfriend/girlfriends over? Lots of people do this and the relationship goes from best friends to enemies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinky 15,878 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 i shared a room with my best friend for 3 years when i was in university, we're in the same course as well so i see her 24/7 everything was good except for when we fought, lol things were so awkward at those times because even though we live under one roof, we pretend as if each other don't exist it's better to dorm with close friends than a stranger or any other casual friends that you didn't really know or understand. there's a big chance you can't adapt yourself to live with them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theadorkaken 20 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 You just have to give some time alone for both you and your friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mog 5,083 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 I think it depends on both parties, how close you are prior to moving in, and what your expectations as a housemate are. I've lived with friends before and discovered while they are really fun friends, as someone to live with they are completely horrible and I'd never deal with it again (and this only lasted ~4 months). Personally, I expect the person I live with to have the same concern for their responsibilities as I do. So when I notice they never care to clean up after themselves, lack consideration for the person living with them, or other things that I consider to be a "deal breaker", then they are no roommate material for me. It can work for some people. And for others, it doesn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 It's better than a stranger that you always hate and will hate. But good friends should be able to room together. That's like saying never share an apartment with a friend or never moving in with your boyfriend. Some ppl just don't get along for a long period of time and some work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgl 5,919 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 If you know each other well and what to expect, then you should be fine. If not... well things might go wrong, since everyone has certain habits that might be annoying to others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dinolover 3,610 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 first of all, you need to set some rules and never break it and also you need to be considerate and honest with each other... and communicate very often and your dorming years will be so magical. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iv7 307 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 And also if you are someone who has certain..."requirements" like a clean bathroom or quiet night or likes the place clean, wouldn't recommend dorming with someone else. Just live alone. Easy to get into fights especially in small things people don't think about like chores or friends coming over and others. Then things go sour. Then sour things turn your relationship into break up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
North and South 4,680 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Depends on the friend and their disposition. It can be a lot of fun, but if you know someone is a little picky, or has a tendency to be critical, it's safer to not because they will inevitably be mad at you for some reason or another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
...... 3,962 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 I wouldn't recommend rooming with a friend in Uni, not because it could ruin you friendship (which it can, i've seen it happen) ... but because it can be a security blanket that is detrimental to your personal growth in Uni imo. That constant familiarity will prevent you from experiencing a lot of things you should experience in Uni....believe me. You might think it won't ... but it will. I'd say, if you have to go to Uni with a friend at all... at least give each other some space so you can both figure your own stuff out... and make some of your own friends, and explore some of your own interests... you won't do those things if you room together. Anyway... your question is about how your relationship will be. It could be fine, odds are you'll butt heads sometimes...it's inevitable... depending on how strong your relationship is...you may or may not weather the storms, only you can answer that really. I've seen some nightmares, and successes (although the successes weren't in freshman year, they were the years following, rooming with friends you make whilst in Uni). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EunMinYeon 545 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 I went on holiday with a friend for 2 weeks and we had to share an apartment and by the end of it I wanted to strangle her so if I had to live with her 24/7... I would be arrested and imprisoned. But I still love her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoplz 2,333 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 YEs this true, seeing a person 24/7 or too often makes it a boring/predictable relationshipWhat!? Me my sister and cousin have the same classes. We see each other 5 times a day plus she comes over almost everyday for hours. And it's never boring. We could be kept in an empty room for 24 hours and we wouldn't get bored, so it really depends on how close u r to that personI get sick of seeing my other friends everyday tho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowy kiss 62 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Depends entirely if they are going to be slobs are not. If they expect me to clean up after them then I don't have the time. I love everything clean. But if I actually knew this person really well I would know if they were lazy or not. If it's just someone you've known for a little while then I would be against it probably. This is why I'd probably want to live alone I suppose. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coccuri 275 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 If both of you are still trying to decide together if it is a good idea, then you should invite your friend to spend a whole week at your place like...right now. Have him/her pack his/her things and live together, go to school together...'test the waters' to see how it is like. Or you could go to your friend's house whatever. Of course it is not really the same since you guys still have all your home-y elements like more space and parents/family around. But you guys might find something unfavorable/awkward about each other you didn't realize before. It will save you the trouble later if you guys clash in something now rather than later. And having a new person as a roomate isn't that bad. Your roomate might end up being a new friend, likely your first one too as you enter uni. And if both you and your friend end up with great roomates, you guys can introduce each other and you'll have double the amount of friends without even trying! LOL. If your roomate is horrible, then you guys can talk smack about your roomates idk. If your uni makes an attempt to pair people with similar habits/interests through surveys and whatnot then I would say go for it. If your uni assigns roomates completely random, then I probably wouldn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popsugar 2,354 Posted February 28, 2014 Share Posted February 28, 2014 Depends on the person and your current relationship with them, like how much time you usually spend with them and if you are really open with each other about everything. If you are the kind of person who doesn't speak their mind about things bothering them, then be careful, because problems will snowball. In my case, it did NOT work out. At all. -_- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamarao 1,345 Posted March 1, 2014 Share Posted March 1, 2014 yeah its kinda boring to see your friend 24/7.I think if we dont share a room we can have a lot of thing to talk when we meet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetjohoney 2,980 Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 You may learn things about your friend that you never wished to know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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