Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 When a guy works up the courage and puts his pride aside to ask out someone. They reply with 'no but we can be friends, hope you understand' Or some bs like that .... it isnt just 'No' perhaps they think its nice to say be friends? But it aint. Dont try and say not all girls do that most girls do keep them around. I dont get why they keep someone around who has feelings for them? Dont you all know that unrequited love is painful? Why string them along just to feel better about yourself that someone likes you? I wish girls would be more straightforward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only 1 U Need Connoisseur 6,671 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 care to explain why men keep pursing woman who have no interest in them as well then? because it happens way too often as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NSFL 821 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 I say it because I feel like just saying "no" is rude, idk I'm really bad at gauging what guys want Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knick knack 9,413 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 Because guys flip out if you don't do it nicely lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Ayy Big Gay 8,172 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 I did that lol And I didn't keep him around to feel better myself? I valued his friendship, that's why I wanted to stay his friend. I don't get what's wrong with it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haze 10,915 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 String them along?? Why reverse it onto the girl when the guy so willingly chooses to keep tagging along. More like you guys need to quit playing the nice card and victims in all aspects upon getting "friendzoned". Move the fuck on if you can't handle the heartache, the person who turned you down doesn't owe you any obligations. Christ men like you sound like children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
respect 1,151 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 cause they need attention, validation, and a guy that will spend money and drive their bitchass around Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelanatedBeauty 13,664 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 cause they need attention, validation, and a guy that will spend money and drive their bitchass around wow.. who hurt you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 I did that lol And I didn't keep him around to feel better myself? I valued his friendship, that's why I wanted to stay his friend. I don't get what's wrong with it... Well i dont want to offend you but, .. well GIRL.. its painful to be friends with someone who wants to be more than friend with you, they may keep you because they hope some day you'll feel the same..but they delulu ofc. Thats why u have to say no and never. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 String them along?? Why reverse it onto the girl when the guy so willingly chooses to keep tagging along. More like you guys need to quit playing the nice card and victims in all aspects upon getting "friendzoned". Move the fuck on if you can't handle the heartache, the person who turned you down doesn't owe you any obligations. Christ men like you sound like children. You need humility, guys are often stupid around girls they admire. They arent strong enough to do the logical thing... thats why the girl has to stop playing with him its not hard to say no not interested, do you understand??? Dont play stupid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 Because guys flip out if you don't do it nicely lmao Nicely okay .. but i dont get why they keep them around.. explain that once.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knick knack 9,413 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 Nicely okay .. but i dont get why they keep them around.. explain that once.. Because they want to actually be friends? Isn't it worse for a guy to drop a girl as a friend just because she's not interested romantically? Pretending to be her friend or being so loose of a friend that you'll drop her just because she doesn't want to date you is worse imo If it's really so hard not dating her, just straight up tell her that you're not interested in just friendship. Guys like this have to get over themselves. It's not her job to cater to you. Don't want to be just friends? Let her know that you only have romantic interest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kazed 425 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 They reply with 'no but we can be friends, hope you understand' Wait - they said no, didn't they. Is a "no" not straight forward enough? Are they supposed to say "no, gtfo and never let me see you again?" A no is a no. Just because a girl still wants the boy as a FRIEND should not make him think that just by waiting foolishly by her side he will stand a chance. She said no, he willingly waited. Whose fault is it really? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 Because they want to actually be friends? Isn't it worse for a guy to drop a girl as a friend just because she's not interested romantically? Pretending to be her friend or being so loose of a friend that you'll drop her just because she doesn't want to date you is worse imo If it's really so hard not dating her, just straight up tell her that you're not interested in just friendship. Guys like this have to get over themselves. It's not her job to cater to you. Don't want to be just friends? Let her know that you only have romantic interest Hey hey I know guys are stupid.. But girls kindness for a guys weak heart should exist!! If she knows he is hoping why keep him around when there no chance?? He is delulu and wrong yes.. but if the girl takes advantage of that then she is not good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellin 269 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 they enjoy the validation they get from these guys. by being "just friends", they can enjoy the benefits of a relationship without putting the effort back that a girlfriend would. In essence, they keep you around until they find a guy they truly like. guys do it sometimes as well. of course I'm speaking in general terms, and not everyone is like that. if you're a guy in this situation, you move on if friendship is not what you want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haze 10,915 Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 You need humility, guys are often stupid around girls they admire. They arent strong enough to do the logical thing... thats why the girl has to stop playing with him its not hard to say no not interested, do you understand??? Dont play stupid. Humility?? Lmao how old are you, they're not obligated to hold your hand and take all these damn precautions when turning someone down. That's just common sense, it has nothing to do with humility. You can't even use a case as trivial as this in regards to humility lol. Grow up, you're the one with this stupid concept like some fragile wallflower. Like I said, move on if you can't handle the heart ache or don't care for the friendship aspects in it, simple as that. No ones holding you at gun point to stick around. " playing " with him? You sure that isn't your disillusions of the girl simply being fucking nice when the guy can't take a hint. Women are labeled as bitches no matter the way they turn down a guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 Well, I'd suppose every girl would have her reasons but the guys are also at fault for lingering around them. Back again to the girls perspective they might not want to appear rude or mean but at the same time I guess that sort of thing could be good for their ego if it happens to them very often. In a sense they get to control them this way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 Oml I feel tension here and I didn't read all of the comments Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fizzi 1,219 Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 That's just courtesy , it doesn't always mean they want you to be around them. You would feel even more bad if she straightforwardly says NO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 27, 2017 Author Share Posted April 27, 2017 That's just courtesy , it doesn't always mean they want you to be around them. You would feel even more bad if she straightforwardly says NO Idk man straight no is nice.. I rejected many girls in my life it was always just No. Oml I feel tension here and I didn't read all of the comments Pfft... u dont reply me anynore r00d bish Well, I'd suppose every girl would have her reasons but the guys are also at fault for lingering around them. Back again to the girls perspective they might not want to appear rude or mean but at the same time I guess that sort of thing could be good for their ego if it happens to them very often. In a sense they get to control them this way. I see u are smart.. +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessYunikoon 10 Posted May 16, 2017 Share Posted May 16, 2017 Because I mean it? I've often been asked out by friends, and I refused for the sake of our friendship or because I am just not in love with them? Mostly I give them alone-time after, so I don't text or talk to them. I am sure they will come back as soon their feelings are over. With non-friends I am a bit more harsh because it are often boys I only met once at a convention and I am mostly not interested. I also don't want to give them hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magicmushrooms 7 Posted June 2, 2017 Share Posted June 2, 2017 I'm terrible at confrontation so I'll ignore the guy. Which is worse? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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