What's your opinion on suicide?

[kxjay]

i know this may be a touchy subject, but i just got done watching 13 reasons why last night and it really made me realize just how much of a huge impact you can have on others by your smallest of actions

 

and im not really that big on the whole high-school genre of media, but this series was extremely well done and if any of you havent seen it, i highly recommend it

 

so on that matter, how do you, people of onehallyu, feel about suicide?

[Oli London]

I understand.

[PATAMON]

suicide is a sin.. and need to prevent ..

[feel it yum]

I feel that people should have the right to choose when to end their lives.

However, I can understand the issues and frustrations if suicide is legalize/well accepted by society. Suicide is simply running away from problems and someone else will have to take the burden and it will be unfair for the ones that choose to stay alive.

[Sdm]

I don't understand it but maybe that's because I've never reached that point, however bad things have gotten for me.

[YNRA]

im watching 13 reasons why too, i never read the books though. rn im on ep 6

 

 

i really think people should have the option to end their life if they want to. 

if the government isnt going to help people who want to live stay alive, i dont see why they try to keep people who dont want to live from dying 

oh besides so they can pay taxes 

 

 

 

i feel like a lot of times i cant have too much sympathy because i cant relate/sympathize to some people. like some people just dramatisize everything in their life, and cant see the solution to their problem is right in front of them. not everyone, but god highschool was full of bitches like that. who cried over shit that didnt matter... 

[Kanan]

As someone who has attempted suicide before, I feel like it's an issue that the world needs to discuss.

 

Especially for kids who get bullied. I wouldn't have wound up there in the first place had my teachers actually done something instead of saying "that's not nice/kids will be kids!!!"

 

Mental health in general goes swept under the rug by a lot of people. It's time we talk about it and try to get help for people who need it.

[Lil Ayy Big Gay]

I was really suicidal when I was 9 years (I had depression and an abusive father) so I understand the feeling since I felt it before. 

 

I get kind of annoyed when people say its 'selfish' cause when I felt those feelings, I felt me dying was what people wanted, I wasn't really thinking of myself, I wanted to die cause I felt like my dad wanted me to die. Then again, some kids aren't dealing with abuse like I was.

 

 

 

All I can say is don't give up. Keep pushing. Suicide ain't worth it, boo.

[kxjay]

I feel that people should have the right to choose when to end their lives.

However, I can understand the issues and frustrations if suicide is legalize/well accepted by society. Suicide is simply running away from problems and someone else will have to take the burden and it will be unfair for the ones that choose to stay alive.

definitely

yes in a way, it's their lives and are free to make their own life choices

but on the other hand, like you said, the consequences and the back fall everyone else around you will receive is unfair to them

like, your friends or family discovering your body, having to clean up the mess and the trauma and stress they'll be placed under

[peachtea]

I understand it. People who commit suicide are not selfish or cowards, a lot people honestly believe they have no other choice to escape their demons. What is more disturbing is that society basically turns a blind eye on the reasons why people commit suicide.

[♥SNS-Shinomiya♥]

I find it very selfish, but given that it's preventable that is what drives me to try and be as kind as I can to others.

[Downvotesforeveryone]

I lost my dad to suicide in 2015, and it split my life in two. Like...now it's what happened before his suicide, and after. Like everything revolves around it now. I just wished he knew he was loved dearly, and that he wasn't alone. My one regret in life.

 

If anyone needs someone to talk to, I am all ears!

[Northern]

I understand.

 

[kxjay]

im watching 13 reasons why too, i never read the books though. rn im on ep 6

 

 

i really think people should have the option to end their life if they want to. 

if the government isnt going to help people who want to live stay alive, i dont see why they try to keep people who dont want to live from dying 

oh besides so they can pay taxes 

the show is just going to get better

 

As someone who has attempted suicide before, I feel like it's an issue that the world needs to discuss.

 

Especially for kids who get bullied. I wouldn't have wound up there in the first place had my teachers actually done something instead of saying "that's not nice/kids will be kids!!!"

 

Mental health in general goes swept under the rug by a lot of people. It's time we talk about it and try to get help for people who need it.

spot on

i can understand on the same hand because at that age, middle to high school, your school life is basically your whole life at that point

whether it be clubs, sports, your friends, so in a way in a way the negative impact that is placed on you at that time would definitely feel much bigger than what others may see

and suicide is definitely an issue that we as society should really take more actions on

i know adults usually say to just brush it off, but adult brain and teenage brains work in different ways

[CantabileCross]

I had severe clinical depression in high school and back then I felt like offing myself every day. With the help of medication it took years to get over, and even now I think "I want to kill myself" in passing, arbitrarily and without meaning to, even though I am currently of the (very, very grounded) belief that life is immeasurably beautiful and always, always worth it. I do however believe that it's a selfish thought and a selfish act, but I also believe it's never inherently wrong to be selfish, and that it's often uncontrollable circumstances that construct that selfishness. Besides, everyone's selfish in misery.

[kxjay]

I lost my dad to suicide in 2015, and it split my life in two. Like...now it's what happened before his suicide, and after. Like everything revolves around it now. I just wished he knew he was loved dearly, and that he wasn't alone. My one regret in life.

 

If anyone needs someone to talk to, I am all ears!

i am sorry for your loss

[Nowhere Boy]

Permanent solution to a temporary problem in most situations.

[Honeystan]

I wish I could stop thinking about it but it's so hard to care about anything. I wasn't even bullied or anything like that. My childhood wasn't great, but it also wasn't terrible. My life doesn't suck, but it's also not daises and daffodils. I just find ways to distract myself everyday. 

[f00l]

i just finish ep 1 of 13 reasons why, i'm thinking about suicide a lots, i still try to live a better life, hope someday it will go away

[raoor]

I don't find it selfish at all. you'll know it when you've experienced it. When you feel like everythings going down, no one's on your side & everyone just don't care about you + being abused.. it's just a matter of time that you contemplate on ending your life. For me, the smallest actions really did help. Plus, I believe that God doesn't burden you beyond which that you can bear, so I've put it as Him, thinking I am strong enough to be tested like this.

 

To all people going through the same thing, I hope you find strength & don't give up

[TWLND]

Suicide is not a 'solution' but a 'misfortune' to other people especially the family members, friends & lover.

[starseeker]

I think it is heart breaking that some people are so beaten up by life that they can only see the option of ending their life.

But also ending your life will not solve anything

[Lil Ayy Big Gay]

I just wanna add, don't do this alone (go through suicidal thought). You need to vent, you need to talk. Your silence on the issue could be your killer.

 

I had therapy when I was 9 and took Lexapro, I eventually got better when I started high school. Its a battle but its worth it.

And it doesn't matter how much it costs, find a way into therapy.

 

 

I can honestly say if I didn't get help, I probably would have killed myself. I know that sounds sad as fuck, but its true.

 

You need professional help most of the time. Just sucks it's so costly.

[Kanan]

 

Yeah, exactly. Too many people have...i don't know, toxic mindsets when it comes to the topic. It's a sensitive topic.

 

A lot of people, even here mention thinking about family and friends. I agree that suicide is selfish but really, the person is in a state of mind where they likely don't think about other people at all. Its a dangerous line of thinking to assume that the person is only doing it to spite their family and friends. The person needs psychatriac help. Guilt is a dangerous thing and may be what drives them over the edge.

 

TW under the spoiler but it's one of the reasons why I'm a serious advocate for mental health reform.

 

Each time I attempted (13, 18, 23), the only thing going through my mind was that I felt overwhelmed, alone, and like the world would be better off without me. Most recently (2 months ago) i wasn't eating, I wasn't sleeping, I had panic attacks constantly, I was falling behind in my classes...Honestly the last thing i could think of was other people/my family and friends. When I was in the hospital I could only describe it as feeling like I was standing in a hurricane with an umbrella full of holes while everyone yelled at me for being wet.

 

Luckily, I was able to get help (albeit through legally mandatory psychiatric hospitalization/evaluation which isn't pretty, but that's a story for another time) I'm better...ish...Now, but it's legit not the most wonderful place to be mentally.

 

[Vanille]

It's the only that can save me. I've tried everything but nothing can make me feel better. No one would care anyway. I have no friends and my family literally said they wanna get rid of me cause I'm nothing but a waste of space, which is true.

The only thing that keeps me from doing it is the fact I might fail again. I tried it a few times before and the fact that I failed makes me feel like a even bigger failure than I already was.