acire 736 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 hi i'm in a......................situation basically i'm """""""friends""""""" with this guy a grade above me and he's really cute and funny but we don't talk much anymore because he's not in any of my classes this semester problem is i have really bad anxiety so it's hard for me to approach him anyway and not to be negative or anything but i've already accepted that it'll never get anywhere, especially since he's moving after this year but see there's a girl that he asked to homecoming months ago who totally blew him off because she got a boyfriend. he joked about it a lot but it was kinda obvious he was really sad. this same girl just broke up with her boyfriend and i heard a rumor, a bit of unconfirmed gossip if you will, that she asked him to prom now because she doesn't have a date i know this is literally none of my business but she just broke up with her boyfriend and she has a history of being on-and-off with her last couple of boyfriends..............................do you see what i'm saying here i don't want him to get hurt but i don't want to overstep and i don't even know how true this is so i'm not really sure what to do??? he deserves better but i'm also....idk.....biased in thinking that i know i should leave it alone and knowing me i won't actually do anything......but it's been bothering me for a while now and i needed to type it out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GalaxunnieSuperOppa 5,997 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 I think voicing your concern over the situation will actually show much you care about him. If he smarticle about these kind of things, he'll see that you just want the best for him and you don't want him to get hurt. If you even need to explain that it would do ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FactMan 2,366 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 As a guy, I can say that having a friend with your thoughts is priceless. Do not waste this opportunity to be a freaking angel. Indifference actually makes a lot of damage. Just be honest and tell him about your concerns. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Yes, you are biased in thinking that because nothing you said about that girl makes her seem like a bad person, unless you know something about her that you didn't write. Either ask him out yourself or just leave it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Ayy Big Gay 8,172 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 if she JUST broke up with her boyfriend and she's already tryna land another, its a bit of an eye raiser, yea but you said you haven't talked in a bit, I think for that, its not your place to tell him cause it will come off weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acire 736 Posted April 7, 2017 Author Share Posted April 7, 2017 Yes, you are biased in thinking that because nothing you said about that girl makes her seem like a bad person, unless you know something about her that you didn't write. Either ask him out yourself or just leave it. oh i wasn't trying to paint her as a bad person, i actually like her a lot. i just mean that i'm not sure if she'll get back with her boyfriend before prom, it's exactly a month away. it's ofc her choice to date whoever she wants but it's risky to ask someone to prom if you know they like you just because you need a replacement date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acire 736 Posted April 7, 2017 Author Share Posted April 7, 2017 if she JUST broke up with her boyfriend and she's already tryna land another, its a bit of an eye raiser, yea but you said you haven't talked in a bit, I think for that, its not your place to tell him cause it will come off weird. yes that's exactly what i was thinking. we still joke around occasionally but i don't think we close enough where i can say something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celestial_stxr 784 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 Talk to him about your feelings. He sounds like a nice guy. I'm sure you can try to help him see the situation more clearly and how he shouldn't be some girl's rebound because her boyfriend broke up with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 oh i wasn't trying to paint her as a bad person, i actually like her a lot. i just mean that i'm not sure if she'll get back with her boyfriend before prom, it's exactly a month away. it's ofc her choice to date whoever she wants but it's risky to ask someone to prom if you know they like you just because you need a replacement date. Okay, if I were in this situation I'd just tell him all that but then I figure he would wonder why you feel that way. Are you absolutely against confessing your feelings towards him? Because honestly it seems like you just don't want him to go with her because you like him. I could be wrong of course but yeah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acire 736 Posted April 7, 2017 Author Share Posted April 7, 2017 Okay, if I were in this situation I'd just tell him all that but then I figure he would wonder why you feel that way. Are you absolutely against confessing your feelings towards him? Because honestly it seems like you just don't want him to go with her because you like him. I could be wrong of course but yeah. i don't want to confess because not only is he graduating but he's going into the navy so after this year i'm most likely never going to see him again. i'm totally fine with him dating other people because of that but the thing is he liked her enough to ask her to homecoming before and apparently he liked her enough to accept the prom invite even though she blew him off before so i don't want him to get hurt if she gets back together with her boyfriend. i think i am a little jealous though, you're probably right about that a bit too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 i don't want to confess because not only is he graduating but he's going into the navy so after this year i'm most likely never going to see him again. i'm totally fine with him dating other people because of that but the thing is he liked her enough to ask her to homecoming before and apparently he liked her enough to accept the prom invite even though she blew him off before so i don't want him to get hurt if she gets back together with her boyfriend. i think i am a little jealous though, you're probably right about that a bit too.Damn.....Well, what type of relationship would they have if he's going into the army anyway? Chances are they'd breakup anyway. And if he gets hurt, he will get over it, I know you really like him but since you don't plan on confessing, and telling him your concerns would make him suspicious most likely, idk what else you could do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acire 736 Posted April 7, 2017 Author Share Posted April 7, 2017 Damn..... Well, what type of relationship would they have if he's going into the army anyway? Chances are they'd breakup anyway. And if he gets hurt, he will get over it, I know you really like him but since you don't plan on confessing, and telling him your concerns would make him suspicious most likely, idk what else you could do? yes i think it'd be odd if i said something to him now, so i don't think i will unless he tries to talk to me about it, which is unlikely tbh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 7, 2017 Share Posted April 7, 2017 yes i think it'd be odd if i said something to him now, so i don't think i will unless he tries to talk to me about it, which is unlikely tbh. I just wish you the best then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 It's sweet you're thinking of him The fact she just went through a break up and is already going for another guy(it seems?) is pretty odd I think you should talk about the situation with the guy if you feel comfortable to do so It's good to let out your worries Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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