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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now, we're lovey-dovey and all that, our relationship is going smoothly with no arguments yet actually.

 

So here's where it gets kinda complicated. He doesn't know I'm such a die-hard EXO fangirl, nor does he know I actually stan kpop or how much of a hoe I become when it comes to Xiumin. We met through our college buddies, we're from the same university but different colleges and it was just actually a coincidence when we first met since none of my friends are actually pretty close with him or his circle, just acquaintances.

 

I'm a demure and a bit soft-spoken girl irl, not because I'm the uberly nice type or anything just, I'm really shy especially when it's my friends' friends that i don't know of or never been acquainted, just like my boyfriend before we met so Idk maybe he thinks of me as this sweet vanilla church girl or smtg altho I'm pretty sure I've shown my thot side to him as well but that's not what matters.

 

What I'm afraid of is if he knows the kpop side of me, would he dislike me for it? I have/had tons of shirtless pics on my phone and in my laptop but I've hidden them under different folders just in case my bf plays with my phone/laptop. I hid all the posters (esp the huge ass shirtless xiumin), albums, photocards, etc etc when he came over to my room and now I feel like I'm hiding smtg bad from him. He's my first ever bf, i'm afraid to do anything that would make him dislike me or smtg, would he hate it if I came out? Should I do it bit by bit by showing or introducing him to kpop first? Altho Im afraid if he'd think badly of it or worse, if he'd get turned off. I've read some stories here on OH that their bfs didn't like them stanning EXO or other boy groups. I'm afraid of a lot of things, I don't even have the energy left to arrange my thoughts (and this messy thread) properly rn, help a fam out juseyo

 

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Thats nice of you to be considerate.. but yeah he will definitely not like that. So just keep hiding it. Lol

 

Edit - the music in albums all that i dont think he will care but the shirtless thing big no trust me.

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I can understand why guys wouldn't want you stanning Exo or a boy group (jealousy) but if you really love kpop you shouldn't hide it from him! I don't think you should dump it all on him at once but try to be casual about it. I think he'll be annoyed if you talk about it constantly but if you just explain that you have an interest in it and tell him about your favorite groups, and maybe show him your albums if he seems interested, it will be alright [emoji173]

 

You probably shouldn't let him see all your shirtless pictures though, just my two cents (â—Ž_â—Ž;)

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If he can't accept your interests, then it needs to stop. Why like a guy who can't accept the fact that you have different interests? You like Kpop and you don't have to be scared of him. If he's a good guy, he'd probably be okay with it.

 

 

But I mean I've never had a boyfriend so.... [emoji24]

 

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Just hide the nipple folder~

ASDFJKAKA I HAVE OTHER STUFF IN THERE AS WELL, ARMPITS, BULGE, THIGHS ETC :cry:

 

delete the exo nudes from your phone

I DONT THINK I CAN :rlytearpls:

 

Thats nice of you to be considerate.. but yeah he will definitely not like that. So just keep hiding it. Lol

 

Edit - the music in albums all that i dont think he will care but the shirtless thing big no trust me.

I don't think it's me being considerate at all but rather just being afraid if he'd think weirdly of me if I stan kpop or smtg.

 

confront him about it. i mean its just music, i dont think he would leave you for it or else am beat

 

and better get rid of the shirtless pics just in case smile.png

I still don't want to, just gonna put a password on that folder and say it's porn lol.
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ASDFJKAKA I HAVE OTHER STUFF IN THERE AS WELL, ARMPITS, BULGE, THIGHS ETC :cry:

I DONT THINK I CAN :rlytearpls:

I don't think it's me being considerate at all but rather just being afraid if he'd think weirdly of me if I stan kpop or smtg.

I still don't want to, just gonna put a password on that folder and say it's porn lol.

Rename all the suspect stuff to Art Homework :dave:

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I can understand why guys wouldn't want you stanning Exo or a boy group (jealousy) but if you really love kpop you shouldn't hide it from him! I don't think you should dump it all on him at once but try to be casual about it. I think he'll be annoyed if you talk about it constantly but if you just explain that you have an interest in it and tell him about your favorite groups, and maybe show him your albums if he seems interested, it will be alright [emoji173]

 

You probably shouldn't let him see all your shirtless pictures though, just my two cents (â—Ž_â—Ž;)

I'm planning to but I can't help thinking of what ifs :cry:

 

If he can't accept your interests, then it needs to stop. Why like a guy who can't accept the fact that you have different interests? You like Kpop and you don't have to be scared of him. If he's a good guy, he'd probably be okay with it.

 

 

But I mean I've never had a boyfriend so.... [emoji24]

 

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He's a good guy, he's never been a jerk.

well act like you're just a casual listener , don't let him see those thirsty ass pics

Lmao I've hidden them already.
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well act like you're just a casual listener , don't let him see those thirsty ass pics

 

That's what I did when I was with my ex. He never knew about it, I didn't feel the need to tell him lol Well I actually don't download anything since everything is in my tumblr likes lol

well act like you're just a casual listener , don't let him see those thirsty ass pics

 

That's what I did when I was with my ex. He never knew about it, I didn't feel the need to tell him lol Well I actually don't download anything since everything is in my tumblr likes lol

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Rename all the suspect stuff to Art Homework :dave:

Lmaoooo I've already done it tho I forgot and deleted that folder altogether, the one i told you and Sully about the other timeee now I can't put them inside those paperworks folder since i'm really forgetful
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ASDFJKAKA I HAVE OTHER STUFF IN THERE AS WELL, ARMPITS, BULGE, THIGHS ETC :cry:

 

I DONT THINK I CAN :rlytearpls:

 

I don't think it's me being considerate at all but rather just being afraid if he'd think weirdly of me if I stan kpop or smtg.

 

I still don't want to, just gonna put a password on that folder and say it's porn lol.

Well you dont want to be turned off.. so in a way thats being considerate to him ^^

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Well, I'm married and my beau knows I'm crazy about Infinite and, recently, BAP. Like we listen to kpop every single day and if those boys ever come here I am buying that concert ticket. He's cool with it, and I never tried to hide it or make it a big deal or act all guilty. I draw the line on saving pictures though...it's probably just me but that almost feels like cheating. When we first got into a relationship I deleted every folder I had and honestly never regretted it.

 

Your relationship is still very new. I suggest break it to him slowly, see how he reacts...like let him know you listen to kpop first and these are the groups you listen to. Just say it very matter-of-factly, like it's no big deal. Then when you're ready you can either tell him about your collection or find that you don't need those pictures anymore and get rid of them :p

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