Igbygrl 0 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 So would you date someone is abusing drugs? My story: I dated one through a coworker who played matchmaker between me and her friend. Thinking my coworker had a decent judgement on character, I let her hook me up with her guy friend. His name was Michael. I met him a couple of times because he worked right across the street from us. He was very charming, polite and seemed like a down to earth guy. When I finally went on a date with him the first warning sign I noticed was when he picked me up while he was high. AND he was smoking the cannabis in the car. I ignored my better judgement because my excuse was maybe this is his way to relax from first date nervousness? Second and third date was at his place after work. He would smoke up the weed like it was freaking vitamins. We spooned and made out but we never went passed third base. Afterwards he would text me while high and it was always around 9pm to 10pm. He would horny text me and tried his best to make me his booty call. I told him to take a cold shower and text me out again when he was sober. After that he ghosted me. To tell you the truth I was really relieved that he ghosted on me. I was trying my best to see how I can break this off without getting messy because my coworker hooked us up. But I also saw my coworker in another light. She probably smoked with him a bunch of times, and learning what bit of conversation I had with Michael they also hooked up many times. She was his booty call when he was desperate! Now don't get me wrong. I smoke up too but only recreationally. Maybe once or twice a month if I am at a party or hanging out, if someone offers it I will take a puff. But to witness actually people who are so engrossed and in denial of their own addiction was a real eye opener. So please share me some stories if you had dated a former addict or someone who was in denial and you had to walk away? Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M0VH 9,989 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 ghosted you..wow never heard of that ...cool~ good thing it never became serious, obviously he wasn't looking for anything but a booty call. And that co-worker of yours,... does not play nice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nsfwwww 5,298 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 I almost dated this guy when I used to live in my old college town until I found out he was a cocaine addict It's really sad honestly, he would make excuses for it by saying he was young and in college, and also that town had a reputation surrounding it about how much cocaine is abused by people living there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uzukii 2,626 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 I dated a meth addict who was 10 years my senior when I was 16-18, it's definitely the worst mistake I've ever made. When he was high he was the sweetest person, but when he came down it was absolute hell. He was extremely paranoid and jealous. Once threw his phone across the room because I hung out with his friend without asking him for permission. Thinking about it now, I should've walked out sooner. He tried to "quit" multiple times but drugs is a hard habit to quit. Their brain is so dependent on it that they'll need it to function. I know so many people who stay in this type of relationship because of love, but it's really not worth it. It's not worth your mental and physical energy to stick with someone so toxic. Your guy might just be a pothead, but you never know when it'll lead up to something more. Good thing that he ghosted you. Personally, I think it's best to avoid anyone who does drugs. You should live your life clean too. Why have things like that cloud your mind and judgement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asteria 1,310 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 I dated a guy who was an alcoholic and did numerous drugs. The worst part was we had known each other for so long and I knew exactly why he was the way he was but no one could help him. Long story short, the last time I saw him it was me, him and his best friend. He started to get violent (throwing a chair and trying to throw a table at his friend, biting me and pushing me etc.) The two started fighting and his friend pinned him down and told me to run away. I do talk to him rarely now (this was around 5 years ago and he's recovered) but he was so drunk and high at that time, to this day he still doesn't remember that he even saw me during that summer holiday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sapphic 1,501 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 I dated a meth addict who was 10 years my senior when I was 16-18, it's definitely the worst mistake I've ever made. When he was high he was the sweetest person, but when he came down it was absolute hell. He was extremely paranoid and jealous. Once threw his phone across the room because I hung out with his friend without asking him for permission. Thinking about it now, I should've walked out sooner. He tried to "quit" multiple times but drugs is a hard habit to quit. Their brain is so dependent on it that they'll need it to function. I know so many people who stay in this type of relationship because of love, but it's really not worth it. It's not worth your mental and physical energy to stick with someone so toxic. Your guy might just be a pothead, but you never know when it'll lead up to something more. Good thing that he ghosted you. Personally, I think it's best to avoid anyone who does drugs. You should live your life clean too. Why have things like that cloud your mind and judgement. I'm glad you got yourself out of that situation. It's always a massive struggle to leave an abusive partner so you should never feel bad about "not leaving sooner" - you got yourself out that situation regardless. As for the weed thing, it's really dependent on your disposition. I know people who smoke weed casually and they're not effected by it, or people who smoke it because it genuinely relieves pain like arthritis and other things that normal medication can't help with. However, some people already have mental health problems and weed can aggravate that. To anyone reading: If you're in a state or country where weed is legal please check up with a doctor about your mental health and how likely it is for you to develop issues when smoking weed. It may seem fun to get high but anything that you do that alters how you are is a possible danger - including smoking and alcohol. It's all about moderation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 If they can't spend a single day without smoking I wouldn't be able to take that person seriously. I also smoke and know plenty of people who smoke a lot but to me is not a desirable state to be all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Igbygrl 0 Posted April 2, 2017 Author Share Posted April 2, 2017 ghosted you..wow never heard of that ...cool~ good thing it never became serious, obviously he wasn't looking for anything but a booty call. And that co-worker of yours,... does not play nice. Yeah I just learned what the term ghosting meant recently too. It's when someone you are interested in or are going out with just disappears on you. Like you will text them and you know that text got delivered and read but they never responded back to you. Or if they block your number without an explanation for no reason at all. Ghosting sucks if you are the one getting ghosted. Especially if you thought you had a real connection. But sometimes it works out in the end if the person you were seeing was a fucking loser lol Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Igbygrl 0 Posted April 2, 2017 Author Share Posted April 2, 2017 Your guy might just be a pothead, but you never know when it'll lead up to something more. Good thing that he ghosted you. Personally, I think it's best to avoid anyone who does drugs. You should live your life clean too. Why have things like that cloud your mind and judgement. He was a functioning pothead. On our third date I slept over his place cuz he was too high to drive me home the night before. When he was getting ready for work in the morning, he lit up a small roach blunt :/ He seriously needed a little high to function at work. So asked him why doesn't he drink coffee like everyone else, and he told me he had to stop drinking coffee cuz he was getting so addicted to the caffeine. And you are right to what else it could lead to, cuz he asked me one time if I ever did coke. I told him I don't do anything harder than weed recreationally. I then asked him if he does coke. He just smiled and said yes "recreationally" I Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bom 2,161 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 I was the addict. I was addicted to sleeping pills. They made me a horrible person, I wonder how my boyfriend put up with me all that time. But he was the reason I got clean, it will have been 1 year in 4 days and I couldn't be happier with my life. Don't date an addict who isn't willing to change, it will only lead you to misery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted April 5, 2017 Share Posted April 5, 2017 I don't think so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Igbygrl 0 Posted April 6, 2017 Author Share Posted April 6, 2017 No. Okay? And....?no offense but I asked for people to actually contribute their own experiences to dating an addict. One syllable contributions are a thanks but no thanks. Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Igbygrl 0 Posted April 6, 2017 Author Share Posted April 6, 2017 I don't think so... Okay?....And....? Like seriously if you have nothing to contribute to this thread then why even bother to comment? Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 Okay?....And....? Like seriously if you have nothing to contribute to this thread then why even bother to comment? Sent from my iPad using OneHallyu mobile app Your first question was literally So would you date someone is abusing drugs? It's a yes or no question I haven't had an experience dating a drug addict, sorry? But I answered a question you asked, so there's no need to be rude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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