ethereal 20,923 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 so, i was in a class with this guy last semester. after a week of sitting in the same vicinity of each other, he traded spots with his friend and started sitting next to me. we became casual acquaintances and talked in class often. i started getting a feeling that he may have a crush on me and really wanted him to, idk, ask me on a study date or something. but alas, he didn't. then, i started getting a crush on him because he's always so nice to me and he's the goofy type that makes situations more lively with his dopiness. now, i've run into him outside of class a few times since our campus is relatively small, but unfortunately we're both commuters :(, and he always smiles at me and calls my name and comes to me like a puppy. and of course being the moody person i am, i always scoff at him but i walk and talk with him anyway. just mindless stuff. so i keep thinking, maybe he thinks i don't like him, because i always give him that type of reaction. so, the other day i saw him sitting with another girl at lunch i got a little jealous so i walked past him and pretended like i didn't see him even tho i know he saw me. i was kind of hoping he would call out to me but of course he didn't. but then when i went somewhere else i couldn't find a seat so i walked back to where he was sitting and lucky me, the girl had left. so i went up to him and asked if we could eat lunch together (he wasn't done eating). oh the look on his face. he was so cute. and while we ate together that was the fist real real convo i've had with him and now i'm crushing even hader. he was telling me he failed the first test in the class we're both taking (tho we're no longer in the same section) and i did well on that test and i wanted so badly for him to ask me to study with him. to ask me to do ANYTHING with him. but he didn't. why? i've been beating myself up about it the past few days since i haven't seen him around and keep asking myself why didn't i ask him. but why should i have to? he's not shy. why can't he be more foreward and ask me? maybe i'm reading his signals wrong, but i wouldn't mind just being friends with him, but he just won't be foreward about it! my non-existent love life is in shambles. this is long, but my best friend is busy these days so i have no one to rant to TT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
halien4life 2,814 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 no one cares about your highschool drama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Athena 21,718 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 i wanted so badly for him to ask me to study with him you should have asked himself yourself tbh and overall who's the most forward? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
You Need Some Milk 4,270 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 When will my life be as eventful and adorbs as yours. Lets trade sis I would give you advice but I am not the best person to talk to cuz my motto is fuck these dudes get money so... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
la vie est belle 900 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 This is cute. Just make it so plain that you like him without actually saying it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ji-Lovely 4,535 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 This brings back memories from highschool you should have asked him to study together :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
� redie � 2,849 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 you should have asked himself yourself tbh Yeah, just ask him yourself. Don't give up hope, hehe~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
You Need Some Milk 4,270 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 no one cares about your highschool drama But bitch you clearly do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrayCray 2,636 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 You're friends with him, you could just ask him girl hurry up before another girl beat you to it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piccolo's girlfriend 7,439 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 just ask him yourself. hes probably afraid of being rejected and thats why he hasnt asked Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasySteezy 860 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 It's 2017, girl! Make the first move! Girl's Day didn't make Female President for you to just wait for the guy to ask you out first lol jk jk For real though, just ask him out. Next time there's a test talk to him like, "Oh my god, I'm so not ready for that test. I'm totally gonna fail." Then he'll either respond in agreement that he's gonna fail too, or he's gonna be confident in his abilities. With either answer you have the opening to ask to study together Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FactMan 2,366 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 so i keep thinking, maybe he thinks i don't like him, because i always give him that type of reaction. You're in college. so, the other day i saw him sitting with another girl at lunch i got a little jealous so i walked past him and pretended like i didn't see him even tho i know he saw me. Please stop i was kind of hoping he would call out to me but of course he didn't. With this high school behavior. For the sake of mankind and both's mental health, just stop it. Also, as a side note, why can't you be forward then!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ethereal 20,923 Posted March 15, 2017 Author Share Posted March 15, 2017 you should have asked himself yourself tbh and overall who's the most forward? he's waaaaay more outgoing than me. like, tons of friends, social butterfly, and that's why i started thinking he might like me because out of all the people in our class he sat next to me and talked to me. i was the only girl he talked to in that class. i'm so shy i don't know how to be casual about stuff like this TT You're in college. Please stop With this high school behavior. For the sake of mankind and both's mental health, just stop it. Also, as a side note, why can't you be forward then!? i'm just going to say this. i went to an all girls high school. i'm a 19 year old virgin that's never been in a relationship, never been kissed, and i just legitimately don't know what to do. i'm socially awkward. it's sooo hard for me to interact with people irl and i'm trying so hard to not be awkward around him. it's a me thing. i want to be foreward but i can't. sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FactMan 2,366 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 i'm just going to say this. i went to an all girls high school. i'm a 19 year old virgin that's never been in a relationship, never been kissed, and i just legitimately don't know what to do. i'm socially awkward. it's sooo hard for me to interact with people irl and i'm trying so hard to not be awkward around him. it's a me thing. i want to be foreward but i can't. sigh. Okay. I'll give you my point of view and I hope it does you good. It's probably hard for him to say "I like you", too. Because it has nothing to do with if the personality is outgoing or reserved. Maybe he hasn't been in a relationship either, and honestly it also doesn't really matter. He could have been in a bunch and still have it hard when saying the words. Have you considered if there is a possibility that he is secret-signal-illiterate? For example. You ignore him hoping you catch his attention, but he ends up thinking you actually do not want his attention. I mean at least don't make him feel like a nobody (this goes both ways btw, keep that in mind). If he's getting the wrong meaning then it'll just discourage him to say he likes you... All in all, this is an opportunity for both of you to grow. You're both being confronted with a new situation in life and it's all good. So my advice (for both tbh) is to try to be forward but if you really really can't, then just try to spend more time together. It will help the friendship grow and make both more comfortable, which will make it less harder for either of you to make the move. Being in the same class makes it great. Studying together can be what you both need Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 In this situation you should be the one who is more direct because there's a chance he might never do anything xD. I'm more or less like him in the sense that even if I like a girl I would be nice and stuff but wouldn't ask her for a date or something like that if I'm not super sure she's going to accept. Also I remember rejecting studying with a very cute girl I did like back then in college. We had to be in pair for the whole semester to do homework and other stuff and this girl I liked asked me to work with her, we barely talked but I would always stared at her and she would just smile or say hi to me, then she started talking to me when we ended up taking the same class. I told her I already had a partner, but the truth is I was a wuss and didn't want to be paired with her as I wouldn't be able to concentrate at all around her as she was super cute and very nice to me. I regret doing that ever since T___T, so this guy might also be a wuss like I was xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IBetrayedHanbinForSewoon 4,294 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 Thank you for this story! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 no one cares about your highschool drama hahahhaha you rood !!! and I read op but you seem like a girl i wont root for Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magalii 561 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 he's waaaaay more outgoing than me. like, tons of friends, social butterfly, and that's why i started thinking he might like me because out of all the people in our class he sat next to me and talked to me. i was the only girl he talked to in that class. i'm so shy i don't know how to be casual about stuff like this TT i'm just going to say this. i went to an all girls high school. i'm a 19 year old virgin that's never been in a relationship, never been kissed, and i just legitimately don't know what to do. i'm socially awkward. it's sooo hard for me to interact with people irl and i'm trying so hard to not be awkward around him. it's a me thing. i want to be foreward but i can't. sigh. There's always the possibility that even though he is outgoing, he is shy when it comes to love. That's not uncommon at all. Don't stress too much over your lack of experience. It's not a deal as big as it may seem, especially because many people that age are more inexperienced than they like to admit. Personally I only had my first kiss when I was 19 (going 20) and I'm also socially awkward and shy. Currently I'm almost 23 and if I'm being honest with you, the awkwardness and shyness hasn't left me, I just learned to deal with it from experience. So you just need to be brave and do it! Like others have been saying, ask him casually if he would like to study with you. Don't let this opportunity pass because it could lead to something wonderful. And even if he rejects you, at least you know the answer and gained some experience. You got this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alt 764 Posted March 15, 2017 Share Posted March 15, 2017 In the future you will learn that women can (and should) be forward sometimes This is your time to be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
borealis 497 Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 I think he is the type that will wait other's reactions toward him before making moves because he doesn't want you to blatantly know that he likes you. maybe because he is afraid of rejection. so imo you should be warmer(?) to him so he can conclude that you ping(?) him and he can make first moves later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirurun 2,019 Posted March 18, 2017 Share Posted March 18, 2017 maybe he is nervous to make the first move.. a lot of guys are just try asking him if he'd like to study with you or something like that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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