[inkigeul] Young woman having sex at her own place vs. the neighbour who criticized her for it?

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Young woman having sex at her own place vs. the neighbour who criticized her for it? 

 

 

A young woman in her 20's brought her significant other to her rooftop place to visit.  Her room was very small and not soundproof so the couple had to keep the noise down.  When they opened their door in the middle of the night, the door next to them slammed open and an elderly neighbour started screaming at the young woman.

"A woman who lives alone, what right do you have to bring a man over to your place!  I can't believe, a woman doing this!"  The elderly then started to threaten her.  "Does your own mother even know you're acting this way?  I'm going to tell her right this moment.  If you're going to be bringing men to your place, move out right now!"

The young woman could not even act freely in the comfort of her own home and after this incident, she became conscious of her actions.  Even when she talked to her mom who always took her side, the word 'sex' never popped up in their conversation.  As someone officially on the government's map of childbearing age, she felt as if she was in a position where she could not even have sex.

Women in their 30's are criticized by elders for being no-good women not being able to get married whereas women in their mid-20's are criticized for bringing men over to their place.  The young woman feels conflicted about which ideals they expect her to conform to and wonders if the same situation would have played out if she was a man instead. 

The young woman feels that she not only has to watch out for her safety as a woman living on her own, now she has to uphold a certain reputation.  Although she knows she shouldn't bother with those types of thoughts, she can't help but feel on edge when she brings her significant other because of the way her neighbours look at her and treat her. 

Hankyureh via Daum: "Where do you think you're bringing a man in!"... It was my place but I was kept on my toes

1. [+4510, -426] These old geezers are really overstepping their boundaries.  They're the problem.  With her earned money, do they want her to do it in a car instead?  They don't see the bigger problem, these citizens that are on the same level as Park Geun-hye.

2. [+3397, -347] It's something that we can't even do anywhere we please, and it must be in a place where the others can't hear.  We have to save up money just to book an inn instead, the young generation is pitiful

3. [+2697, -295] Women who live alone have worries and anxiety because of men.  Your home is a place where you're supposed to be the most comfortable and we can't even have that.

4. [+1549, -217] I'm a woman too but this is totally wrong -_-.. The article keeps mentioning it as "her house" and "her place" but she lives in a small room that's not soundproof, do you think the neighbour would want to hear that kind of noise in 'their own house' too??  If she's so caught up in wanting her 'own space' then move to a place where no one can hear you do that.. a room that's as small as a container box can be a total bother, the person here is being way too selfish??!!  If you don't have the money to afford a better, more private place, then save up some money with your part-time job and do your thing at a motel;;;

5. [+1680, -349] The article is a piece of trash.  Without regard to whether you're a male or female, the fact that you're having sex in a place where the neighbour next to you can hear everything you're doing, isn't it basic manners to think about the neighbour?  That's the problem here.

6. [+1073, -147] I understand what the article is trying to say but the case they used just isn't it. 

7. [+1014, -119] Isn't the article being too one-sided?  If the rooms are the size of a container box then the owner herself should know the level of that house and how sound can travel so easily.  With that, she should know to live quietly so is she trying to show off that she's being a nuisance to her neighbours by bringing her boyfriend to a place like that to have sex???

8. [+785, -56] Isn't it too much to be doing that in a rooftop place that's not soundproof?  Imagine how pissed off the elder beside them is?  She can just go to her boyfriend's, in any case the article gave a bad example!!!

9. [+694, -47] Looks like the problem isn't the fact that she's bringing her boyfriend over, it's her lack of manners for her neighbour for bringing him in a space where the next place can hear everything.  If you look at the other person's perspective, you'll find your answer.

10. [+597, -49] I don't think this is anything for her to be proud of ;  Looks like you're the one who made the mistake... you should think about your neighbour...

 

 

[IJWD]

 "Does your own mother even know you're acting this way?  I'm going to tell her right this moment.  If you're going to be bringing men to your place, move out right now!"

 

i would bring 10 more guys and have an orgy.

 

 

go i love how liberal my parents are that when my neighbour actually texted my mom before how i brought a guy home, she was like nice.

[Pyo Hyemi]

wtf this guy was overreacting

[WinWin_at]

lord some of these comments...

[Vais]

The comments are talking about sound, but the delulu elder was first and foremost clearly trying to shame the woman for having sex as a young, single 20-something. If the woman was a man, I highly doubt the elder would have been talking about the man's mother being ashamed. That geezer can take several seats.

[pinkpanda_spirit]

I'm quite annoyed when I hear my neighbours having sex tbh. The first time I heard them I was still in middle school and I was hella traumatized.

but putting down the woman because she had sex when she is in her 20s? not cool at all.

[Ringo]

A woman having sex in the comfort of her own home... the horror.

 

If it was only about the noise and disturbing neighbors, that's one thing, but shaming her for daring to have sex in her own apartment is appalling. How about they mind their own business? 

[Secre]

Is the problem the sound or the slut shaming cause it's sound then I can see someone having a problem with it but the women was cursing her out for having sex which is bullshit

[A random user]

I understand the part about of how she should had been more considerate about the conditions of the place where she lives...but I don't understand the needing to shame her for wanting to have sex. like...

 

A woman who lives alone, what right do you have to bring a man over to your place! I can't believe, a woman doing this!

 

 

The answer is there for that question (She lives alone and it's her place according to the article).

[g-dragons girlfriend]

You do you, girl. Old bitch is probably jealous she hasn't cum since she was 40.

[hallah]

if the neighbor was made uncomfortable by the noise, then the argument would have been about keeping her private life private. but it wasn't. it was shaming her for bringing a man home at all. some of the commenters need to put on their thinking caps.

[Meeks]

I understand that there would be a noise complaint but the old lady was getting mad at the young woman for having sex? Sure, get mad at her for being too loud but don't get mad at her for her actions in her private life. It's called a PRIVATE life for a reason. It's for her and not for you. That old woman is ridiculous. Especially emphasizing that the young lady is a woman and that she shouldn't do such things is even more fucking ridiculous.

[maidoan97]

I understand that having sex where your neighbors can hear you is disrespect to them, but I think the neighbor here was trying to shame her for having sex instead of only complaining about the noise

[chichibio]

The comments are talking about sound, but the delulu elder was first and foremost clearly trying to shame the woman for having sex as a young, single 20-something. If the woman was a man, I highly doubt the elder would have been talking about the man's mother being ashamed. That geezer can take several seats.

This. Makes you wonder if they would've had the same reaction or spoken up if the neighbor was a married woman having sex with her husband instead...

[GuguSana]

Old bih needs to mind her business lol

 

The sounds is one thing, but the lady can do what she wants

[No1]

Ooook, I inderstand the paons of having to listen to your neighbors go at it, but that old man shaming her for having sex needs to gtfo.

[hella]

She should be petty and bang on their door when they're watching tv at full volume the way all old people do lol

[sakurahanabira]

It's one thing to be annoyed at being able to hear your neighbor (or even roommates) having sex. It's another to shame a grown woman for it and that's what that old man is doing.

[dragonfly0915]

If they were just upset by the noise then I'd get it, but come on, it is none of your business that consenting adults want to have sex. 21st century says hello.

[Ash0896]

I understand getting mad because of the noise. The girl and the guy should keep it down. But you have no right at all to shame the woman and get mad at her for bringing her boyfriend in her own place. She is a legal adult already!!

[delirium]

she should have invited the woman to join, just to watch her head explode 

[HotTea]

You can't even have sex in your own house in peace? Mess.

 

Sure u can get mad at the noises but enter her the woman house and scream at her? That's rude.

[totally-seopies]

But also like...if youre going to live in an apartment that you know isnt soundproof, you should know youre going to hear your neighbors doing things??? Like why would you expect them to have to stop doing everything they have the freedom to do. If you wanted to live in a quiet place...go live in a quiet place??? At the same time its not necessary to have sex loudly either.

 

I do know what its like to have to hear ppl having sex, its pretty annoying (the people upstairs in my apartment...lmao) but like...you could literally just be polite and be like "hey can you be more quiet, youre pretty loud" its not that hard. 

 

The problem here is that the elderly couple doesnt even seem mad about the noise theyre criticizing at the young woman for daring to have sex at all. If this had been other noise I bet you they wouldnt have said shit, because that just how nosy old people are they want to find something to shame you for. 

 

If I were her I'd be like screw cultural norms abt extreme respect for ppl older than me and everytime they made noise I'd be like "Do you have the right to use your blender when I can hear you? Can you be considerate to others and not have the volume of your television be audible???????"

[sleety]

I don't see a problem