When your friend lies about not having money but still orders the most expensive dish And you have to pay for it...

[CrayCray]

Like....what kind of logic is that? Why do I keep making friends that use me. Am I too kind and fucking naive for this world

 

Recently my friend asked me to eat out with her after work for dinner and it wasn't until we got to the restaurant, sat down with menus in hand until she decides to tell me she forgot her card, that (supposedly) her 1 year old daughter "took it out" of her phone case......................... ......................I guess it's so easy for a 1 year old kid to take out a card from inside a phone case nowadays, eh? ............sooooo being the "nice" friend that I am, I laugh it off and gave the OK that I will pay. Next thing you know, she goes and orders a $20 steak meal and a smoothie. Since I didn't want to spend so much, I had to resort to a small mac n' cheese side dish. Since it was our first time trying the smoothies there, I mentioned to her that we could share one. Not only did she try to order TWO smoothies because well, you know maybe, she didn't wanna fucking share but when we got the smoothie, she had the nerve to fucking tell me I could've gotten my own after I took a small sip from the cup and said it was good. So by the end, not only did she NOT drink it, she packed it to-go.

 

That was not the only time she used me. She got me a $20 gift card for a restaurant for Christmas and told us to go there and guess what? She wanted me to use that gift card for us and she chose a $15 plate + coffee on the side. I get the $5 left over. What a fucking friend, right guys?

 

Edit: I'm not making excuses but the only reason I'm still hanging out with her is because her two children are really attached to me and I don't know how to let go of that.

[g-dragons girlfriend]

DROP HER ASS WTFFFFF

[Scuttlebutters]

That reminds me of my friend's boyfriend :/ She tells me he's like that too. Pretending to not have money so he doesn't have to pay. 

[Kalii]

She has to go. That is not something a friend would do.

 

[Northern]

Ask her to treat you a nice meal, if she refuse, unfriend her asap.

[Honeystan]

 drop 'em

[Pineapple]

...I wouldn't call that a friend. 

[silverlining]

Ask her to treat you a nice meal, if she refuse, unfriend her asap.

or use the same excuse back at her 

[JSDOJDODJU]

drop her ass or maybe use the same dumb excuse 

[First Mod]

or use the same excuse back at her 

Exactly

[Cymae]

DROP HER ASS WTFFFFF

[CrayCray]

or use the same excuse back at her 

drop her ass or maybe use the same dumb excuse 

One time I really did forgot my card and we were already at the restaurant, she had 30 bucks on her but she really wanted me to pay so she told me to call my sister to drop off my wallet....the nerve, right?

[JSDOJDODJU]

One time I really did forgot my card and we were already at the restaurant, she had 30 bucks on her but she really wanted me to pay so she told me to call my sister to drop off my wallet....the nerve, right?

 

LMFAOOOO WHAT IS THIS??? JUST DROP HER SIS

[TickleMePink]

Ew, drop her

She doesn't sound like a friend with that kind of behavior

[silverlining]

One time I really did forgot my card and we were already at the restaurant, she had 30 bucks on her but she really wanted me to pay so she told me to call my sister to drop off my wallet....the nerve, right?

time to be too busy to ever meet up with ever again even if all you're really doing is lying on your bed staring at the ceiling

[Satoshi Toda]

OMG WHY DOES THIS ACTUALLY SOUND LIKE SOMEBODY I KNOW

[Delincious]

well if she forgot her money for whatever reason tell her to pay you back later, and she orders too much tell her you didnt bring that much money she'll have to settle for cheaper shit

if she doesnt then she's a bad friend and you should drop her

[ABIRL]

I understand that the primary purpose of this thread is for you to vent and for others to affirm your frustrations, so take everything below with a grain of salt.

 

Have you ever talked to her about this behavior directly?

Is this a frequent behavior in a long-term friendship?

 

I knew a girl like this, where she would want my group of friends to invite her when we go out, but she would frequently "forget her card at home" or she'd bring a friend who was "treating her." It took a short while before we all noticed this behavior, but there wasn't anyone particularly close to her who wanted to discuss this with her. After inviting her to come to one particular birthday dinner, the person inviting her broke the ice subtle by jokingly asking, "Don't forget to bring your card this time." She started regularly paying for her own stuff, albeit hung out with us much less.

 

The point being, I don't know if you can teach her to spend within her means or to be more financially aware, but you can show/tell her that you will not be taken advantage of by discussing this behavior with her and telling her how it's made you feel and the impact it's had on your relationship with her.

 

 

Edit: I'm not making excuses but the only reason I'm still hanging out with her is because her two children are really attached to me and I don't know how to let go of that.

 

Truthfully, this is an excuse. It sounds like you're emotionally blackmailing yourself into staying friendly with this person. I don't know what you could say to her kids to explain it; maybe something along the lines of, "Your mother and I are having troubles in our friendship where I can't condone some of her behavior towards me. I'm sorry that it's affected my relationship with you two, but it's come to a point where we have to resolve this."

[Kstarnet]

Just drop her. She's not worth it.

 

 

 

Otherwise you can pay her back by ordering an really expensive meal while with her and use the excuse of 'going to toilet' to sneak out. After that, drop her ass

[JiMiJu]

What a shameless "friend".

[Sana Minatozaki]

DROP HER ASS WTFFFFF