How do i get over the thought of my favourite celebrity having a girlfriend?; 18 year old girl problem

[rainbowsoldier]

I have this bad habit, he is my favourite youtuber and he has a girlfriend, and she brags a lot about him and the things they do sometimes and it just makes me feel so depressed because i am myself 18 and i never had any boyfriend nor an intimate moment with any boy in my life ever (always the blackship) and jealousy was a serious problem of mine. I did something really bad when i was very young because of a same thing... 
i don't know how to think... how do i get over this thought? it makes me feel really bad honestly... or maybe its just my hormones playing tricks on me and its literally 1 AM right now where i am..

[518]

i would love my fave celeb to have a girlfriend

also i wouldnt mind being that girlfriend 

[Sana Minatozaki]

you're 18 wtf are you doing 

 

 

[nsfwwww]

Just know, what you see on screen and in videos is all for show. You don't know what kind of person he actually is, only those that are close to him do. If you are feeling really bad then I recommend talking with someone in person about it, someone who wouldn't judge you. You're only 18, you will have plenty of relationships in the future, don't worry about it.

[GUILD]

just acknowledge that it never would have been you anyways. it's not like you were gonna put in the effort to move or something lol.

[spilledmilk]

Limit the activities in your life that aren't beneficial and don't make you happy. If you don't want to hear about their life together, then stay away from their social media, YouTube, etc. Why do something like that if you just end up feeling depressed?

 

Edit: Especially stay away from social media sites that make you start comparing your life to others.

[rainbowsoldier]

Limit the activities in your life that aren't beneficial and don't make you happy. If you don't want to hear about their life together, then stay away from their social media, YouTube, etc. Why do something like that if you just end up feeling depressed?

 

Edit: Especially stay away from social media sites that make you start comparing your life to others.

i have an antisocial personality which results in me doing things that not many people understand and i act differently and weirdly... i just am a mix of many bad disorders i guess....adhd and the list goes on.... 

[SAYAKA]

1. you love the youtube version of him but that probably is not who is 24/7 try to remember to keep what youre shown separate from reality. His girlfriend can play up the "omg hes so perfect" image as if its natural but it could be strategically placed to get more views. Treat youtube the same as you would TV

 

2. I have no real advice to help your jealous thoughts. I would say that not letting your thoughts turn to actions would be my advice but i know that thatd be easier said then done. Maybe speaking to someone might help? Maybe writing down your thoughts as oppose to taking action could be something you could do

[CunningStunt]

go outside, meet people.

[North and South]

18 yo... and still unable to deal with something so trivial... That is just sad.

 

Having a social life or something else to live for to increase one's emotional maturity would be a good start.

[BIG BANG]

the sad reality for people that dont go outside

[rainbowsoldier]

18 yo... and still unable to deal with something so trivial... That is just sad.

 

Having a social life or something else to live for to increase one's emotional maturity would be a good start.

 

go outside, meet people.

tried that, and then a week later for the 5th time i got kicked out of the friend's circle because my behaviour and me generally didn't match up with them. i got kicked from all the circle of friends i've been invited and basically im unable to be with people..... its sad and it just made me hold my tears with force throughout the whole bus ride home..... its so awful when the friends tell in your face that they do not want you in their friendship circle.... so im basically alone with no boys to interact with because i have 0 connections.... and i cant just go out and say hi to a random stranger....

the sad reality for people that dont go outside

and i was always the weird kid in school with a strange mentality and weird habits......and also really ugly with not anything stereotypically beautiful at all.

 

edit: and the first friendship circle was unable to tell me to get out and a girl of them because she was too generous told me that they did not want me in and after asking her a lot of questions she agreed with me saying that they didnt want me because i was weird and strange.......

[spilledmilk]

i have an antisocial personality which results in me doing things that not many people understand and i act differently and weirdly... i just am a mix of many bad disorders i guess....adhd and the list goes on....

 

Well it's normal for people to spend large amounts of time doing things that make them unhappy. It's normal, but unhealthy. It's usually because social media has become such a prominent thing in such a short time generation that people don't really understand the drawbacks well enough to set precautions.

 

I don't know what's best for you, but I've found that unplugging myself has really taken a lot of my self hate and anxiety away.

[Mystic]

Go watch some Netflix, he ain't worth your time.

[TickleMePink]

Just do some things to distract yourself---or stop watching him for awhile

 

Also, you're only 18, so there's so much time left to end up in an intimate relationship

I'm positive you'll find someone special someday. 

[Tookey]

Just because the grass looks green doesn't mean it is.

 

I know plenty of people who brag and boast about their relationships and end up broken up the next day.

 

Just realize that you are enough and the right person will realize that one day. This whole jealousy thing comes from a place of insecurity. Love yourself and know you are a great person.

 

Also, people who don't enter relationships frequently and sit back awhile tend to do better, just my experience.

 

 

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[rainbowsoldier]

Well it's normal for people to spend large amounts of time doing things that make them unhappy. It's normal, but unhealthy. It's usually because social media has become such a prominent thing in such a short time generation that people don't really understand the drawbacks well enough to set precautions.

 

I don't know what's best for you, but I've found that unplugging myself has really taken a lot of my self hate and anxiety away.

it seems like it was only my hormones fluctuating last night during my period, it changed my mood completely and i was super sensitive...

[JiMiJu]

Try to focus on other things.