Lielys 17 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 Tomorrow is my boyfriend's birthday. We are having it at our place. It's gonna be kinda weird because his ex of two years just got invited without my knowledge. My boyfriend told me that it wasn't his decision and that his parents forced him to invite her because they consider her a close friend. I do know that he did break off any ties with her and hardly even spoke to her for the past six months. It's so weird because I feel uncomfortable about it. I have been with him for 8 months now, I love him and trust him. But I don't trust his parents, his ex has a lot of money and I think they want a better life for their son. I really hope this is a one time occurrence because they also medal in other non relationship stuff and it's really annoying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KimsNJeons 1,796 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 That's just disrespectful of them to do that, knowing she's an ex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indigo 16,433 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 You need to talk with him and agree to present a united front at the party. Be gracious to his parents and her, together. Work the room together. Don't let her corner him off. Don't fall for the power play, just show them it's not going to work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daisies 88 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 you must be feel awful. but, just act cool to show them you are matured enough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lielys 17 Posted January 28, 2017 Author Share Posted January 28, 2017 That's just disrespectful of them to do that, knowing she's an ex. I agree, but I dont think they know that they are being disrespectful. It could be ignorance and stubbornness. They just want to do their own thing. You need to talk with him and agree to present a united front at the party. Be gracious to his parents and her, together. Work the room together. Don't let her corner him off. Don't fall for the power play, just show them it's not going to work. That's a good idea, I think if I invite more people there less of a chance she will talk to him. Also I mustn't leave his side right? you must be feel awful. but, just act cool to show them you are matured enough You are correct, I am matured I can do this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bella D'Amour 9,589 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 I understand ur situation cause ive been faced a similar thing before, somehow i do hope his ex not being overacting in front his family, His ex should know her place well, if not things may get ruined. So good luck darl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sana Minatozaki 3,305 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 just keep your bae away from ex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indigo 16,433 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 That's a good idea, I think if I invite more people there less of a chance she will talk to him. Also I mustn't leave his side right? Yeah, for sure make sure some of his and your mutual friends are there. Preferably people who didn't know her well. Ideally she'll detect the vibe and realize she doesn't really fit in and leave early on her own. Don't ice her out, that'll upset his parents, but it's fine if she feels left out. Not clingy, just occupied. Since you guys are hosting, you'll need to tend to the food and beverages, greet people, see them off, etc. The worst thing is you get stuck doing all of it yourself, while he's stuck with her and his parents. You def do not want to be waiting on them. So make sure he always has an excuse to go back to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lielys 17 Posted January 28, 2017 Author Share Posted January 28, 2017 I understand ur situation cause ive been faced a similar thing before, somehow i do hope his ex not being overacting in front his family, His ex should know her place well, if not things may get ruined. So good luck darl! I will have to keep an eye on her so that she doesnt take advantage of the situation. Yeah, for sure make sure some of his and your mutual friends are there. Preferably people who didn't know her well. Ideally she'll detect the vibe and realize she doesn't really fit in and leave early on her own. Don't ice her out, that'll upset his parents, but it's fine if she feels left out. Not clingy, just occupied. Since you guys are hosting, you'll need to tend to the food and beverages, greet people, see them off, etc. The worst thing is you get stuck doing all of it yourself, while he's stuck with her and his parents. You def do not want to be waiting on them. So make sure he always has an excuse to go back to you. Thank you for such great advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted January 28, 2017 Share Posted January 28, 2017 Just ignore her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 Honestly, what the parents did was just plain wrong because she's an ex And it'll obviously make you uncomfortable Just ignore her and stay around your bf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sofs 13,968 Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 Act cool. My bf dad wanted him to date this girl that has money, good cars, wears sexy and expensive clothes. It was hard in the beginning for me but I acted cool and pretended he wasn't annoying me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alt 764 Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 As a guy, I can almost guarantee you he didn't like it either. I mean, he shouldn't. I think you should talk to him. She's going to the birthday, ok, but he needs to know that you are not happy with this situation and he needs to avoid her. [...] Both of you can't be disrespectful or something, since it would create a lot of bad situations, but he needs to know that you think it was a wrong move by her parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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