sungjins 676 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 My mom and my younger sister, in particular are both always pointing fingers at me for everything. I can literally be silent and they will ask why I'm being silent. Yet they expect me to be the bigger person and resolve everything when they aren't getting on. I'm almost 20 and leaving home this year (thankfully) but I don't know if there's some special secret way on dealing with difficult family members? My sister is immature so I expect she will grow out of it but my mother is a different story. I've tried ignoring them but it continues in a vicious cycle. Any advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Protein Jinyoung 908 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 Maybe the problem lies with you being 'silent' and ignoring them? Your family aren't just people you live with, relationships are give and take. Maybe they're trying to reach out to you, and seeing you unresponsive frustrates them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sungjins 676 Posted January 13, 2017 Author Share Posted January 13, 2017 Maybe the problem lies with you being 'silent' and ignoring them? Your family aren't just people you live with, relationships are give and take. Maybe they're trying to reach out to you, and seeing you unresponsive frustrates them? I can understand you saying that haha I wanted to limit the words on the post. but usually I'm the mood maker of the house because my sister is still going through puberty and is often very moody, and my mum hates that. But today I was silent and then things kicked off again. It's like treading on egg shells in my household Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Layalie. 107 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 Have you tried talking to them about how you feel? Because if you don't say or do anything then the cycle won't ever stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rapmon's Ahjussi Husband 2,299 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 Ur leaving the house, so try to be the bigger man, ur mom will always be ur mom, it looks tragic now but ull regret cutting bonds with them in the future; family always comes first, life lesson Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Protein Jinyoung 908 Posted January 13, 2017 Share Posted January 13, 2017 I'm sorry to hear that, tbh. If being around them really interferes with your emotional health, I think having a safe space free from drama is necessary. If they complain about it, just tell them frankly that you're suffocated by the negativity. Give them a chance to hear you and your worries out. If talking it out calmly still doesn't work, it's on them. You should still prioritize your own mental and emotional health. Just at least try to settle things before you leave, especially towards your sister. Your absence might put things into perspective for the both of them, but avoid cutting off ties with them completely. Call once in a while to check up on them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Red 3,379 Posted January 16, 2017 Share Posted January 16, 2017 ignore until you leave.really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shocking blue 7,514 Posted January 16, 2017 Share Posted January 16, 2017 Honestly sometimes you just can't do anything about it and there comes a point you have to say "well I tried and they're not receptive so f it". Move out, enjoy your life, keep being civil with your family but don't bend over backwards for them if they won't reciprocate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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