T0ph 755 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 Hi. I'm 17 and I feel somehow insecure about my friends. I trust them, and they trust me. I'm just not sure that they're really plotting nothing behind my back, or hates me secretly or something like that. It bothers me everyday to think that the closest friends I have would really turn their back on me one day because of something stupid. I don't want to feel like I don't belong (not lonely, because those two are different), which I've felt the years prior to 2016. At that point, I don't really know; it turned out that all I needed then was assurance. Then I joined OH. My main reason getting on OH was actually to kill most of my free time, but I've found comfort in talking to most of you guys out there. I know I can be a dick sometimes, but trust me, all of you OH users over there, I do cherish your presence. You guys make me feel like I actually belong. Hit me up if you need somebody to talk with, just bored or something like that. I'd appreciate it so much if you do. You guys have a nice day! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexiskim 462 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 But are they acting some way that makes you feel uncomfortable or is it just a feeling? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T0ph 755 Posted January 12, 2017 Author Share Posted January 12, 2017 But are they acting some way that makes you feel uncomfortable or is it just a feeling? kind of a strong feeling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
playboi bona 355 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 This is the sweetest post i've seen on OH I hope you are able to trust your friends and realize that true friends would never even consider doing what you mentioned. Have confidence in yourself and confidence in your friends and you'll be able to see who your real friends are. If you are a genuinely sweet person (and you seem to me to be) then people won't really feel compelled to do anything to you. I know it's easier said than done, but you got this EDIT: Spelling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexiskim 462 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 kind of a strong feeling but it started recently or what? because if they were to hate you or smt then wouldn't they just ignore you? If my group of friends don't like someone then what's the point of keeping her/him as a friend? they just stop talking to them... is that the case? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T0ph 755 Posted January 12, 2017 Author Share Posted January 12, 2017 but it started recently or what? because if they were to hate you or smt then wouldn't they just ignore you? If my group of friends don't like someone then what's the point of keeping her/him as a friend? they just stop talking to them... is that the case? no.. i trust them, they're my friends. they trust me and i know that, but sometimes I feel like i'm getting left out on a few occasions. is that normal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sofs 13,968 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 Minaring, if you think those stuff then you don't trust them. Try to put those thoughts to the side. It can happen ut it can also be from your head and if is the last case, it will bring you no good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexiskim 462 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 no.. i trust them, they're my friends. they trust me and i know that, but sometimes I feel like i'm getting left out on a few occasions. is that normal? yes it's normal trust me, I have the same friends since I was 14 and now I'm 20, we have a really strong bond but sometimes even after all this years I feel like they're excluding me or that I don't feel understood by them One time my friend called me out because she felt left out too and I didn't even notice and I felt really sorry. Sometimes it just happens even in the best friendships, that's because everyone has its own problems and thoughts and it's difficult to notice everything that your friends are going through. So OP if the situation becomes unbereable just talk to them, they probably aren't even aware of leaving you out like happened to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
violetvelvet 1,590 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 Me too, I feel more comfortable sharing my honest thought in cyberspace, maybe bcs I'm an introvert. There are so many silly and funny ppl here Don't worry, you're not alone there~ Maybe I could help you in real life someday Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rich witch 20,592 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 i think trust issues are normal, i got them too. i have lots of friends and acquaintances, but only about two or three people i tell most things to, and these three people don't know each other either, so the thought of them talking about me behind my back doesn't really come up in my head. but yes, it takes me very long time of observation and being around that person until i decide to put my trust in them, after some people broke it in a terrible way. but it happens in such groups, where a few people feel left out simultaneously, when the problem is that you're all just busy and can't really pay attention to each other. this happened to me before as well. if you feel that way, you should talk with them about it and see if things change. close friends are supposed to talk about such issues. but first, you have to think with yourself whether you really trust them or not. because if you don't trust them, you can't expect them to do the same. trust has to be mutual for it to work, it's a two-player game or more. hopefully you'll find somewhere you belong and makes you feel safe and reassured, be it your current situation or a new one with a new environment. feeling left out and talked-about is not fun, i know that, but it's all about choosing wisely the people you want around you. feel free to hit me up if you need a friend! i believe if OH offered that sort of thing more often than trolling and negativity we could've created something great c: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ygssssss 183 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 that's normal imo, nothing to worry about that. sometimes your friends need you, sometimes you need your friend and sometimes, you need to break from real life for a while. yet you meet so much people over here that have same interest maybe you can't find in real life. and since you're from indonesia, you must be know this "kalo misal ada yg gak kumpul pasti jadi bahan bicaraan" that happen everywhere around indonesia, so nothing to worry. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kkdyoo_ 53 Posted January 12, 2017 Share Posted January 12, 2017 Your sweet. Sent from my GT-S6310 using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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