KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 (This is not me, lets call her A and the guy B). A really liked B, to the point she asked him out twice, but got rejected because of her religion, and that he had a girlfriend already, but the signs he showed to her, seemed to be different. B would usually go out of his way to be around her, complimenting her, defending her bad people, always including her and asking for her opinion, asking her if she is alright when she is sad or ill, getting jealous when she talks to other guys normally etc but still keeping his distance from her. They were not friends. A had to move away, she didn't ever have his number, nor did they ever go out, yet when he is not there, she is constantly missing that person, she worries if he is alright, and wants to just see him, even if nothing happens. She knows his bad and good habits. A asks his friends how he is like etc, and tried to talk to B, to get to know him. Even when he has "rejected" her, she still feels B hid his true feelings, but most importantly, she still likes him. When B rejected A, she went into a mini 'depression'. Its been almost a month, yet A sometimes cries and remembers him, because it is sad that the first person she ever probably liked a lot, did not work out how she wanted, due to circumstances. She cannot also date, due to her religion, but she felt so strongly about this person, A wanted to give it a chance. Its harder for A because she feels so alone now. Do you think A fell in love with this person, because she cries about him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CosmicAZNGangstars 1,948 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Not really. I had a friend that dumped this girl because she cheated on him and stole his money, but she was the only one that cried. I also don't think love happens like that. Love develops during the actual relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bitchcraft 1,377 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 The answer is obvious. Yeah it was prolly a strong like or she was in love. It's not even about her crying. I have cried over people i didn't have romantic feelings for, it's the fact she misses him that much, went into depression etc. PS: You don't only fall in love when you're in a relationship contrarily to what others have said. You can fall in love with somebody you've known closely for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fish Tank 3,531 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 not always, but person a was probably in love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nsfwwww 5,298 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I think they're being way too dramatic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sana Minatozaki 3,305 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 I think they're being way too dramatic I know its a bit much to read, but a lot of things have happened. She's liked him for quite some time. Also to put it into perspective, A has never had a boyfriend ever, nor has she had flings, due to her religious beliefs. So, for her to have strong feelings for someone, I personally feel her reaction is due to lack of experience. She doesn't know how to handle rejection either, because shes never been rejected. Also, this person is not a teenager either, so that's why I was asking whether A fell for B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nsfwwww 5,298 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I know its a bit much to read, but a lot of things have happened. She's liked him for quite some time. Also to put it into perspective, A has never had a boyfriend ever, nor has she had flings, due to her religious beliefs. So, for her to have strong feelings for someone, I personally feel her reaction is due to lack of experience. She doesn't know how to handle rejection either, because shes never been rejected. Also, this person is not a teenager either, so that's why I was asking whether A fell for B. Was he the first person to show a lot of interest in her? I feel like people become really connected to their firsts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 Was he the first person to show a lot of interest in her? I feel like people become really connected to their firsts. I think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rabidsofa 452 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I think A felt a strong attachment to B. Attraction and feelings of interest, but not love. B was at least being a good friend to A, and with A's feelings, it can get confusing if they aren't sure of B's intentions. Regardless, it's probably not love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SNGGYU 2,323 Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 just a little advice: it's better for A that they didn't get to have a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 4, 2017 Author Share Posted January 4, 2017 just a little advice: it's better for A that they didn't get to have a relationship. Yeah I guess, religious differences...and possible drama with B's girlfriend if he broke up with her, to be with A. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 i think that the problem is that B is not accepting of A's religion but they truly love each other. they seem to care for each other even if B has decided that they can't be together because of her religion. It's B's choice to be accepting of her and her religion or leave with regret. it's probable that B's gf also has something to do with it.. I think it would be better for A to move on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyoDori 1,475 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Whenever I read that a girl likes a guy but then he already has a girlfriend...that just makes me turn the other way. Why would you like a guy who already has a girl? Like yo...what's wrong with you? And as for the man...if your ass already has a girl then focus on her. Why get mad over the girl (who isn't your girlfriend) talking to other men? If you don't have the balls to break it off with your current girlfriend first before developing feelings for another then don't freaking date. All of ya'll are creating a damn kdrama here. If A can't date because of her religion...how did her parents have her? Does A have to be of a certain age before she can start dating men? If so then tell A to just wait it out if her religion means a lot to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 5, 2017 Author Share Posted January 5, 2017 Whenever I read that a girl likes a guy but then he already has a girlfriend...that just makes me turn the other way. Why would you like a guy who already has a girl? Like yo...what's wrong with you? And as for the man...if your ass already has a girl then focus on her. Why get mad over the girl (who isn't your girlfriend) talking to other men? If you don't have the balls to break it off with your current girlfriend first before developing feelings for another then don't freaking date. All of ya'll are creating a damn kdrama here. If A can't date because of her religion...how did her parents have her? Does A have to be of a certain age before she can start dating men? If so then tell A to just wait it out if her religion means a lot to her. A had absolutely no idea he had a girlfriend until much later on, but by then it was too late, she already started liking him a lot. Also, A never tried to force him to break up with her. She just confessed her feelings to him twice at different times, and basically gave him the choice. B rejected her, and she respected his decision. Of course, she still has feelings but she doesn't act upon them if that makes sense. I don't really understand your last question. Her religion basically says she can't date men at all, and if she wants to be in a relationship, she has to get married. Problem is, that could take some time. I can understand why A feels so lonely. I don't think that the dating is the real issue, I think its mainly because they're both from different backgrounds, in the long-term it would just get messy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaebaby 1,703 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 (This is not me, lets call her A and the guy B). A really liked B, to the point she asked him out twice, but got rejected because of her religion, and that he had a girlfriend already, but the signs he showed to her, seemed to be different. B would usually go out of his way to be around her, complimenting her, defending her bad people, always including her and asking for her opinion, asking her if she is alright when she is sad or ill, getting jealous when she talks to other guys normally etc but still keeping his distance from her. They were not friends. A had to move away, she didn't ever have his number, nor did they ever go out, yet when he is not there, she is constantly missing that person, she worries if he is alright, and wants to just see him, even if nothing happens. She knows his bad and good habits. A asks his friends how he is like etc, and tried to talk to B, to get to know him. Even when he has "rejected" her, she still feels B hid his true feelings, but most importantly, she still likes him. When B rejected A, she went into a mini 'depression'. Its been almost a month, yet A sometimes cries and remembers him, because it is sad that the first person she ever probably liked a lot, did not work out how she wanted, due to circumstances. She cannot also date, due to her religion, but she felt so strongly about this person, A wanted to give it a chance. Its harder for A because she feels so alone now. Do you think A fell in love with this person, because she cries about him. A cries because she doesn't love herself enough. You don't need a man to complete who you are. It's his loss if he doesn't want her she should have that mentality. There are billions of other guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RyoDori 1,475 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 A had absolutely no idea he had a girlfriend until much later on, but by then it was too late, she already started liking him a lot. Also, A never tried to force him to break up with her. She just confessed her feelings to him twice at different times, and basically gave him the choice. B rejected her, and she respected his decision. Of course, she still has feelings but she doesn't act upon them if that makes sense. I don't really understand your last question. Her religion basically says she can't date men at all, and if she wants to be in a relationship, she has to get married. Problem is, that could take some time. I can understand why A feels so lonely. I don't think that the dating is the real issue, I think its mainly because they're both from different backgrounds, in the long-term it would just get messy. Just thought that with her religion not allowing her to date meant that she had to be at a certain age (let's say 25) before she can start dating. That's what my last question was stating. Sometimes in life you have to make sacrifices. We all make sacrifices each day in order to make a decision. In a relationship, there will definitely be hardships but the two who are in the relationship must know how to deal with it in a mature way. Even if the both of them come from two different backgrounds. If the both of them have the determination to make a relationship work (no matter what kind of struggle they go through) they will do all that they can to make it happen. That's how a relationship grow and that's how the individuals grow as well. At least that's what I learned from my relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 5, 2017 Author Share Posted January 5, 2017 Just thought that with her religion not allowing her to date meant that she had to be at a certain age (let's say 25) before she can start dating. That's what my last question was stating. Sometimes in life you have to make sacrifices. We all make sacrifices each day in order to make a decision. In a relationship, there will definitely be hardships but the two who are in the relationship must know how to deal with it in a mature way. Even if the both of them come from two different backgrounds. If the both of them have the determination to make a relationship work (no matter what kind of struggle they go through) they will do all that they can to make it happen. That's how a relationship grow and that's how the individuals grow as well. At least that's what I learned from my relationship. Oh I see. I agree with your comment completely, but I think its harder in this situation. A wanted to do that, and was prepared to (if she was willing to seriously date him despite her religion, and everything) but I can only guess that it was still, a huge risk from B's perspective. Honestly, I have seen them both. They really have a lot in common with each other, but they have some serious cultural differences as well. They could work through them, but really its was mainly up to B, if he was prepared to do that, and I guess he just couldn't. So, I suppose he had to reluctantly let her go, and now A knows this, and is hurting since he is her first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TickleMePink 17,072 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 A may love B, but I can't really be sure of someone's feelings through text. A may just be sad for the fact they've known each other for a long time and now things are different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Not really. I had a friend that dumped this girl because she cheated on him and stole his money, but she was the only one that cried. I also don't think love happens like that. Love develops during the actual relationship. Maybe because the girl felt sorry? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoneyBee12 33 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I think girl A likes and misses guy B because of all the things and warm things B has done for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annafyre 263 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 No. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 Yes, at least sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted January 6, 2017 Author Share Posted January 6, 2017 A may love B, but I can't really be sure of someone's feelings through text. A may just be sad for the fact they've known each other for a long time and now things are different. I really feel like it is B's fault mainly. If he was not going to date her he should not have led her on. Even if he did keep a distance, he seemed to enjoy the attention. I think when A confessed the second time they sort have had an argument. She tried to confront him about it and he was like the flirting was just a bit of fun, it never crossed the line but it must have if A wanted to overlook her religion to date. A was angry about this but she had to accept that he wasn't going to admit it. Then she was like I should just follow my religion then. Then something happened that he started saying things as though he regretted it after to his friends to make it as though she rejected him instead or she made him reject her. A made it known from the beginning she liked him, but B... well he seemed to just communicate through signs. I think A loved B and seemed like the attraction was mutual but I guess B didn't like her religion. That's all I can figure out. I feel so bad for A :( Sent from my iPhone using OneHallyu mobile app Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 I feel that she's clearly attached to him and wishes the what ifs. Sadly though I don't think the relationship will develop. He rejected her and A is taking it hard. She will need to try to move on eventually though. It must be really hard for her but she should try to distract herself however she can. And eventually the memory of him will just be bitter sweet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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