vocabulary 890 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 I've put up with this friend for a very long time without retaliating, but she's very manipulative and mean. She is always always always manipulating people. It's very scary. I don't want to stay near her anymore. She did some stalkerish things before. She tried to accuse a boy of raping her, then tried to set up a friend (accuse her of cheating), and a lot more. I don't know how to get rid of her. She keeps clinging onto me and she'll get to know my other friends as well... my friends tell me she says a lot of bad things about me. We live near each other. What should I do? A girl once told her to meet less often because she had exams, then she started setting up plans to ruin he girl's exam and even said she'll tell tales to the teacher and because her grades are better, the teacher will believe her. I believe that if I tell her directly that I don't want to be friends anymore she will do worse things to me. She has done a lot of bad things to me already such as accusing me of liking and flirting with other boys when I had a boyfriend and spread to my friends and told my friend to tell that to my boyfriend. Thank you, OH. Will appreciate all insights. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystal Meth 11,336 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 She tried to accuse someone of raping her? She should be in jail mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
You Need Some Milk 4,270 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 Is there anything she can do to your life that will impact it very bad? If its stupid rumors and i would confront her then tell her to fuck off in a civil way. Honestly if she tries doing petty things like make rumors, at least for me, I can ignore those things. And since multiple people already know of her toxic personality, you have backup and receipts in case she starts mess. But if you dont wanna do it alone, you should have some friends come talk to her with you. I would call up everyone she started mess with if she tries anything lol Anyways if she doesn't have receipts to back up her lies, they can be debunked easily and she will be outed as a liar anyways that isn't a friend, thats a fucking leech. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YooJeong 6,303 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 You don't have to tell her directly, or even downright "drop" her. Just distance yourself from her. Don't continue conversations with her- if she starts one, say a few words and then excuse yourself or leave. Be quiet around her, and refuse to hang out with her when she asks. You don't have to make up excuses, just make it clear that you're not going to accept her invitations, you can say you're not interested...you can try focusing on other friends or hobbies to take up your time, too, so there isn't time to be around her in the first place. I guess I don't recommend suddenly just ignoring her or dropping her, but growing apart and putting distance between each other seems better and more natural. I'm sorry you had to deal with all those things she's done, she may have some problems that cause her to act this way, regardless it's a good idea to stay away from people like this. I just think it's better to do it more naturally by becoming distant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terrifiedwolves 571 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 I hope you didn't tell her anything too private - I had to let go of a friend too, they can use that stuff against you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chanychanchan 3,203 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 There's people like this in real life . That's horrible you need to somehow make her disinterest in you and hopefully get away from her. She sounds very dangerous Be careful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ah-Chu! 7 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 just ignore her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbellvm 766 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 just don't talk with her anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vocabulary 890 Posted November 18, 2016 Author Share Posted November 18, 2016 I want to thank everyone for their insights. Because of her, I became a very paranoid person. I constantly feel worried. As long as she's still in my life, I feel vulnerable and afraid. I don't know how to permanently get rid of her. It's like I have to move away, but I can't. All the comments were very helpful. I've looked through it. With all your comments in consideration, I'll take a little bit more time to think things through. Thank you all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ramkissoon 1,055 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 yeah. like others have said. just start ignoring her and she should get the message. I had a friend(s) like that. Eventually they'll stop bothering you. If not... could be serious. is she dangerous? hopefully you won't need any kind of restraining order. idk what it is with these types of people. They want to hang out with you but they treat you like shit. also Idk how close you live next to each other but if you live with family then they can always intercept interaction for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Go Away 127 Posted November 18, 2016 Share Posted November 18, 2016 I ignore them and show my poker face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted November 22, 2016 Share Posted November 22, 2016 Do it gradually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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