arineunha 352 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 I would like to know the signs and everything.. I've watched two friends of mine and both of them have a totally opposite dating history. the first friend has dated many guys but most of them just used her for a hookup or for sex. like quickies and she go outs with older guys some about 10 years older than her when she was underage. she feels like he's being used and she thinks to herself maybe she should stop going out with them, but she still does it.. the other girl has dated quite a few guys aswell. but she makes guys actually want to be with her. they visit her at work and go out of the province with her. even after a breakup, majority of the guys would do anything to get back with her and they confess to missing her. she does have sex aswell but she doesn't feel like she's being used. like why are the situations so different. is it because of the way each girl acts in a relationship or maybe just luck? I feel like I'm somewhere in the middle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
You Need Some Milk 4,270 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 Why do I feel like the first friend is playing haself thinking she feels guilty using the guys and still does but clearly they don't care if they aren't bugging her Whereas the second friend, how is she being used? Seems more like she using the guys since she has them so misted but can't really stay exclusive with any of them. Or she is naively leading them on to believing there is something more when there isn't and who knows there are so many things when it comes to dating and relationshits, some people have diff styles that work for them and such while others don't Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moya 1,405 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 How can we say what is different when we don't know them neither their boyfriends. Maybe the first one behave differently or pick boyfriends at club (which usually work only for one night stands) or maybe she is only naive while the other one can be sly fox who is using her boyfriends. There are like milion reasons why their dating life is like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khloé 40 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 Honestly I'd say don't trust a guy right off the bat. In fact, don't trust anyone right off the bat and take it slow. When you feel that you CAN trust them then go ahead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted November 14, 2016 Author Share Posted November 14, 2016 Honestly I'd say don't trust a guy right off the bat. In fact, don't trust anyone right off the bat and take it slow. When you feel that you CAN trust them then go ahead this is why one of my current fave song is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1hxg1rY17I Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khloé 40 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 this is why one of my current fave song is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1hxg1rY17I yasss good taste sis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thatoneuser 3,235 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 It's all in the guys they choose and honestly; it's in the person why their relationships are the way they are. If the girl keeps going after bad guys it's not just the guys to blame it's the girl too because she keeps going after bad guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oppa did mean it 1,607 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 I'm a guy and I've dated both type of girls you mentioned and in all honesty I can tell you that the first type of girl are always nicer because you know how they are not like the other chick that has to hide how she really is Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JiMiJu 1,858 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 she feels like he's being used and she thinks to herself maybe she should stop going out with them, but she still does it.. Maybe she is a bit conflicted about what she wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted November 14, 2016 Author Share Posted November 14, 2016 I'm a guy and I've dated both type of girls you mentioned and in all honesty I can tell you that the first type of girl are always nicer because you know how they are not like the other chick that has to hide how she really is from your side being it's probably easier to take advantage of the first girl..the other girl doesn't hide herself from her boyfriend. she likes her independence and just treats everyone like a friend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oppa did mean it 1,607 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 from your side being it's probably easier to take advantage of the first girl..the other girl doesn't hide herself from her boyfriend. she likes her independence and just treats everyone like a friend You can't take advantage of the first girl because she knows what she wants and what she doesn't and she clearly doesn't want a relationship, and to be honest the second girl is just manipulating guys to have a plan b or c Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted November 14, 2016 Author Share Posted November 14, 2016 You can't take advantage of the first girl because she knows what she wants and what she doesn't and she clearly doesn't want a relationship, and to be honest the second girl is just manipulating guys to have a plan b or c then why is the first girl complaining or crying to me or my other friend when guys use her for sex, if she acts that way then she clearly didn't want that. not that I take one person's side over the other since I know them both. the other girl is not 'manipulating' or a 'sly fox', she wants an actual relationship and she gets to be in one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted November 14, 2016 Share Posted November 14, 2016 like why are the situations so different. is it because of the way each girl acts in a relationship or maybe just luck? I feel like I'm somewhere in the middle I'd there are a lot of factors and circumstances that come into play and I guess you could call that "luck". However, aside from their inherent attributes, and how they behave and are perceived by others you'll have to wonder if they have the same ideals and goals about how a relationship should be. They might not even be striving for he same so it becomes meaningless to wonder how things are so different between them. I'm sure each one of them has their own values and a specific view about how relationships should be and it also affects how they perceived and value themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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