How to know if he's a player, cheater, etc.

[setmefree]

http://www.youbetterpreach.com/gamesvan.pdf

 

It's super long, but I thought it was really useful.

 

Tldr (although its better to read the whole thing):

 

• The men who purposely go out of their way to play mind games and manipulate women to get what they want which are: (1) sex (2) money and (3) a place to stay. 
• Listen to him most of the time because if you do most of the talking, men who play mind games automatically go into the listening mode, which means he's studying you. Don't tell him everything if he's asking you things you like because then he would turn into the man you are looking for. This means you will allow your heart to 
  get involved and you will let your wall and defenses down.
• BEFORE you get involved with any man, you need to know WHAT YOU WANT and what makes you happy. You also need to know what makes a happy and healthy relationship.
• Don't tell him everything for the few conversations. This is where he gets his ammunition to use against you. 
• Your objective of these first few conversations is to get to know him enough through conversation to see whether he is worthy of your time. Ask yourself this question: Are you falling for the man he TRULY IS or are you falling for the man who is PLAYING WITH YOUR MIND by BECOMING THE MAN you want because of the things you tell him?
• Why a player gets in a relationship with you: He knows that women, when they get into a relationship, are 95% faithful and will stay faithful and give all she has into it and not go outside the relationship.
• If he pulls the chair for you or opens the door for you, he is looking over you.
• What men really think about a women he is taking advantage of: Clueless, easy, stupid, pathetic, and not worth anything. 

Words of wisdom to you about men:

1. Telling a man something once is like not telling him at all. Tell him something 2 or 3 times. 

 

2. Men will never tell you the exact amount of women he has slept with. He will always downplay it. 

 

3. Honesty: The reason men are not honest is because they don't want to get in trouble or get asked a whole lot of questions. 

 

4. The type of men you attract many times can be directly related to the way you dress. How are you dressing? Short skirts, low cut blouses, tight dresses? When a man sees these things, he automatically is thinking of sex and how long will it take to get you in bed. 

 

5. If a man calls you SEXY, what he is really saying if you look at the word is he is thinking about having SEX with you when he says that. So don't get flattered when a man calls you sexy. 

 

6. You CAN'T change a man. Stop thinking you can. It can't and it won't happen. This is where many women make their mistake. Don't continue to waste time dealing with someone for another 6 months thinking you can change him. Ladies: learn that lesson by me telling you now or you will find it out later when you realize it yourself. I'm just trying to save you the trouble. 

 

7. Don't ever let a man pull you away from your family or friends. This is his way to try to control you. 

 

8. Watch out for the man who calls or texts you all the time Monday through Friday (Day Time) but disappears Friday Night to Sunday Night. This signifies he's in a relationship with someone else or he's married. 

 

Reasons he stops calling:

 

1. He is not interested in you anymore. 

 

2. He is interested in someone else. 

 

3. You are not sleeping with him as quickly as he wants you too. 

 

4. You have financial needs he does not want to feel obligated to take care of. 

 

5. He thinks you are crazy. 

 

6. He knows he wants to end it but he doesn't want to deal with all the questions you are going to ask. 

 

Signs he may be cheating:

 

1. If all of a sudden he starts to dress differently and wearing new cologne. 

 

2. Putting their cell phone on vibrate when they are around you. 

 

3. Hiding their cell phone.  

 

4. Not even letting you look in their cell phone. 

 

5. Always telling you it is a friend on the phone. 

 

6. Going in another room to talk on the phone. 

 

7. Not returning or answering their phone when you call.

 

 

 

 

Always remember, the number one thing this type of man uses is the information YOU GIVE HIM. Stay away from doing that, pay attention and just listen to him. When you do that, you will see where he is coming from so you can make the wise decision of leaving him just where you found him. 

 

[Kpopalypse]

Moral of the story for men: don't own a mobile phone and you're safe from 6 out of 7 cheating-detection strategies.

[Temptastic VII]

Moral of the story for men: don't own a mobile phone and you're safe from 6 out of 7 cheating-detection strategies.

 

Pretty much.

[Twin<3333LovesMango]

So men want sex and women are clueless creatures that have to watch their back.

 

So where the one where women play men? Oh wait -_-

[abra]

just lol

[Prosperity]

This article is pretty interesting to read, even for a male...

[chichibio]

Cosmo writers are on the loose again. Y'all ain't going nowhere if you strictly adhere to that mentality. How could people be so insecure and paranoid? Smh.

[shootzz]

I am a psychopath (not the kind who kill people or something like that). I love to push/pull (some people could call it flirting but it's kinda different). I am spontaneous, I tell girls what kind of person I am and if they don't accept me then they can fk off, I tried to keep my honestly. Reasons I stop calling? Well because you got nothing interesting to say or anything that can entertain me. Sign I may be cheating? Don't worry, the first think I tell you is that I am a player before the relationship start so there will be no surprises. Match this to the list listed above and see how close it is about me to what the list said.

[tamar braxton]

whores need to be stoned