Ginger91 195 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 I'm a closeted lesbian and on Saturday I was at a school event and this guy came up to me. He used to be in my class and he got transferred to another. He confessed to be that has he been in class for a little longer he would've asked me out and then he actually did ask me out. I didn't say anything so he took it as a yes. We've been 'going out' for two days now and I'm scared to tell him that I'm not interested in a relationship. I might be going to online school next year so I might only have to deal with him for another year but I don't want hurt him or lead him on. We barely see each other so it might not last anyway but if it doesn't what should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abra 40,910 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him. You can't just pretend to be in a relationship for a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vocalmonster 3,603 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him you have no time to be in a relationship and end it quickly before it becomes too serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jinni 4,412 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him the truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HARAM 6,330 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him you have no time to be in a relationship and end it quickly before it becomes too serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meems 229 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 You should tell him the truth. It's not fair for him to keep doing this and if you don't want o tell the truth just tell him you are not interested in any relationship now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atlantica 960 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 how is that even considered a relationship you don't even know each other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinae 2,486 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him you have no time to be in a relationship and end it quickly before it becomes too serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aki Namikaze 1,682 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him the truth now while it's still early. Otherwise you'll just come off as a wuss and a jerk. Don't forget to be tactful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveAuroraButterfly 625 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him you have no time to be in a relationship and end it quickly before it becomes too serious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweet Perfume 1,472 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 It isn't difficult to say you don't want a relationship. I have done it several times and the guys were okay and they understood it. He might feel disappointed, but you have to think about yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trixbox 2,982 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Break up with him, you're just prolonging the agony for the both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symphonia 312 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Tell him how you really feel and who you really are. I'm sure he will understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim Hyolyn 1,509 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 If you don't want to come out to him then just break up with him. Honestly what you've done is really rude, the guy obviously likes you and is happy you accepted his confession yet you're here contemplating whether or not to break up with him when the obvious answer is yes or else you'll end up hurting him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
25%Cotton 7,133 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 guys, she doesn't have to come out. that's a separate matter -- if she weren't gay she wouldn't suddenly have to date him. just tell him you don't really want a relationship. if he pulls some k-drama "i'll wait for you" bullshit, you can be a little more direct and say "sorry, i'm just not up for it"/"it's not going to work out." obviously you can't keep "dating" him. ---------- "sorry, i'm not interested in a relationship" etc may seem hard to say the first time, but every time you say it to someone it gets easier. as you get older and people learn more about what it is to be in a relationship, it's honestly not that big of a deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taebb 1,624 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 guys, she doesn't have to come out. that's a separate matter -- if she weren't gay she wouldn't suddenly have to date him. just tell him you don't really want a relationship. if he pulls some k-drama "i'll wait for you" bullshit, you can be a little more direct and say "sorry, i'm just not up for it"/"it's not going to work out." obviously you can't keep "dating" him. this is really, really important. op shouldn't have to come out, esp. not to this guy, if she doesn't feel safe doing so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
B612 22,399 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 how is that even considered a relationship you don't even know each other Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pangerannatt 4 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 just break up with him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minassi 90 Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 tell him. no need to waste each other's time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waffles8000 541 Posted November 8, 2016 Share Posted November 8, 2016 since you aren't out yet, you can't tell him the whole truth,,, but not being interested in him after knowing each other better would be a good idea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lusci 4,193 Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Dont let him hope if you dont love him its better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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