How to tell a friend an expression they keep using is a slur?!

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I have this exchange-student friend among our study circle who is actually quite sweet but seems a bit of a ditz. Thing is, she keeps using the word 'gipped' for any sort of tricking or thieving incident. I don't know how to tell her to stop using it, since it is a slur directed at Romani people. Also, in my friend group, a few people have adopted this new word and are themselves using it.

Help?

[lyanna]

"The expression you keep using is a slur."

[sage14]

There are no two ways about it. Just sit her down and explain to her why it's offensive. Be firm but not too condescending since she's probably genuinely ignorant and doesn't mean any harm. From my experience, she'll probably stop or at least be more careful once she understands the connotation.

[GalaxunnieSuperOppa]

Tell her its a slur, and she should stop using it.

[PromiscuousBunny]

Just straight up tell her and explain why she shouldn't use it.

[Aliza]

For the longest time I didn't actually know that was a racial slur - I was pretty happy (and embarrassed) when someone just straight up told me it was. You should just let her know. 

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For the longest time I didn't actually know that was a racial slur - I was pretty happy (and embarrassed) when someone just straight up told me it was. You should just let her know. 

 

 

 

Just straight up tell her and explain why she shouldn't use it.

 

 

Tell her its a slur, and she should stop using it.

 

 

There are no two ways about it. Just sit her down and explain to her why it's offensive. Be firm but not too condescending since she's probably genuinely ignorant and doesn't mean any harm. From my experience, she'll probably stop or at least be more careful once she understands the connotation.

 

 

"The expression you keep using is a slur."

 

Everyone, thank you!

I finally spoke to her, and said I also just found out and obviously someone as nice as her won't ever use it after knowing its meaning. She talked to the others about how she just found out it was a slur and not to use it.

[Hermit_Kingdom]

There are no two ways about it. Just sit her down and explain to her why it's offensive. Be firm but not too condescending since she's probably genuinely ignorant and doesn't mean any harm. From my experience, she'll probably stop or at least be more careful once she understands the connotation.

This. Sometimes you just don't know these things. English is not my first language and when I moved to England I kept using a word that was not ok to use. Thankfully someone explained it to me and then I stopped. She will be grateful to you most likely.