Kstarnet 1,502 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Strangers are sometimes better than friends. Sometimes it is true. There are other times that I wish I can make more friends and more warm as when I went into facebook, I feel that time passes very fast and lots of things are happening because my cousins are here and there updating about life while i am stuck here updating myself about kpop and the world. So I feel that I am isolate from the world. Do you feel this way? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GalaxunnieSuperOppa 5,997 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Not at all. But both cane equally good, if you meet the right people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Micah Bell 567 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Yes, I never actually make any real friends because I homeschool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicophos 1,660 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 im currently alone now- i chose bad toxic 'friends' (for the nth time now) which i broke away from after being used (for the nth time). my cousins do make fun of me for liking kpop and anime. and even with kpop fans and anime fans, i feel isolated somehow. i guess its an INFJ thing or whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oli London 1,762 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 Sometimes, but I chose to isolate myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22445 1,253 Posted October 20, 2016 Share Posted October 20, 2016 isolating yourself from the whole world and having no interest in making friends is a really selfish thing to do. you have to realise that friends help not only you but those around you as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstarnet 1,502 Posted October 21, 2016 Author Share Posted October 21, 2016 im currently alone now- i chose bad toxic 'friends' (for the nth time now) which i broke away from after being used (for the nth time). my cousins do make fun of me for liking kpop and anime. and even with kpop fans and anime fans, i feel isolated somehow. i guess its an INFJ thing or whatever. I can relate to you. I tend to hide from everyone fearing that everyone will judge me for liking kpop. I am INFJ as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dyodyoh 43 Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 isolating yourself from the whole world and having no interest in making friends is a really selfish thing to do. you have to realise that friends help not only you but those around you as well I don't think it's selfish. This is a preference, not a selfish thing. Some people enjoy more living alone and they don't want friends. Some are sociable, some are unsociable, this is not a question of selfish or not selfish. You can't say that friends are a must, yes, they are great at times but this is not an obligation. They don't need to realize that they are helpful, everyone knows that. Besides if you see someone alone, I don't think you can tell him "Go and get friends, don't stay alone that's not good" if he really doesn't want to. Sounds selfish, but then, all people that distance themselves from others because they don't like closeness are selfish. Furthermore, the other half (I don't think you're talking about them anyway) are those who are not able to socialize well because of others judgements. They can isolate themselves because it creates them a safe home. Finding friends, the good ones is not always an easy task ! That's my opinion of course But I think saying it's something selfish sound too much to me And sorry if you don't understand, my english is not the best but I do my best I can relate to you. I tend to hide from everyone fearing that everyone will judge me for liking kpop. I am INFJ as well I'm sorry for you guys, this is hard I know ! I used to be INFJ, but I changed to an ISFJ (I did this test 5 years ago :d). I never experience it, but don't be scared ! You don't need to show them you like it but you don't need to hide it either, but because I don't know how it feels I can't really help you... But just live your life and be yourself, who cares about others! I know that's easy to say it but I can't say anything else, I'm sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lusci 4,193 Posted October 21, 2016 Share Posted October 21, 2016 Virtual friendship can be really good, i met great person here, i can i say i really like/love a lot, but you should never forget the world outside from your screen ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstarnet 1,502 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Share Posted October 22, 2016 I don't think it's selfish. This is a preference, not a selfish thing. Some people enjoy more living alone and they don't want friends. Some are sociable, some are unsociable, this is not a question of selfish or not selfish. You can't say that friends are a must, yes, they are great at times but this is not an obligation. They don't need to realize that they are helpful, everyone knows that. Besides if you see someone alone, I don't think you can tell him "Go and get friends, don't stay alone that's not good" if he really doesn't want to. Sounds selfish, but then, all people that distance themselves from others because they don't like closeness are selfish. Furthermore, the other half (I don't think you're talking about them anyway) are those who are not able to socialize well because of others judgements. They can isolate themselves because it creates them a safe home. Finding friends, the good ones is not always an easy task ! That's my opinion of course But I think saying it's something selfish sound too much to me And sorry if you don't understand, my english is not the best but I do my best I'm sorry for you guys, this is hard I know ! I used to be INFJ, but I changed to an ISFJ (I did this test 5 years ago :d). I never experience it, but don't be scared ! You don't need to show them you like it but you don't need to hide it either, but because I don't know how it feels I can't really help you... But just live your life and be yourself, who cares about others! I know that's easy to say it but I can't say anything else, I'm sorry Thanks for your advice. I feel relieved, this is the situation that I am facing I tend to hide because I told my friends I like them and they just don't respect the fact. They still treat like a friend but they don't respect and told me not to talk to kpop to them (that was before I found this forum). Now, I rarely keep in touch with them. Then eventually I found this forum with the help of my close friend (who is also a member of this forum), we grew close and keep in touch with each other until now Thanks to this forum, I can let out inner fangirl while stay sane in public Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dyodyoh 43 Posted October 22, 2016 Share Posted October 22, 2016 Virtual friendship can be really good, i met great person here, i can i say i really like/love a lot, but you should never forget the world outside from your screen ^^ That's true ! And I want to add that virtual friends helps you not to feel alone. Each time you come back home, some people are always there and you can chat with them ! Thanks to that I'm not scared not having friends in real life (because I'm not good at making friends) Thanks for your advice. I feel relieved, this is the situation that I am facing I tend to hide because I told my friends I like them and they just don't respect the fact. They still treat like a friend but they don't respect and told me not to talk to kpop to them (that was before I found this forum). Now, I rarely keep in touch with them. Then eventually I found this forum with the help of my close friend (who is also a member of this forum), we grew close and keep in touch with each other until now Thanks to this forum, I can let out inner fangirl while stay sane in public I never talk about Kpop with people either, I just feel like they'll get bored because they don't care about it. I agree that thanks to this forum (and virtual friends), I can just say anything and fanboy over my bias DO KYUNGSOO !!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstarnet 1,502 Posted October 22, 2016 Author Share Posted October 22, 2016 That's true ! And I want to add that virtual friends helps you not to feel alone. Each time you come back home, some people are always there and you can chat with them ! Thanks to that I'm not scared not having friends in real life (because I'm not good at making friends) I never talk about Kpop with people either, I just feel like they'll get bored because they don't care about it. I agree that thanks to this forum (and virtual friends), I can just say anything and fanboy over my bias DO KYUNGSOO !!!! Amen, I feel that this forum is a safe place to us to bitch about anything and Kim Jin Woo is my bae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lusci 4,193 Posted October 22, 2016 Share Posted October 22, 2016 That's true ! And I want to add that virtual friends helps you not to feel alone. Each time you come back home, some people are always there and you can chat with them ! Thanks to that I'm not scared not having friends in real life (because I'm not good at making friends) I never talk about Kpop with people either, I just feel like they'll get bored because they don't care about it. I agree that thanks to this forum (and virtual friends), I can just say anything and fanboy over my bias DO KYUNGSOO !!!! Yes that's good from you to think like this, and if virtual fiendship helps you to be more confident in the world outside it's even more better ^^ Stay confident, courage, people around you will like you too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junebuggie 942 Posted October 22, 2016 Share Posted October 22, 2016 isolating yourself from the whole world and having no interest in making friends is a really selfish thing to do. you have to realise that friends help not only you but those around you as well It's not selfish lol... Some people just get more energy and feel more alive being alone. There's nothing wrong with that. No one should ever be forced to make friends if they don't want to....it's actually more unhealthy to have a forced relationship than a real one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dyodyoh 43 Posted October 23, 2016 Share Posted October 23, 2016 Amen, I feel that this forum is a safe place to us to bitch about anything and Kim Jin Woo is my bae Yes ! I'm really happy I found out OneHallyu ! Yes that's good from you to think like this, and if virtual fiendship helps you to be more confident in the world outside it's even more better ^^ Stay confident, courage, people around you will like you too Yeah ! Thanks ! That's very encouraging ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Merleawe 14 Posted October 23, 2016 Share Posted October 23, 2016 Having friends is a survival tactic. Sometimes, when you want to go to certain places or do certain things, you can't do them by yourself or you're incapable (as in not skilled in a field or something, etc). Unless those strangers can do something for you, they're not helpful. Same with friends. As nice as it is to have them, if they're not useful, well... Combination of intentions and how well you do with isolation. I try to have a balance of both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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