Anyone here in a military relationship?

[oppasinbstyle]

It doesnt have to be just in the US. 

 

Are you currently in a long distance relationship with your S/O?

If so, how is it? Any tips?

 

It's pretty weird for me because ive done this ldr thing fo a year with my navy boyfriend. Then he got stationed to San Diego for 2 years and it was amazing... but now he's in Japan for his next duty station and it sucks. I guess the 2 years we spent together made me love him even more so thats why im having extra hard time right now. Hoping for me to get used to it though. 

How about you guys? Any advice? 

[tatertots]

Not me, but my friends and one of my family members is in a military relationship. My cousin sends a lot of letters to her husband(she got married to him already) so she doesn't miss him. You should do that . 

 

If you really do love him, you should get married to him. He wouldn't be stationed as far or for a long time since he has a SO waiting for him back home. My friend's father got stationed everywhere until he got his first kid. Now he's just here stationed in San Diego.

[pumpernikiel]

This is kind of impresive. I don't think I could cope with long distance realshionship. Especially if it's a realtively new one. I wish you luck guys!

[arineunha]

no but that sounds so romantic tbh c: but i guess long distance could be a problem, in case you start missing your partner alot..

[oppasinbstyle]

Not me, but my friends and one of my family members is in a military relationship. My cousin sends a lot of letters to her husband(she got married to him already) so she doesn't miss him. You should do that . 

 

If you really do love him, you should get married to him. He wouldn't be stationed as far or for a long time since he has a SO waiting for him back home. My friend's father got stationed everywhere until he got his first kid. Now he's just here stationed in San Diego.

Oh I used to do that to him when he was in bootcamp but since he has his phone now and laptop i dont really see the point in letters anymore? But I have to admit that hand written letters are so much better than text. I was planning on sending him a care package but he's in Japan and all the cool and unique stuffs are already there. Like, all the things I could possibly send him are probably there already (or even cooler) 

 

And yeah we plan to get married. But he said he wants to wait after his tour in Japan. So were both gonna have to make it through the 2 years before we can be together. My friends mentioned getting engaged atleast but idk i dont like long engagements tbh.. its.. too much pressure imo. 

 

Anyways, OT, are you from San Diego as well?

 

This is kind of impresive. I don't think I could cope with long distance realshionship. Especially if it's a realtively new one. I wish you luck guys!

We've been dating for awhile Next year is our 4th anniversary. Thank you! Long distance are always hard but I think its one of the most beautiful kind of relationship of you do manage to get through it. :D

 

no but that sounds so romantic tbh c: but i guess long distance could be a problem, in case you start missing your partner alot..

Which is happening to me right now. Im so used to seeing him in my room after my work but now its empty and I get teary eyed because I realize I have to do this for 2 years. It sucks tbh.

[SuJulove]

I kinda am. My partner was in the Army Reserves and also volunteers at a RAAF museum in my town. I have a military family though. My father served in Korea, my sister's husband is a major in the Army and served in Afghanistan few years back. My English cousin is in the Fusiliers and served in Bosnia and my Uncle was in the Navy. My Great Grandfather was also in the Coldstream Guards.

[oppasinbstyle]

I kinda am. My partner was in the Army Reserves and also volunteers at a RAAF museum in my town. I have a military family though. My father served in Korea, my sister's husband is a major in the Army and served in Afghanistan few years back. My English cousin is in the Fusiliers and served in Bosnia and my Uncle was in the Navy. My Great Grandfather was also in the Coldstream Guards.

Oh wow. That's actually pretty awesome. Are you with your partner right now or is it long distance as well? 

[SuJulove]

Oh wow. That's actually pretty awesome. Are you with your partner right now or is it long distance as well? 

Yes I am still with him. We have been together 15 years and have a 14 year old daughter. We all live together.

[oppasinbstyle]

Yes I am still with him. We have been together 15 years and have a 14 year old daughter. We all live together.

Wow. that's what I want ^^

But I guess good things in life cant be rushed. 

[hentai]

@oppasinbstyle I am currently in the Navy, and in a long distance relationship. It is really fucking hard, but I know that by the end of it, everything will be worth it. I'm stationed in Guam, and my girlfriend lives in Manila (we met on a K-pop forum lmao) anyways we have been together for over a year now, but have only spent about a month and a half together which is the hardest part of all. Day after day we can only text each other and video call when we have free time. She has a job and I have a job both with very little time off so it makes it even harder. We do end up fighting more and more as the relationship continues to go on, but the amount of love that we have for each other is stronger than anything. The hardest part mostly is that I am out to sea (on a submarine) for about 6 months randomly throughout the year, which means that we can only email (when we are lucky). We are both very loyal and have trust for each other, and the only thing that keeps us going is that we know the the military is only a temporary drawback in our relationship. Only 2 more years to go for me.

[EasySteezy]

My on and off guy just got stationed in Japan for the next 6 months. I'll miss him, but we currently are off, so it's not like I'm obligated to wait since we're not together at the moment. I know us though, we're going to be back together when he comes back most likely. I'll probably message him every now and then to make sure everything is good with him

[RyoDori]

I'm currently in one of those relationship but the good thing is that my boyfriend is living in town at the moment. There have been times where he has been sent out to train in other states for months (or weeks). It's hard to keep in touch through phone because the are where he usually goes to is very confidential and barely any good phone service. What usually happens is, he'll go training for the whole day and then towards the end of the night, we try to at least talk on the phone for a few minutes before he has to turn in for the night. 

 

I missed him a lot when he was away but the best part of it all is when he comes back, it's all hugs and kisses. 

[oppasinbstyle]

@oppasinbstyle I am currently in the Navy, and in a long distance relationship. It is really fucking hard, but I know that by the end of it, everything will be worth it. I'm stationed in Guam, and my girlfriend lives in Manila (we met on a K-pop forum lmao) anyways we have been together for over a year now, but have only spent about a month and a half together which is the hardest part of all. Day after day we can only text each other and video call when we have free time. She has a job and I have a job both with very little time off so it makes it even harder. We do end up fighting more and more as the relationship continues to go on, but the amount of love that we have for each other is stronger than anything. The hardest part mostly is that I am out to sea (on a submarine) for about 6 months randomly throughout the year, which means that we can only email (when we are lucky). We are both very loyal and have trust for each other, and the only thing that keeps us going is that we know the the military is only a temporary drawback in our relationship. Only 2 more years to go for me.

Nice to see someone in the Navy here. ^^ 

And yeah.. damn.. submarines are harder bec you guys aren't allowed to disclose any information right? Also, the communication sucks :< Im happy to hear your story, only 2 more years to go for me as well. We can do it. They say that if it's hard then it's probably worth it. 

 

 

I'm currently in one of those relationship but the good thing is that my boyfriend is living in town at the moment. There have been times where he has been sent out to train in other states for months (or weeks). It's hard to keep in touch through phone because the are where he usually goes to is very confidential and barely any good phone service. What usually happens is, he'll go training for the whole day and then towards the end of the night, we try to at least talk on the phone for a few minutes before he has to turn in for the night. 

 

I missed him a lot when he was away but the best part of it all is when he comes back, it's all hugs and kisses. 

I knoooow thats the thing im trying to focus on. That when he's back our love is stronger than ever and everything just feels right. 

[Bom]

My boyfriend was in the army.

 

He was stationed in Germany, it was super difficult for me to deal with him being away a lot - especially in another country. Long distance relationships can be really difficult, especially military based, there were times when he got sent out for training and we couldn't speak for a few weeks at a time. It really hurt and it was lonely but when we finally spoke again it meant everything. 

 

While he was away I'd focus on myself, my friends and my studies - I was 16 so it was extra difficult as it was my first proper relationship and I was in college. You have to make the most of the little things, and when you're finally together again it really is the best feeling ever, it's indescribable.  Those are the only tips I can give really, but it's all worth it in the end. 

 

He's been out of the army for 3 years now, we now live together and still have a great relationship. I believe having that distance throughout the beginning of our relationship definitely made us stronger as a couple. 

 

I wish all of you good luck and happiness in your relationships. ♥