coolcoolcool 893 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hi guys.. So I like this guy, and my friend told me she likes him too. Then I told her I decide to choose her over him since our friendship is more important to me. But she says she will not, and she wants to find out if he likes her back and then confess if he does which put me in a really awkward situation. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nancy mcflurry 2,385 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 If she gets annoying kick her ass Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Go for him before she does. I would've text him the second after she said that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WonderJoyous 10,634 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Get him to like you back then confess to him and piss your friend off Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ePit 773 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 give yourself up to him, no man will resist sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bret 712 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 What a lucky guy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jooyoungsbae 5,281 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 the moment she ssaid that to you, it shows that she doesnt value this friendship as much as you do i would go for the guy too and its up to the guy who he will pick i guess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smiley Panda 321 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 ... Doesn't seem like she values your friendship as much as you do. Like the others have said, just confess to the guy anyway and regardless of the outcome re-evaluate your friendship with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Rain 1,501 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Get him to like you back then confess to him and piss your friend off Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kyanite 579 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Real "nice" friend you have there. Do whatever you want tbh but I wouldn't give up things for her in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GUILD 3,195 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Go for him before she does. I would've text him the second after she said that. Now depending on how the actual convo went, this might be how you fuck shit up. If her reaction was an acknowledgement of what you told her and obviously appreciating it, she's going for her man, then what's the problem? This is my take based on my obviously extremely limited context: Just bc you decide not to go for him bc of some perception that either one of you acting on your feelings would screw your relationship doesn't mean now all of a sudden she's not allowed to pursue a romantic one with someone who she likes. Isn't supporting her what a friend would do? If anything, I'd say you worded it a bit poorly. I'd say something more direct like "Go for him" or something. Not "I put you over him so I'm not going for him." What does that even mean? It comes off to me like "I'm a good friend so I ain't going for him. What about you bitch? " I mean if what you said was really what you meant, then wouldn't the obvious answer be to let your friend be happy with this guy? Just because two friends like one person doesn't mean neither can pursue them. EDIT: If her response was an acknowledgment and appreciation of your sacrifice and now she's going forward, then not only is that beautiful thing, but I'm sure many would kill for a friend like you and honestly, I believe it would only strengthen your bond because holy shit. Unless she's ignorant as all hell, in which case none of this will likely hold any water and you're just as good off feeling sour about it as honestly stepping out of the way. Of course the best thing to do would probably be to stick to your word anyways, but if she's that dense or just being slightly bitchy or selfish cause she really needs that D, then hey, it's up to you. I don't even know the girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice 216 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Do what Sakura and Ino did over Sasuke and knock each other out because he deserves to be with Naruto Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jcey 7,752 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Both of you should chase the guy. Don't give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rayellaz 1,221 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 fight it out, may the best woman win. but in all seriousness, go for the guy. clearly she doesn't value the friendship as much as you do. so she kinda doesn't deserve your loyalty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hima__ 449 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 well, if you have decided to choose her over the guy and really meant it than just let her do her things? I know that you said that because you value your friendship with her and even she said that she wanted to pursue the guy, well it didn't mean that she didn't value your friendship with her (maybe). she might think that you didn't have to choose her over the guy and go after him if you really like him. but if you really like him and want to go after him after she said that she would fight after him, then do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vocabulary 890 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 Please do keep us updated!!! And your friend isn't a worthy enough friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
93_L 75 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 I don't normally say this but just go for the guy. Your so-called friend obviously don't value your friendship as much as you do so there's nothing much to lose anyway. But in the end it depends on who the guy chooses. Till then, feel free to fight for what you want and I wish you all the best. Do what Sakura and Ino did over Sasuke and knock each other out because he deserves to be with Naruto Sasunaru shipper too? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rice 216 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 I don't normally say this but just go for the guy. Your so-called friend obviously don't value your friendship as much as you do so there's nothing much to lose anyway. But in the end it depends on who the guy chooses. Till then, feel free to fight for what you want and I wish you all the best. Sasunaru shipper too? Yes the rest of the episodes after episode 3 never happened Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lynnie 1,207 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 FIRSTLY DROP HER ASS AND GO FOR IT TBH WHAT YOU GONNA LOSE???? YOUR FRIEND ALREADY SEALED THE DEAL BY BEING A JERK BEST WISHES OMFG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delirium 4,237 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 Let the best and only woman win then <---you obviously need to kill her j/k why not both date him wait, that's not right either *thinking* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coolcoolcool 893 Posted October 9, 2016 Author Share Posted October 9, 2016 Please do keep us updated!!! And your friend isn't a worthy enough friend. My friend decided to tell him she has a crush on him a few hours after I posted this thread She wanted me to revel it too so he can choose but I felt like it's a really bad idea In the end, she revealed her crush, and he rejected her, but she thanked me for being a good friend and gave me a green light for going after him So things worked out well somehow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xenoire 471 Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 that bitch, go for that d gurl she obvi dont care about u Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justsora 3 Posted October 10, 2016 Share Posted October 10, 2016 You are a nice person. Dont waste your time on your crush and your "friends". Its not worth it. You dont want to be in the middle of all of this. Just show her that you are a better person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coolcoolcool 893 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Share Posted October 10, 2016 If she gets annoying kick her ass Go for him before she does. I would've text him the second after she said that. the moment she ssaid that to you, it shows that she doesnt value this friendship as much as you do i would go for the guy too and its up to the guy who he will pick i guess ... Doesn't seem like she values your friendship as much as you do. Like the others have said, just confess to the guy anyway and regardless of the outcome re-evaluate your friendship with her. FIRSTLY DROP HER ASS AND GO FOR IT TBH WHAT YOU GONNA LOSE???? YOUR FRIEND ALREADY SEALED THE DEAL BY BEING A JERK BEST WISHES OMFG I don't normally say this but just go for the guy. Your so-called friend obviously don't value your friendship as much as you do so there's nothing much to lose anyway. But in the end it depends on who the guy chooses. Till then, feel free to fight for what you want and I wish you all the best. Sasunaru shipper too? Noted, thanks for the advice <3 she kind of screw her chances with him anyway so I'll go for him regardless Now depending on how the actual convo went, this might be how you fuck shit up. If her reaction was an acknowledgement of what you told her and obviously appreciating it, she's going for her man, then what's the problem? This is my take based on my obviously extremely limited context: Just bc you decide not to go for him bc of some perception that either one of you acting on your feelings would screw your relationship doesn't mean now all of a sudden she's not allowed to pursue a romantic one with someone who she likes. Isn't supporting her what a friend would do? If anything, I'd say you worded it a bit poorly. I'd say something more direct like "Go for him" or something. Not "I put you over him so I'm not going for him." What does that even mean? It comes off to me like "I'm a good friend so I ain't going for him. What about you bitch? " I mean if what you said was really what you meant, then wouldn't the obvious answer be to let your friend be happy with this guy? Just because two friends like one person doesn't mean neither can pursue them. EDIT: If her response was an acknowledgment and appreciation of your sacrifice and now she's going forward, then not only is that beautiful thing, but I'm sure many would kill for a friend like you and honestly, I believe it would only strengthen your bond because holy shit. Unless she's ignorant as all hell, in which case none of this will likely hold any water and you're just as good off feeling sour about it as honestly stepping out of the way. Of course the best thing to do would probably be to stick to your word anyways, but if she's that dense or just being slightly bitchy or selfish cause she really needs that D, then hey, it's up to you. I don't even know the girl. The convo went exactly like you described in the edit, so yeah I am a really good friend, it a good and bad thing at the same time, because sometimes I do tend to expect people to act like me and then I get hurt, so in a way I did think "I'm a good friend so I ain't going for him. What about you bitch" because I expected her to give up for me as well. Thank you for your insight, you really made me think well, if you have decided to choose her over the guy and really meant it than just let her do her things? I know that you said that because you value your friendship with her and even she said that she wanted to pursue the guy, well it didn't mean that she didn't value your friendship with her (maybe). she might think that you didn't have to choose her over the guy and go after him if you really like him. but if you really like him and want to go after him after she said that she would fight after him, then do it. For me, friendship is more important then guys, but then again I would've been hurt and really upset if she went for it and they would have really become a couple, I guess I just expected her to do the same for me, it's a bad habit I have to over estimate people's loyalty because I'm a really loyal friend. Thanks for the advice though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coolcoolcool 893 Posted October 10, 2016 Author Share Posted October 10, 2016 that bitch, go for that d gurl she obvi dont care about u She was really kind to me before and said how much she appreciates me, it really disappointed me :/ You are a nice person. Dont waste your time on your crush and your "friends". Its not worth it. You dont want to be in the middle of all of this. Just show her that you are a better person. Noted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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