strawberrykiss 1,969 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 i've been speaking to this guy online, and we've been talking every single day for about three weeks now. he's from a different country, culture, speaks another language so we don't have much in common. he lives close to me though, and he's been asking me to meet up. i'm really shy and awkward around guys and i don't really know what to do. that in addition to the language barrier since his english isn't that great is freaking me out lol. he messages me when he wakes up, before he goes to work, on his way home from work, before he sleeps, like it's serious ya'll. he's a good guy and I enjoy having him as a friend, but i really don't want to date. at all. with anyone at this point. it's not like i'm not attracted to guys but I just think that it's better for me to stay single at the moment. from the way he's been talking to me lately, i'm starting to think he's catching feelings and i don't wanna hurt him or turn him down from now cause he's just a friend. how do i start to distance myself from him? the talking everyday is the bit that freaks me out. i'm travelling in nov for about 4 months so he wants to meet up before then. EDIT: He's not a creep guys lol. whenever I draw the line he respects my decision. He hasn't forced himself on me or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangerous church oppa 842 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 tell him that you think of him as a good friend only. It's better to draw the line early before things get deeper honey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkle dust 1,841 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 This guy sounds like a creep that need to get a life. Just slowly don't reply to his messages and by the end tell him your too busy with life to ever message him again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beench 15 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 don't worry about hurting his feelings. you need to tell him straight up that you only want him as a friend. he would be more hurt later if he felt like you were "leading him on" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicophos 1,660 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 screw his feelings, tell him you dont want him romantically. its better for him to know and suffer now than suffer then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pussy luver 324 Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 quick way out lie to him tell him u lesbo lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 If you don't actually meet up he will surely get bored at one point, specially if you don't display the same interest he seems to have in you. However if you don't want to be that mean then you should just being honest with him; like if you really talk that frequently I'd assume you should already be confident enough with him to talk about what you really think about his proposition. You can tell him that while he's a good friend you feel unsure about him coming up because you don't want to be compromised. Then you need to tell him that he shouldn't visit you if has an expectation on dating or becoming a couple; you don't want that type of compromise right now and you also don't want him to make all that effort for nothing. You need to make him realize that while both of you have become good friends now three weeks still feels too soon (specially if he has other intentions than just meeting up and being friends) and it's possible that by meeting in person things would be different; things could be better as well as things could become worse. So at the end of the day you consider is too soon and it would be the best for both parts to slow things a little. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted October 6, 2016 Share Posted October 6, 2016 tell him that you want to remain single for now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strawberrykiss 1,969 Posted October 6, 2016 Author Share Posted October 6, 2016 If you don't actually meet up he will surely get bored at one point, specially if you don't display the same interest he seems to have in you. However if you don't want to be that mean then you should just being honest with him; like if you really talk that frequently I'd assume you should already be confident enough with him to talk about what you really think about his proposition. You can tell him that while he's a good friend you feel unsure about him coming up because you don't want to be compromised. Then you need to tell him that he shouldn't visit you if has an expectation on dating or becoming a couple; you don't want that type of compromise right now and you also don't want him to make all that effort for nothing. You need to make him realize that while both of you have become good friends now three weeks still feels too soon (specially if he has other intentions than just meeting up and being friends) and it's possible that by meeting in person things would be different; things could be better as well as things could become worse. So at the end of the day you consider is too soon and it would be the best for both parts to slow things a little. omg i was waiting for you to see this ahah! thank you <3 love your responses as always. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freyas88 40 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 A meet up won't hurt and prepare yourself to tell him that you take him only as good friend. Be straightforward enough to let him understand your point of view... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 Don't meet up, it's kinda pushy.. even if you do decide to meet up with him don't do it alone okay? ((even hes a friend, safety first ^^) but you should try dropping more hints that you are uncomfortable/don't want to meet up/not interested in dating yet etc I'm sure if you act reasonable he'll understand and maaaybe back off but.. choose your words wisely because you don't want to start a fight, okay? good luck >3< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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