How to improve interpersonal skills?

[venus in converse ~]

I'm too laid back and lazy but I'm so anxious and over think at the same time ~

I know we're harsh to ourselves but I can't really find so something really positive about myself ~

 

Even I have problem in making complete and coherent speech in daily life, I often looks spacing out and very confused, I guess it bother some people and I got easily offended when people said so even tho I never express my displeasure toward their comment~

 

How can I work on that?

I'm just plain dull and lifeless ~

I see people like to tease each other n playful manner but I have no sense like that ~

And I feel ridiculous when I talking alone to train my speech ~T_T~

Looks even I'm confused to describe my concerns even tho I know what's my problem is ::>_<::

I'm sorry if I make you confused

I'll appreciate every suggestions ∩__∩

Don't get me wrong ~

I don't want to change myself and act like somebody else but I want to improve it because I'm scared I won't be functioning as normal social human being if I can't change those sides of me ~

[plutto]

practice

[Dovah Bitch]

Join a club at school? Volunteer? 

[auroras]

The only way to improve interpersonal skill is to interact with people as much as possible but not to the point where you feel too stressed. If you feel comfortable enough with someone to share these concerns with in person, do so and get feedback.

[A random user]

Start with socializing through small talks (current non-taboo news, weather, trends) and once you feel comfortable with that, you can go on more "in-deep" conversations.

 

That is my advice.

[Suzy Quatro]

You need to practice and have conversations with other people, especially someone that isn't your friend already. I know it can be very difficult to do it but there are certain activities that should allow you to practice. For example when I was learning other languages there were some groups just for having conversations and practice and they were pretty casual and smooth conversations. So you could try doing something that involves a fair amount of conversation, you won't change overnight though but if you are consistent you should at least feel more comfortable.