CrayCray 2,636 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 One of my coworkers/friends who I've known for two years is throwing a bonfire and did not care to invite me because she only wanted to invite the "cool" people...why do I feel sad. It's not that I want to be a "cool" kid okay, I don't give a fudge about that. I just feel...betrayed(?) in a way. I need to let this out of my chest. I've never been the one to care about not getting invited to anyone's party because I'm not into those things anyway. This time though, putting all the pieces together, thinking back when I walked into the room with her (let's call her J) talking to someone, telling them "she acts differently outside of work". I know I shouldn't assume she was talking about me but I can't help but think she was referring to me. I had thought she considered me a friend by now because every day we come into work, we would greet each other excitingly and happily, telling each other what we would expect to happen at work that day and laugh about it. Today, I was walking past her as she was inviting another coworker (let's call him E) to her bonfire. E turned to me and said "*insert my name* is cool too!" I didn't know what he was talking about so I just gave him a questioning face and laughed. J turned around and just smiled at my confused look. Later on, I was walking past J as she was inviting one of our newly hired handsome employees. That's when I thought, wait, he just started working here yesterday, but I've worked with you for two years... I also don't know if this had anything to do with the guy she used to like but he showed interest in me instead. Who knows? This all might be because of jealousy too. I don't know any more. I'm a lonely soab. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rene. 2,660 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Its fine not to be "cool"...I am not either, lets be dorks together ^ ^ and don't worry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CALICO CAT 8,999 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 wth how old is she? i thought people grew up from that phase in the 9th grade dont worry op, not worth being invited to that kind of party anyways Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
♥ jae's bae ♥ 740 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 she has the mentality of a 10-year-old. It is not okay to exclude you like that. you're better off not being invited OP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NINI 16,268 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 This sucks tbh, but at least you've understood what type of person she is. It's her / their loss, don't feel bad Its fine not to be "cool"...I am not either, lets be dorks together ^ ^ and don't worryYeaaah, let's be dorks lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loketâ™” 4,144 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 lmao she is petty,who goes and still invites people to events they organize just because they are cool? like?! that is what kids do,it is better that you didn't get invited tho that is freaking stupid and petty from her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rene. 2,660 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Yeaaah, let's be dorks lmao lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thigh-high feminist 15,776 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Whatever the problem is, it's her problem not yours so don't let her make you sad. Or are you sad because you feel like you lost a friend? I understand if this is the case *hug* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lyanna 2,986 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 Pee on her to show dominance. Nah jk, just ignore her and her highschool drama queen mentality Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAUCY 44,499 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 it's normal to feel upset at exclusion do something fun with your other friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicophos 1,660 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 advice? do something while theyre doing something else. if she didnt invite you then you cant force her. when you meet her next time, be polite and nice but put her in the back burner as she put you in her back burner. get over her, shes not a friend. a friend does not make you a second choice okay? it might be hard as you might feel attachment to her but youll get over her. you are worth more than you think. fighting! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CookieMaster 3,005 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 What youre feeling is completely normal. I mean if someone insults you you'd feel bad even if you really didnt care about what they think, this is like that. But I have to say this sounds like something middle schoolers would do, not inviting someone cause theyre "not cool" lol what who even thinks like that, like what even is "cool" xD dw OP the party's probably not even gonna be fun haha, but consider making new friends, Ive had friends like this that act like you are the most important person but they really just dont care and often just wanna use you for work or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggyly 1,479 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 It's okay to care and be upset! And I think you dealt with it coolly by not being childish or petty or cursing her out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Serenee 3,730 Posted August 30, 2016 Share Posted August 30, 2016 I am in the same situation like you. I don't like going to parties, so people don't invite me. It's not really saddening for me, unless it's someone I feel close to. I mean, I know they don't invite me because they know I won't go anyway, but at least ask me so I won't feel weird and overthink. However, it seems like this friend of yours is making you feel bad on purpose. Maybe she has a childish grudge or something. It's completely normal to feel bad, but you don't have to take it to heart. Find better friends! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrayCray 2,636 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 Thank you all for the encouraging words guys! Yall are awesome Its fine not to be "cool"...I am not either, lets be dorks together ^ ^ and don't worry wth how old is she? i thought people grew up from that phase in the 9th grade dont worry op, not worth being invited to that kind of party anyways Thanks She and I are older than most of the employees but she's younger than me. Whatever the problem is, it's her problem not yours so don't let her make you sad. Or are you sad because you feel like you lost a friend? I understand if this is the case *hug* Yeah I pretty much feel like she doesn't consider me as anything more than a coworker when I thought of her as a friend. I've been ignored by so-called "friends" in the past before so this hurt is nothing new. The pain is temporary though and time does heal me advice? do something while theyre doing something else. if she didnt invite you then you cant force her. when you meet her next time, be polite and nice but put her in the back burner as she put you in her back burner. get over her, shes not a friend. a friend does not make you a second choice okay? it might be hard as you might feel attachment to her but youll get over her. you are worth more than you think. fighting! I'm not attached to her. I just have a bit of this saddening feeling when I thought she would be considerate enough to ask me but she didn't. I'm the type that doesn't like to hurt others just because they've hurt me. And the only people in the world that can make me feel unworthy of myself are my parents. Thanks for your advice though, Nico! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stori 416 Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Is she trying to be one of those cliche "popular" girls from high school? I'd honestly rather hang out with you and be a bunch of dorks than go to a party held by a person like that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrayCray 2,636 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 Is she trying to be one of those cliche "popular" girls from high school? I'd honestly rather hang out with you and be a bunch of dorks than go to a party held by a person like that Awww you just made the rest of my day! Thankyu Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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