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Why do some friendships from grade school and middle school fall apart in highschool?


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Because in high school, you found out somehow who you are, and sometimes, the friendship you had previously with the other one fall apart because you became different from each other, and there's kind of incompatibility. This is what I've experienced with some friendships that turned over after high school. 

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There are alot of reasons but a lot of it has to do with being less likely to be in the same classes and clubs or after school activities. If you don't spend enough time with each other it is easy to grow distant and make friends with other people that you see more often because you share classes and clubs or activities.

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Because people change, often in a way that's not complementary anymore to the other person's change. High school is the time when most of us start defining ourselves as persons, start figuring out (or at least trying to figure out) what we want in life, the goals we want to accomplish, start forging more serious relationships with people around us and deciding what kind of people we actually want in our lives, so old relationships often end up falling apart because the other person doesn't fit into that picture anymore.

 

Also, for a lot of people fitting in that new environment is usually the primary goal, and old friendships are put on a back burner because of that, especially if you're not in the same class or school, and the friendship slowly starts desolating because neither/one side is not putting in enough effort to keep in contact.

Thankfully, for me it was the other way around, I disliked my high school classmates from the beginning, as did my old friends who were in different classes/schools, so all of us concentrated on nurturing our 10+ years old friendships instead, and here we are in college, still going strong (:

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I know I was much different in high school than I was in middle school, and the friends I hung out with before just didn't mesh with me as well by the time we got to high school. Usually you make new friends in high school that are more suited for you anyway. :)

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Younger kids are more tolerant even tho theyre immature because they haven't seen much of the world. What is right and wrong. Human development is also values development.

 

Outgrowing each other because they've simply found who they are (This is true especially in adulthood). Who are good for their growth and who are no longer needed. That's why some reunions are awkward, but of course its the sentimentality that counts

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I'm going to HS rn ( first grade,my school starts in 2 week and I'm shitting myself of how scared I am of new school) and I have a huge group of friends from middle school who I have been around 2 years ago and we are constantly going out together and all that and I am scared that our friendship is going to fall apart since we are all going to new school,new group of friends and it will be hard to keep in contact with school and our private lives 

I don't wanna lose them,but I guess that is the part of life tho but we live fairly close so maybe we should hang out with each other here and there? Idk like I'm staying 100 % with my bff but idk about the rest

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Maybe because you and your friend haven't seen each other for ages? or because your personality changed?

 

i've been friends (not bestfriends but close friends) since kindergarten (first school, studying in the same school till now actually) with M*****, I*******, D****, idk who else. We're used to each other, we don't even get hurt when we tell honest opinions of our friend whether it's something bad or not  :hurr:

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it's sad to think about it

 

Time passes by and people change, including you, you meet people that will either stay alongside you or people that would only be there when they want to :cry:

 

I don't really talk to my middle school friends anymore but we're in good terms

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