Junebuggie 942 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 For a month now, things have been very crazy for me. I have this circle of friends that I'm really close to (all our parents are super close as well). There's this one guy in the circle, who I will call "Bob", that I like A LOT. We've known each other for a few years now and even went on vacation with each other once. About a year ago, I developed this crush on Bob, but that didn't go well cause 1) He was in a very flirty stage at that time and 2) He didn't like me back. How did I know he didn't like me? I had another friend from our circle ask him if he was interested, which of course he said no. I got over him after a few months and completely ignored him for awhile cause he started talking shit about me with another friend from circle. I shall call her "Lily". About a month ago, he started talking to me again; forgiving him, I talked to him as well. Little did I know, us talking again led to nonstop texting and it's still going on right now. After a few weeks of texting, I found myself liking him again. But I fearing that he was only playing with me, I told Lily to text him about it. Telling her to tell Bob that if he's not interested, he shouldn't be playing around. During their conversation, Bob tells Lily that he likes her (Lily doesn't like him back), but feels really bad since Lily and I are super close. Heartbroken, I just decided to back off. A week ago, he decided to come over to my house; apologizing for what he did. We talked for hours about random shiz. At the end of his little visit, he kissed me twice and told me that he's starting to like me... I'm extremely confused rn....I'm happy that he said that, but at the same time, I feel like he's only saying that to make me happy. Not that he's not showing the love, but I just don't trust his words for some reason.. What do you guys think? About his words and what I should do? TL;DR: Can't really find a way to shorten this...just read it...it's kinda interesting imo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ron Swanson 6,677 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Tbh I think hes just saying that because he can't get with Lily. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Come Back Sand Unplugged 1,042 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 When you feel like there's no way out, LOVE is the only way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DramaticTaeyeon" 2,851 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 When you feel like there's no way out, LOVE is the only way. /dead ---- Anyway's I don't you should talk with him for a while, it just doesn't seem right that he liked you and your friend, I don't think he know's what he wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgl 5,919 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 To me, it just sounds like he didn't get who he wanted, and is just using you because you are someone who likes/liked him, so you are a more "sure thing". There's also the chance he might be really falling for you because you like him. Guys do tend to start falling for girls that show interest in them. I'm still leaning with the first scenario though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junebuggie 942 Posted December 15, 2013 Author Share Posted December 15, 2013 Tbh I think hes just saying that because he can't get with Lily. That's what I'm thinking, but he's telling me how he only said he liked her cause we were gossiping about him; putting him in an awkward situation.... /dead ---- Anyway's I don't you should talk with him for a while, it just doesn't seem right that he liked you and your friend, I don't think he know's what he wants. You're right...he doesn't know what he wants. I should really stop talking to him To me, it just sounds like he didn't get who he wanted, and is just using you because you are someone who likes/liked him, so you are a more "sure thing". There's also the chance he might be really falling for you because you like him. Guys do tend to start falling for girls that show interest in them. I'm still leaning with the first scenario though. Should I stop talking to him? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ron Swanson 6,677 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 That's what I'm thinking, but he's telling me how he only said he liked her cause we were gossiping about him; putting him in an awkward situation.... Thats a stupid reason to like someone. Judging him right now.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pixelwave 283 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Should I stop talking to him? Imo maybe yes. You could try to keep distance for a while. If he really likes you, he will make an effort to get your attention back. If not–well, at least you will make things clear and will be able to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skibop!! 8,585 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 He's wants sex from you if he can get it, but no, he doesn't have feelings for you and doesn't want to be in a relationship with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Midnight Dreamer 638 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 The guy is confused rn... let him soul searched before talking to him again... He might used you to get Lily back... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezgiT 3,098 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Thats a stupid reason to like someone. Judging him right now.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgl 5,919 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Should I stop talking to him? Honestly? I think that would probably be for the best, at least for a while. I mean, you are pretty so there must be something wrong with him trying to be playing around. The guy also needs some time to think about what he has done and how he shouldn't try to be a "player". Who knows, maybe he'll learn the lesson and in the future will genuinely try to win you back in a proper way. For now it's best to just stop talking or get away from him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mnt21 702 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 He's playing you, he probably doesn't like you and just wants to be with you because your friend told him no. If you end up dating after he gets what he wants he will break up with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
l u n n a 1,382 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 I suggest you stay away from this guy, clearly he doesn't even know what he wants. Sounds like he wants to use you to get back at Lily or some shit. Regardless he still seems untrustworthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
originalname4u 99 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 About a year ago, I developed this crush on Bob, but that didn't go well cause 1) He was in a very flirty stage at that time and 2) He didn't like me back. How did I know he didn't like me? I had another friend from our circle ask him if he was interested, which of course he said no. I got over him after a few months and completely ignored him for awhile cause he started talking shit about me with another friend from circle. I shall call her "Lily". Just from the bolded, he doesn't sound like anyone who is worth your time. He sounds like a jerk and/or a confused individual. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
han. 13 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 yeah, i think he's just pressed bc he can't get with lily. i think you should keep your distance for a bit and if he still tries to pursue you while you're ignoring him (or you hear of him making an effort), then he does like you. but for now, as hard as it sounds, you can't give in to him. i'm pretty sure he views you as the girl who will always come back to him, so you need to deter from that image. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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