Advice on this please? Hurt and pain of family.

[Salieri]

Long story short. I just heard that my grandmother passed away. I really don't know what to do (I've always hated the feeling of losing someone after the lost of someone else close to me) and my parents are just hurt due to this. Honesty how does one ever get over it. It just hurts way too much and even like this I'm still trying to be strong for both my father and mother and sister but I just end up crying alongside them.

[Oh Devonne]

I think it's better to cry now because it can get worse if you keep it all inside

[KAI PARKER]

Please stay strong , both my grandmother and grandfather went to the hospital this month .they re my father's parent so whenever I see him talking in the phone with them I can see the pain in his eyes. And the worst part is I know that at anytime we ll get a bad news from them , It keeps me so worried and sad inside . But I never show that side of me to my parents.

[Pussy luver]

been there done dat, never a great feelin but time heals... my condolences

[thekangseulgi]

my condolences.

let your emotions run free. dont hide them and dont try to repress your feelings.

[Jcey]

I cried by myself when my grandmother passed away. It didn't feel real at all. Its okay to let out your emotions. Stay together with your family during these sad times.

[Ziggyly]

Grieving is only natural. Only time can heal the pain. All the best, it's okay to cry but stay strong! 

[Salieri]

Please stay strong , both my grandmother and grandfather went to the hospital this month .they re my father's parent so whenever I see him talking in the phone with them I can see the pain in his eyes. And the worst part is I know that at anytime we ll get a bad news from them , It keeps me so worried and sad inside . But I never show that side of me to my parents.

Despite being a guy I'm so fragile during times like these. Just the pain from my mother crying hurts so much. My dad was so down when he read the message. I really hope the best for your grandparents and really hang in there. Thanks you for the supporting words.

 

 

I cried by myself when my grandmother passed away. It didn't feel real at all. Its okay to let out your emotions. Stay together with your family during these sad times.

Thanks you it might be hard for that as my father needs to go abroad to do some stuff for my grandmother and my mother might go with him to support him during these times . we live a lot further away from there.

[00ca]

I've been fortunate enough not to have experienced such a sad event like this, so my advice probably won't be of use.

But please stay strong!! I understand how much pain you and your family are enduring, but think of her passing as a celebration to life!! I'm sure she wouldn't want you guys being sad and crying over her. If anything, she would want you guys to move on and treasure her very exsistense and all the happiness she brought to you!! Also, try not to bottle your emotions up and let out your tears; it isn't good to hold it all in. I really hope she rests in peace, and im wishing for you and your family to overcome this pain. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'll be here. 

My condolences

[Jen1886]

I empathise with you and I'm sorry for your loss. Please keep in mind that grief is a natural process and people may experience it in different ways. If its to the point where it's affecting your everyday lives perhaps it's wise to consider getting some counselling 

[hima__]

My condolences, dear.  Grieving is natural. Just be there for your parents and give them the support and strength and it's definitely alright to cry. I think no one will really get over the sadness but they just learn to keep moving forward because I'm sure the people who have left us, would never want to see us grieving and crying over them all the time. The scar and the pain might always remain but will always get stronger from those. 

[mon chan]

My grandpa past away 2 months ago too, it was 1 day before my final exams. Just cry your heart out! and sleep and then find someone u trust to pour out your feelings. I'm the talking type so it helps. Or try focusing on study or work, whatever way that keeps yourself busy and active. Staying alone is a no no as u will dwell more deeply in your sadness. Fighting!

[Bitman]

My grand-father passed away and my father when I was a teenager. It hurts I know. I wanted to be strong too. But I burst out crying at my father's funeral. Just cry. Scream. Shout. Go somewhere where you can be alone and let it all out. All the emotions you have. Let it out. It hurts even more when you keep it in. It's okay to cry. If you're a guy, no one's going to think any less of you for crying about losing someone you love. For me, to tell you the truth...for me, I won't say I got over it. But it got easier to cope with. The one thing you must do though, use your support networks. Your family will understand the pain you're going through. Because they're suffering too aren't they? You're not alone. 

[katz]

The sorrow never really goes away. You always miss them, but having lost both my grandparents and even my great grandmother recently, my advice is: grieve now. It's okay to let yourself be sad and cry, this was something painful, you lost loved ones. In the months to come it will be the most difficult since it's still so fresh. I think the first year is the hardest, but once the first year passes, it gets better. You'll never stop missing them. There are still things to this day, that strike a memory in me and make me pause-and I miss them, but it will get better.

 

For me, the hardest thing to this day, is going to their old house. My uncle took it over and both their chairs are still left, right where they were in the living room, in the exact same spot. My grandparents sat in their respective chairs every. single. night. without fail at the end of a long day, so to see them unoccupied-is still very difficult for me.The house still has the same smell-my uncle's a smoker, they weren't, but he smokes outside. It's still strange to this day to go there, and have it so....barren. I have never, to this day, and probably will never, stop calling it my "grandparents" place. Regardless of who occupies it.

[newnewgudgud]

I've lost all my grandparents maternal and paternal sides....my grandmother (mom's mother) recently in 2014...you never really get over the pain..you cry it out all you want...talk about the fun times...yet at the end of it all you still feel incomplete...like a piece to a puzzle is missing..I still miss my grandmother very much to this day...she was so present when she was here on earth....we'd watch k-dramas, filipino dramas even Bollywood tv series and talk about how much we despised the antagonists...she'd sew all my dresses and tops and skirts...and still compliment me even when my Mom loathed how much weight I gained..my siblings and I would make weekend trips over to her small gardened little cottage house and it would be the best place to be on  any day...ready made pastries with tea boiling on the stove..and we hadn't even told her we were coming over...but alas she was always ready....you can only heal by reminiscing the good times and not so much on the bad..talk about it with your family...let go of all the pent up emotions...I talked to my grandma on the day of the funeral at the cemetery..and said how much I regretted not saying I loved her for the most times I spent with her before crying so much in front of my family..a day I had shed more tears than I could ever remember..but I'd like to say this...healing is different for everyone...some get over it some don't and some are just concealing the pain with boughs and boughs of work be it school or other activities...I know this post didn't really help   but it's a start by talking about it!! 

Condolences to you and your fam...

[7up]

I think it's better to cry now because it can get worse if you keep it all inside