KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Need some advice. I went to make some tea in the break room, and one of my co-workers who is a guy was also there. To not be awkward, since I have hardly ever spoken to him, and he sits in the same area as me, I decided to just be friendly and chat with him. So I just asked how his day was going, and why he was sent to another place which was all fine I thought, it was generally positive, but now I am really afraid that he might have thought I was flirting with him ,when I wasn't. He told me at the end "I hope you come in tomorrow." I replied "Don't worry, I will". Then I said "Good luck" since he was working on a project then he said "Thanks, but you need it more." - Uh... So I think he told the others, because he suddenly started talking about his age and family, when I was there, which I paid no attention to, but thought it was odd because they have worked with each other for a while so they should know all these small details, unlike me who is relatively new. Then when I was about to leave, there was only 2 people, I said "See you tomorrow" to my female co-worker who sits next me, as I was near the door, he walked past me and said "See you tomorrow" whilst smiling, then he sort of stared at me for 3-4 seconds. --- Basically, what can I do to prevent any further damage? I obviously didn't mean that way at all, since I am generally friendly with my female co-workers the same way. This was also the first time I ever spoke to him properly. Should I keep a low profile? --- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
양 지 10,015 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 just do you lol, if he asks you out or goes forward with his intentions then tell him your not interested. done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 27, 2016 Author Share Posted June 27, 2016 just do you lol, if he asks you out or goes forward with his intentions then tell him your not interested. done. Not sure if he ever will, I hardly ever interact with him in terms of work. When we talked in the break room, it just happened randomly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janiedee 4,766 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Well you can continue to be friendly, but shut him down if he suggests anything outside of strictly professional bounds like asking you out for lunch or probing too much into your personal life. Let's hope he's the type of person who can catch a hint. If he doesn't don't be afraid to explain in explicit terms your boundaries. In the case it escalates and he makes you uncomfortable or does something inappropriate, then don't be afraid to take it up to HR. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D a n t e 1,723 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 I had something similar happen. Due to a misunderstanding I had to live through 2 years of a guy thinking I liked him in highschool. He ended up telling his friends who started to believe it as well. So each day I entered class I had to live with the stares they all gave me and him trying to flirt with me. Then I realized I should've told him I wasn't into him like that, because the longer I waited, the more it would've seen like I was just trying to cover up my crush on him. Don't do what I did, break that shit off as soon as possible before there's no going back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nanners 1,054 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 Ignore it, there are some people who take people being friendly to them as flirting, and if you say anything he'll think your making excuses because you're embarrassed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmeIie 850 Posted June 27, 2016 Share Posted June 27, 2016 if you're uncomfortable, tell him and if he won't back off tell him to stay the fuck away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted June 27, 2016 Author Share Posted June 27, 2016 I had something similar happen. Due to a misunderstanding I had to live through 2 years of a guy thinking I liked him in highschool. He ended up telling his friends who started to believe it as well. So each day I entered class I had to live with the stares they all gave me and him trying to flirt with me. Then I realized I should've told him I wasn't into him like that, because the longer I waited, the more it would've seen like I was just trying to cover up my crush on him. Don't do what I did, break that shit off as soon as possible before there's no going back I haven't been there for too long, and I never speak to him anyway. I think I will just carry on with my work, and not pay attention to him. If I talk to him again, he might think I'm giving him too much importance. Ignore it, there are some people who take people being friendly to them as flirting, and if you say anything he'll think your making excuses because you're embarrassed You're right. I have a new job anyway, so I am only there for a few more days until I leave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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