arineunha 352 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 i don't know anymore but i think i might be,i didnt realize this before, but i thought about this and it makes me realize something and it's something i never thought about before. i was searching on the internet and i found this site that indicates signs that you're an abusive girlfriend: https://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/10-signs-your-girlfriend-or-wife-is-an-emotional-bully/ i'm always ranting but in a way, am i playing victim? to be honest, my relationship was pretty abusive too because of my partner's constant jealousy and distrust, aggression and sexual advances . i think about it and i think i was also being emotionally abusive in a way, by always threatening to break up/bringing up break ups when i'm unsatisfied with the relationship or i feel like i can't trust him, by bringing up the situation many times about our distance. am i picking fights and bringing chaos? i distance myself from him because he's thirsty and i'm insecure -then i complain about the distance, by being clingy i was having a hard time trusting his female friends and when i called him on the phone and he had to leave i got upset and hung up, when he had to leave early irl- i cried. i withhold sex and don't make it enjoyable when i feel upset. i might have called him an asshole and a weakling; out of resentment. then again he's been pretty sexual from the start of the relationship, when i didn't really consent. he's done some stuff like humiliate me in front of his friends by calling me degrading things like 'bitch,hoe, skank' and saying i'm his possession. talks shit about me to his female friends. also he likes man-handling and avoids talking about the relationship and feelings. always points out my faults and it's always like 'you're the reason our relationship failed, i did nothing wrong but you need to change.' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCTfans 1,881 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 From your post I can tell you have problems. It sounds like both of you are immature and still developing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saἶlor✯Moonlἶght 1,587 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 "then again he's been pretty sexual from the start of the relationship, when i didn't really consent. he's done some stuff like humiliate me in front of his friends by calling me degrading things like 'bitch,hoe, skank' and saying i'm his possession. talks shit about me to his female friends. always points out my faults and it's always like 'you're the reason our relationship failed, i did nothing wrong but you need to change." -- He seems awful tbh, you threaten to leave because you're unhappy by the way you are being treated, and your bf should understand and take care of you, you don't trust him so he should restore your faith in him, if you need space, you should get it and sometimes we do get clingy and emotional but your boyfriend should understand and accept you, not call you out of your name and talk shit behind your back, honestly no wonder you don't trust him, he seems abusive. ​I don't know all the details so I don't wanna judge, but from what you said, I think you're just being a punching bag to him, and he is victim blaming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delirium 4,237 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 "then again he's been pretty sexual from the start of the relationship, when i didn't really consent. he's done some stuff like humiliate me in front of his friends by calling me degrading things like 'bitch,hoe, skank' and saying i'm his possession. talks shit about me to his female friends. also he likes man-handling and avoids talking about the relationship and feelings. always points out my faults and it's always like 'you're the reason our relationship failed, i did nothing wrong but you need to change.'" uuuuuuh, you're asking if you are the abusive one??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
indigo 16,433 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 No, you don't sound emotionally abusive but you might not be emotionally ready for a serious relationship. He sounds more abusive, which in turn is going to effect the way you respond to him. So maybe with a better guy you wouldn't feel the need to act the same way. Or maybe you'd still struggle with some of the same feelings. Either way its probably best to stay single for a while and work on yourself and figure out what you really want in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solfa 7,163 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 It could be, you are not telling us anything about yourself, only about your partner. It is possible for both partners to be abusive in a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzy Quatro 1,441 Posted June 21, 2016 Share Posted June 21, 2016 I think you're both at fault about this emotional abuse issue since it goes both ways but it's a good start to acknowledge your own mistakes. So in this situation I think you should reflect about what you want in a relation, what type of person would you like to be, what kind of boyfriend do you want, and stuff like that. Overall you need to seriously review your relation and then figure it out what to do next. Maybe you could work it out or maybe you should just end this for the sake of both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Athenaeum 81 Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 I think he's the abusing one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
girlnextgalaxy 290 Posted June 22, 2016 Share Posted June 22, 2016 Your boyfriend does sound like an asshole tbh. Your relationship seems to be really unhealthy. Maybe you should break up to take some time out to figure yourself out, find your peace of mind..and then if you want to, date someone who respects you and isn't abusive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
í™©ì œë‹˜ 팬 4,702 Posted June 23, 2016 Share Posted June 23, 2016 I think you should've dumped him ages ago tbh.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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