coreofsoul 1,554 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 It's been a couple weeks. Some days I feel okay and like I've accepted it but other times (like last night) I have those stereotypical "sit in my room, listening to sad music and crying" nights. He was my first bf and my best friend. Not to mention I don't have any other close friends so I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone about this. So I'm a little lonely and sad right now. But I know it'll get better. I know no one here cares lol but I needed to let it out somewhere. I haven't told anyone at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newton'sApple 2,006 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Break ups are always sad! You will overscome it someday ! Have strength my friend! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nini Bear 3,530 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 same here.. it's hard and I can't really tell you it'll pass soon but it'll pass someday I hope you'll do better in the future and can make some friends whom will support you! I'm sorry! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D a n t e 1,723 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 You'll get over it and then wonder why you cried so many tears for him, I did the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lugoose 11,398 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Aww, that's really sad to hear. Cheer up! First break-ups are usually those that hurt the most imo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thigh-high feminist 15,771 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 It will get better and I hope it will be soon. *hug* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouFiel 5,381 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 it sucks and it might take a while to get over, but eventually it does <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bottomluhan 6,162 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 i don't know if you know who this is, but don't listen to sad songs it just makes it worse avoid artists such as bryson tiller and drake Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baiichi 3,992 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Hope you'll overcome it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelanatedBeauty 13,663 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Go head and let it out girl its better than keeping it in as the random section's title says "If u need to rant about your dog's toe nail or something" So gon head girl! And dont worry you're gonna be fine if you need someone to talk to you can inbox me edit: oh this the umm love relationship section well..hi to my first time being here..I think.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zanahoria 142 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 let it all out, cry if you feel like it. first break ups are awful especially when you're very close to your lover but it's gonna get better with time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 People always say "it is time to get over it" or "your feelings will pass" or even worse "this is all in fate'/God's hands" but that is wrong. People fail to see the termination (breakup) of a relationship is significant as it is a loss. You should be allowed to grieve the loss. That is to be expected. The duration of time needed to grieve that loss (of a relationship/person) is completely individual. However - I do hope you find someone or some people you can lean on during this time. My heart is with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 When I got my heart broken in 2013 I just let EXO take over my life, tbh. So now when I think back to those days all I can remember is how much joy they brought me because I didn't have close friends to confide in. Just focus on things that make you happy. And don't do what I did...which is write them a scathing 1000+ word essay on why they're an ugly piece of shit lol. If you want to talk more you can msg me ^^ I can try to cheer you up with D.O. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassied 424 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 I have a boyfriend/bestfriend and I don't have any close friends too. I don't know how I'll survive without him if I ever break up I try to befriend some people but none of their personality seem to match mine. Also I'm an introvert so I push people away. Idk why I'm telling you this but be strong. It'll eventually go away. Just imagine someday you'll look back to these days like it's just a small part of your life. Keep yourself busy with something Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JaceyPanduh20 575 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Man.. over 5 years? Damn that's a long af time. Break out the ice cream (unless you dun like it or are lactose intolerant), treat yourself to a spa day or something. Venting about it is always the first step in getting over it. You'll find someone again soon (: Just take time to yourself for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mogwai 15,203 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 *virtual hug* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanilla Cupcake 3,584 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 If you need to rant or just talk to someone, feel free to PM me! I'm sure myself, and many others can help you through this difficult time <3 Sending you many positivity your way <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Share Posted June 20, 2016 Break ups are always sad! You will overscome it someday ! Have strength my friend! same here.. it's hard and I can't really tell you it'll pass soon but it'll pass someday I hope you'll do better in the future and can make some friends whom will support you! I'm sorry! It will get better and I hope it will be soon. *hug* Aww, that's really sad to hear. Cheer up! First break-ups are usually those that hurt the most imo it sucks and it might take a while to get over, but eventually it does <3 Thanks guys I know I'll feel better one day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Share Posted June 20, 2016 i don't know if you know who this is, but don't listen to sad songs it just makes it worse avoid artists such as bryson tiller and drake I know I shouldn't listen to them, but it feels good to cry sometimes ya know? Hope you'll overcome it thanks! I will eventually Go head and let it out girl its better than keeping it in as the random section's title says "If u need to rant about your dog's toe nail or something" So gon head girl! And dont worry you're gonna be fine if you need someone to talk to you can inbox me edit: oh this the umm love relationship section well..hi to my first time being here..I think.. thanks girl I appreciate it let it all out, cry if you feel like it. first break ups are awful especially when you're very close to your lover but it's gonna get better with time yea, I kind of wish my first breakup hadn't been after such a long relationship. That probably makes it worse Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
campfire 5,083 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 People always say "it is time to get over it" or "your feelings will pass" or even worse "this is all in fate'/God's hands" but that is wrong. People fail to see the termination (breakup) of a relationship is significant as it is a loss. You should be allowed to grieve the loss. That is to be expected. The duration of time needed to grieve that loss (of a relationship/person) is completely individual. However - I do hope you find someone or some people you can lean on during this time. My heart is with you. I agree with you. My first break up felt like someone died. It's hard but you WILL get over it and don't feel bad about still feeling sad even if it's 3 years from now. It happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle. 3,407 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 you need time, don't try to forcefully overcome it, it's going to pass anyway and don't force yourself to smile when you don't feel like it one day when you pay attention to the others who looking at you, you will no longer care much when you think of the past I went thro a really bad relationship and it was ended without saying a word, but I am ok now, and looking back I really wondering how did I love him lmao Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thigh-high feminist 15,771 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 Thanks guys I know I'll feel better one day. Yeah, Also try to laugh as much as possible. Seek comfort in humor. Look for humor on YouTube or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Share Posted June 20, 2016 When I got my heart broken in 2013 I just let EXO take over my life, tbh. So now when I think back to those days all I can remember is how much joy they brought me because I didn't have close friends to confide in. Just focus on things that make you happy. And don't do what I did...which is write them a scathing 1000+ word essay on why they're an ugly piece of shit lol. If you want to talk more you can msg me ^^ I can try to cheer you up with D.O. lol I've definitely been using this comeback to distract myself. It's one of the main things that makes me happy right now. I will msg you though ^^ People always say "it is time to get over it" or "your feelings will pass" or even worse "this is all in fate'/God's hands" but that is wrong. People fail to see the termination (breakup) of a relationship is significant as it is a loss. You should be allowed to grieve the loss. That is to be expected. The duration of time needed to grieve that loss (of a relationship/person) is completely individual. However - I do hope you find someone or some people you can lean on during this time. My heart is with you. I've heard this before and I agree. But thanks, I hope I find some ppl soon too I have a boyfriend/bestfriend and I don't have any close friends too. I don't know how I'll survive without him if I ever break up I try to befriend some people but none of their personality seem to match mine. Also I'm an introvert so I push people away. Idk why I'm telling you this but be strong. It'll eventually go away. Just imagine someday you'll look back to these days like it's just a small part of your life. Keep yourself busy with something It's ok to tell me That was my exact situation too. Hopefully you guys don't break up but I also hope you can make more friends outside of your relationship Man.. over 5 years? Damn that's a long af time. Break out the ice cream (unless you dun like it or are lactose intolerant), treat yourself to a spa day or something. Venting about it is always the first step in getting over it. You'll find someone again soon (: Just take time to yourself for a while. I love ice cream and I did buy some lol And I think I want to be single for a while. I need a break after that many years haha *virtual hug* thank you If you need to rant or just talk to someone, feel free to PM me! I'm sure myself, and many others can help you through this difficult time <3 Sending you many positivity your way <3 thank you <3 I really didn't expect so many nice words. It makes me feel better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted June 20, 2016 Share Posted June 20, 2016 it's alright to feel sad, i felt the same way a week ago. considering it's the end of a five year relationship seems like it would really hurt alot more. do you know the reason? - if you want to share try to continue to talk care of yourself; relationships can cause emotional damage, but it's a risk people need to take if they agree to be in one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coreofsoul 1,554 Posted June 20, 2016 Author Share Posted June 20, 2016 you need time, don't try to forcefully overcome it, it's going to pass anyway and don't force yourself to smile when you don't feel like it one day when you pay attention to the others who looking at you, you will no longer care much when you think of the past I went thro a really bad relationship and it was ended without saying a word, but I am ok now, and looking back I really wondering how did I love him lmao the last part was funny. idk if that will happen with me bc our breakup wasn't bad, but I'm going to just take things slowly it's alright to feel sad, i felt the same way a week ago. considering it's the end of a five year relationship seems like it would really hurt alot more. do you know the reason? - if you want to share try to continue to talk care of yourself; relationships can cause emotional damage, but it's a risk people need to take if they agree to be in one there are a few reasons but the biggest is that he feels like he's ahead of me (in life) and he's ready to settle down and start having children, buy a house, etc. I'm not ready for that considering I haven't even finished going to school yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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