fleetingsmile 18 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 At the beginning of the uni year (we're talking about September 2015), I met this guy. I liked him from the start but I wasn't looking for anything at the time bc of various reasons, so when he asked me out I said no. After that, I switched degrees, we were in different faculties so I never saw him again. Then, at the beginning of this year, I took an optative from my old faculty and he became my classmate. We got along together pretty well again and I begun liking him again. And then I found out he had just started a relationship, so I tried to stop liking him. I hadn't completely gotten over him, but during the entire year, I knew we were only friends and didn't flirt with him or anything. He, on the other hand, was different... I thought I was overanalyzing things until he told me he was thinking about dumping his girlfriend because he liked me. I told him that if he did that I wasn't gonna date him because I didn't agree with what he was doing to his gf + I'd have a hard time trusting him when it came to future female friends. He still dumped her. It's been a month since that. His ex has moved on and is already seeing another guy, he's still looking for something with me, and I still haven't stopped liking him. But I don't know if it's right or if it'd be smart to start something with him. Help me please...? I've been in an all-girl's school for my entire life, I've never had a boyfriend before so I don't know a thing about boys, my friends are as clueless as I am and I'm not gonna ask my mom, that's why I'm resorting to a k-pop forum for help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heinous 841 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 yes i would it's mutual attraction + you're both single now so why not nothing too serious though Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clay 11,273 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 I guess you should go for it, it probably might work! .. or not for so long, but you said you can't get over him, so like.. this might sound weird but it' be better if you date him, and if anything happens (mistrust, conflicts, maybe breaking up eventually), you will be forced anyway to get over him, but it's your chance to live a nice relationship with some you really like, you just shouldnt miss it I just woke up so don't mind this if it sounds bizzare Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Highness 940 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 omg if y'all get along well you should what are you waiting for ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danee 5,049 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 If I liked him I would date him. You are still young and tbh dating a guy doesnt mean you have to stay with him forever. You may learn he isnt best match for you after few dates, you may learn you want to be with him. But dont let him manipulate you with "I dumped my ex gf for you". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blue7kaoru 17,423 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Tbh at first i would have told you not to because if i was in your place i would be afraid to trust him like you said. But i think he does really like so just go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thirsty_ 1,477 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Sounds fanfic Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightmare 318 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 sounds like he was already over his gf and was gonna dump her anyway. don't think it was for you but his interest in you probably gave him the courage. but i would say no. the fact that he was still holding on to her while fishing around for another girl is text book cheater. as a dude i see it alot in other people. they weak and scared to let go unless they have a safety net. which was you if you said yes lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ziggyly 1,479 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Go for it but don't be taken aback if he cheats on you too eventually. Be strong and always love yourself first! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bom 2,161 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 If he can dump his gf for you then he can dump you for someone else. BUT They've been apart for a month and he's still interested in you so that's something and if you feel you trust him you should. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_ 1,328 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Go for it. I've got nothing to say anymore. His ex is moving on so is he. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heimweh 129 Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 yes I hav no problem with dis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arineunha 352 Posted June 1, 2016 Share Posted June 1, 2016 no i wouldn't T.T but since it was him and his choice to dump her, then it's not your responsibility. i wouldn't trust him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 hell nah sounds like an incoming mess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mon chan 4,645 Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 If that was me i would be unable to continue to like him. Like the fact that he considered dumping his then gf to pursue u, and even told u so alr degraded his image. He could dump his gf becuz they didnt get along, thats undetstandable, but including u as the reason is... meh. Its like u or his gf are just available 'options' and he go w whatever he prefer. But again i might not feel same way as u. Its ok to date or not date him. Its just dating, ur life is still whole w or without it:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeong jaehyuns boyfriend 10,627 Posted June 2, 2016 Share Posted June 2, 2016 if his gf is over it, why arent you? i think its fine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adina kim 484 Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 Mutual attraction so yes ,dont feel the fear of something that have uncertainty to happen in the future Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmeIie 850 Posted June 5, 2016 Share Posted June 5, 2016 if you want a long-term relationship you shouldn't go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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