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Would you rather be called hot or beautiful?

KaniPi

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I have noticed that a lot of guys (even strangers), when talking and attempting to compliment a girl, they call her hot, either indirectly to their friends, or directly.

 

I'd rather be called beautiful or something positive about my face/personality. I am more likely to respond better. I just find hot really cheap, and most women dislike being viewed as objects. Also, it has nothing to do with what you are wearing, you can dress really plainly and modestly, still it happens, so we cannot really associate hot = women wearing less or revealing clothes. 

 

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So I wanted to know, why do guys use the word "hot", when 99% of the time, girls hate it?

 

If you like someone, wouldn't you compliment her on something more meaningful. They're more likely to remember you, as well?

 

Unless hot has different meanings, that I am not aware of, besides the obvious. Calling someone hot isn't going to make the girl fall for you, when you know its going to offend them, why use something like that. If you're not serious, then why even go through the effort, of letting a girl know what you think of them like that.

 

Genuinely confused.

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"Hot" is a carefully crafted Hollywood/cultural Marxist insult - designed to denigrate women while pretending to praise them.  It's been pretty effective over the past twenty years at knocking young people both sexes off the right path in dealing with each other - girls trying to be "hot" and boys looking for "hot" end up making all the wrong choices.

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I don't think the problematic comes with the choice of word, but rather how he said it..

If he tells me I'm hot with a very sincere tone, I would be more happy than anything else.

I could get strongly disgust if he tells me I'm beautiful but with a smirk annoying flirting face.. those gestures make me feels cheap tbh

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Hot tbh because I look fierce and boys who see women as hot are kinda scared of her in some way because she seems really superior and some kind of superwomen ( speaking from what I heard from them xD )

 

Hmm... but if they are able to say it to your face, so boldly, that doesn't really mean they're scared though.

 

I feel really uncomfortable when a guy says I'm hot, because it gives me the impression that they're interested in one thing... Calling someone beautiful is not as inherently sexual and thus seems much more sincere and sweet, in my opinion.

 

That's what I also think. Hot seems more sexual to me, that's why I am asking why guys, bother to call a girl that especially strangers, because most of us would feel offended. As I said before, I prefer being called beautiful or something positive like "You have really nice eyes". I mean, if guys were more genuine about their compliments and feelings, girls would totally give them more chances.

 

I don't think the problematic comes with the choice of word, but rather how he said it..

If he tells me I'm hot with a very sincere tone, I would be more happy than anything else.

I could get strongly disgust if he tells me I'm beautiful but with a smirk kind annoying flirting of face.. those gestures make me feels cheap tbh

 

 

It does depend on how its being said, but generally hot (unless its your boyfriend/husband) feels cheap to me, even if you're trying to be sincere. I think the key thing here, is if you are sincere with both words and gesture, whilst telling someone they are beautiful.

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Hmm... but if they are able to say it to your face, so boldly, that doesn't really mean they're scared though.

 

 

That's what I also think. Hot seems more sexual to me, that's why I am asking why guys, bother to call a girl that especially strangers, because most of us would feel offended. As I said before, I prefer being called beautiful or something positive like "You have really nice eyes". I mean, if guys were more genuine about their compliments and feelings, girls would totally give them more chances.

 

 

It does depend on how its being said, but generally hot (unless its your boyfriend/husband) feels cheap to me, even if you're trying to be sincere. I think the key thing here, is if you are sincere with both words and gesture, whilst telling someone they are beautiful.

 

They didn't really say it in their face,if someone is hot,they are going to comment about it and it is hardly possible for them to go up to her,idk if it just because of my company they are like that

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I'd rather be called beautiful, but even then it's pretty subjective so it doesn't affect me that much. Also, beautiful is not necessarily a judgement of appearance.

 

Hot on the other hand is a pretty shallow evaluation. And as people already mentioned here, it accentuates what really is on that person's mind or what takes higher priority in his head. Unless you really try to look hot, I don't see any advantages in this compliment whatsoever.

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I don't necessarily mind either....but when guys call me hot I know it is because I have a certain look. They normally pair it with "spicy" or "exotic" or something like that. I don't really think of myself as hot, spicy or exotic so it feels weird lol...

 

I think I prefer beautiful a bit more....it is classier and sweeter.

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charming>>>>>>

 

"Hot" is a carefully crafted Hollywood/cultural Marxist insult - designed to denigrate women while pretending to praise them.  It's been pretty effective over the past twenty years at knocking young people both sexes off the right path in dealing with each other - girls trying to be "hot" and boys looking for "hot" end up making all the wrong choices.

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I'd rather be called beautiful

Being called hot in the past makes me feel icky and turns be off them tbh

Because hot= about your body/sexual

Beautiful= about your face

 

I usually associate hot people, with someone who has really sharp and captivating features. Like this woman, but even then I wouldn't directly compliment her as "hot" but beautiful.

 

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Hmm, guys are confusing haha. I guess you could you use hot, if you know you are absolutely sure that the girl, is looking to just hook up like in a club or bar, but at a random street or public setting like school, restaurant etc. Its just really weird to me. You're even more likely to get "rapist" vibes from them, which is uncomfortable.

 

Edit: Nobody has chosen hot yet  :lol: guys take notice. Girls love being called beautiful.

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I'd rather be called Beautiful because it can also be for my personality. Hot will only describe how I look and that's boring.

 

I wish guys would use Lovely. I always think its such a nice word to describe someone. It fits both looks, and personality, since its considered a rather feminine term. "You seem really lovely".

 

I think beautiful is the best one though. Gorgeous isn't too bad, but its a little overwhelming to me.

 

What I am noticing though, that most girls clearly perceive themselves differently. Hot in general though, I think we all agree, isn't that great of a compliment...

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a lot of guys really do not care too much what your face looks like TBH as long as they don't think you're ugly

this is especially true for Americans/non-Asians. they are looking at your body and if it's do-able.

this is the bit where ppl get all mad at Asians for being superficial etc but they just are more sensitive to the literal face and appreciative of beauty. 90% of the time guys in the US are looking at your legs, butt and boobs.

"hot" means desirable or do-able. many dudes are not looking for GF material or someone to put on a pedestal they're literally thinking about hooking up, so that's why guys tend to use "hot."

what makes it confusing is even a guy who into you probably just calls you hot even if he's interested in more... that's just the parlance. but if a guy actually does call you "beautiful" either he really is into you that much, or he's trying to be slick and make you think that he is.

in Asia they tend to use "beautiful" because if they call you "hot" or "sexy" it has negative connotations that they're just interested in you for the sex. also they're really into the face so they actually do mean you're beautiful.  in certain contexts in Korea calling a girl "sexy" to her face is literally is something almost disrespectful or purposefully making connotations of something

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