CrayCray 2,636 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 My uncle is doing a ceremony for my grandma this upcoming weekend and it's important to be there. I work every weekend and I got a late-notice so I don't have time to give a two-week notice to request that weekend off. My sister just got the short notice today about my grandma's upcoming ceremony too but she already made plans that she was going to Santa Cruz beach boardwalk with her boyfriend on Saturday. Am I in the wrong to tell her she has to go to my grandma's? She was telling me that if I can go to work and not go to my grandma's, why is it not okay for her to go have fun...? Note: her boyfriend is the one that wants to go on their trip because he is starting summer school soon and he wants to have fun with her so he doesn't want to waste any time ( ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CareBear08 7,527 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 What kind of ceremony is it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kanto 426 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Your problem is out of your control, while your sister's is not. That said though, I think it should be up to her to go or not, just a matter of how she places her priorities. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Yes. You don't have a right to dictate what your sister does and does not do. Furthermore - they likely invested money into that vacation that if they cancel will not get back. They will financially be hit. You cannot attend if you are working yet you could call in sick. But you would loss the expected income. You would financially be hit. It's unfortunate your sister cannot attend. But you cannot attend either. Perhaps arrange with your sister a time you can spend with your grandma as a rain check. But don't judge her for having arranged plans when you also have plans that cannot be rearranged. But both of you technically could attend so don't blame only your sister. People call in sick leave – you could utilize that as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iamayam 1,081 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Tell your uncle? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yeongwon 2,631 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 well i think with something like that, you should do what you can to try to go. i don't think you're in the wrong for telling her your opinion. going to work is different than going on a leisure trip. it would be really weird to me to go have "fun" somewhere instead of being at an important ceremony for my grandmother. but work is a mandatory thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoOnceVelvet 1,095 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Can't you call in sick? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon buns 4,642 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Yes. You don't have a right to dictate what your sister does and does not do. Furthermore - they likely invested money into that vacation that if they cancel will not get back. They will financially be hit. You cannot attend if you are working yet you could call in sick. But you would loss the expected income. You would financially be hit. It's unfortunate your sister cannot attend. But you cannot attend either. Perhaps arrange with your sister a time you can spend with your grandma as a rain check. But don't judge her for having arranged plans when you also have plans that cannot be rearranged. But both of you technically could attend so don't blame only your sister. People call in sick leave – you could utilize that as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jiraishin 1,276 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Let her make excuses to the grandma or the uncle afterwards. It's not like she's your responsibility to bring to the ceremony. You said what you had to say, but you have nothing to do about it. She's wrong in assuming you two have identical circumstances, but that's because she probable is not aware of the whole two-week notice condition. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Well you can't tell her what to do she's her own person. You worry about if you are going to go or not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elia 868 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 Yes, you would be wrong. If plans are made ahead and someone gives you a short notice they cannot be mad you don't cancel it for their late event. Plus, you cannot order a person about, even if it is your sister, at this point it's not as much about priorities as it is about respecting your word. You said her boyfriend will be busy, it's logical that if they planned ahead, they need this time to connect and spend together and canceling could cause a variety of problems. Unless the event is a high function thing, in which case you would call in sick, there's no reason to do so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted May 25, 2016 Share Posted May 25, 2016 well i think with something like that, you should do what you can to try to go. i don't think you're in the wrong for telling her your opinion. going to work is different than going on a leisure trip. it would be really weird to me to go have "fun" somewhere instead of being at an important ceremony for my grandmother. but work is a mandatory thing. This. Your sister sounds immature and selfish Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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