Oliver 22,442 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 So... me and my roommate decided to move into a bigger place since our place was pretty cozy... and we saw this floor plan and we decided to take it... its a penthouse in Downtown area and its really expensive .. He wanted to take the big room because he has more stuff and I said we will think about it once we see the place ourselves... We just went to see it today and I was shocked at how small the room is.. We took the measurements and my bed will barely fit in the room ... and the room doesnt have a normal door but like a closet like door.. honestly it felt like an after thought for the layout .. anyway... He wants to take the bigger room [x2 the size of the other room] which also has a big balcony and closet... anyway.. I've spoken to a friend and he thinks I was being petty because I was focusing on the negative rather then the positive [which is the apartment overall] I just dont know what to do.. another thing thats irking me is that he gave his girlfriend a key to the OUR apartment and she is essentially sleeping over every fucking night... so I already feel like the 3rd wheel in the current apartment as it is.. so this will only get worse once we move... .. another thing is... we are both paying 50-50 for the place... and honestly I really dont think its fair.. Also I am kinda an introvert .. So I like to have my own little bubble [room] that is private.. What do you think I should do... and is what I am feeling justified or am i just being petty... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizaki 131 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 The girlfriend needs to pay for it too. If she don't, then tell the bitch to fuck off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BubbleGumPop 14 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Tell the girlfriend to pay tf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanilla Cupcake 3,584 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 1) Well, it's not fair, and you're definitely not being petty. I know you're an introvert, but you have to say something. I would take the roommate out for coffee, and bring it up. Almost ALL living situations I know for either myself or my friends, the rent split is ALWAYS based on size. You pay more for having the bigger room or having the built-in closet / bathroom. It's only fair. When in doubt, just think in the perspective of the other person, is it reasonable for me to pay more if I have the bigger room? IMO, the answer is yes, so he should pay more. 2) If his girlfriend is staying over all the time, that's not fair either. She is pretty much a third roommate. That might also be a violation of the lease. I am a landlord, and on all my leases, I have the names of all my tenants. If someone other than the tenant on the lease stayed past a certain number of days per month, they're no longer a guest, and they're considered an unregistered tenant, and I could fine them. But back to the fairness part, unless he's willing to pay more in utilities, water, electricity, your roommate is completely taking advantage of you. At this point, you have a few options: 1) suck it up until the lease runs out, and move out, 2) Bite the bullet, and talk to your roommate about the unfair situation, 3) Sublease the place if he refuses to split rent according, because in that case, your roommate is being an scummy prick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blem 1,480 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 he should pay slightly more because of his bigger room, his girlfriend can sleep over if he agrees to this you wont be able to stop him so just allow her but set a few rules like she can only sleep for two nights a week also ask him why she has a key as she isnt a tenant and its a house just for the two of you, you want your privacy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Infinity 6,084 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 more stuff like what?? i wouldve been like a got a ton of shit too tf Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auroras 4,218 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Why are you paying 50-50... My brother is doing the exact same thing with a friend and the one who is getting the larger bedroom is paying a bit more. That's only fair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sickwithsin 11,102 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 If the girlfriend has a key and is pretty much living there, she needs to be contributing to the rent. Does your roommate have any other justifications for wanting the bigger room, other than having more stuff? Which isn't a good reason tbh; excess belongings can be sold and will probably be disposed of when you guys start packing up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lsosxiobm2284737109 1,116 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Dayuuum a penthouse in where...LA? NYC? But no you're not being petty. Either she chips in or he pays more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moon Jellyfish 23,232 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Eeek, a bit tricky there. I agree that if he's taking the bigger room and ultimately more space, he should be inclined to pay a bit more of the utilities/living expenses especially if his gf is constantly over there and not contributing. I'd say maybe try proposing that. Meanwhile, are there places with in the penthouse that you can store some of your belongings that may not fit into that bedroom? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seriouslykpop 1,608 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 He should pay more if he's staying in the bigger room and his girlfriend should contribute too if she's sleeping over every night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 So why sign a lease without viewing the apartment first? And typically apartments state the dimensions of each room on a pamphlet. But yeah that is a very awkward situation. A situation I have avoided since undergraduate by never renting with a roommate. Talk to roommate. If they insist on taking the clearly larger room than it is clear they should pay more. Are both your names on the lease? If it is just your roommates - than threaten to walk out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kinn 1,981 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 I agree with all the above. tbh, just bring his butt on OH and let him read the comments. He should pay more if he get's a bigger room. And gf need to pay if she's there every night, using up the water, electric, and gas bill. Tbh.. xD I would just leave him if he doesn't agree. Like...if I can't have it, neither can you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joon 8,222 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Does your room even have a window? I didn't know it was legal for bedrooms to not have windows (at least in the US...need to have two egresses) Anyway the one that has the bigger room should pay more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 The girlfriend needs to pay for it too. If she don't, then tell the bitch to fuck off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
no thank you 62 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 This post already came up before. Why the repost? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oliver 22,442 Posted May 16, 2016 Author Share Posted May 16, 2016 1) Well, it's not fair, and you're definitely not being petty. I know you're an introvert, but you have to say something. I would take the roommate out for coffee, and bring it up. Almost ALL living situations I know for either myself or my friends, the rent split is ALWAYS based on size. You pay more for having the bigger room or having the built-in closet / bathroom. It's only fair. When in doubt, just think in the perspective of the other person, is it reasonable for me to pay more if I have the bigger room? IMO, the answer is yes, so he should pay more. 2) If his girlfriend is staying over all the time, that's not fair either. She is pretty much a third roommate. That might also be a violation of the lease. I am a landlord, and on all my leases, I have the names of all my tenants. If someone other than the tenant on the lease stayed past a certain number of days per month, they're no longer a guest, and they're considered an unregistered tenant, and I could fine them. But back to the fairness part, unless he's willing to pay more in utilities, water, electricity, your roommate is completely taking advantage of you. At this point, you have a few options: 1) suck it up until the lease runs out, and move out, 2) Bite the bullet, and talk to your roommate about the unfair situation, 3) Sublease the place if he refuses to split rent according, because in that case, your roommate is being an scummy prick. he should pay slightly more because of his bigger room, his girlfriend can sleep over if he agrees to this you wont be able to stop him so just allow her but set a few rules like she can only sleep for two nights a week also ask him why she has a key as she isnt a tenant and its a house just for the two of you, you want your privacy Eeek, a bit tricky there. I agree that if he's taking the bigger room and ultimately more space, he should be inclined to pay a bit more of the utilities/living expenses especially if his gf is constantly over there and not contributing. I'd say maybe try proposing that. Meanwhile, are there places with in the penthouse that you can store some of your belongings that may not fit into that bedroom? So why sign a lease without viewing the apartment first? And typically apartments state the dimensions of each room on a pamphlet. But yeah that is a very awkward situation. A situation I have avoided since undergraduate by never renting with a roommate. Talk to roommate. If they insist on taking the clearly larger room than it is clear they should pay more. Are both your names on the lease? If it is just your roommates - than threaten to walk out. I have spoken to him honestly.. and I told him how I felt.. and he sensed that I was unhappy.. so we came up with a compromise... since we already signed the lease... We will switch apartments in 6 months... He is going to take it from May to December and I will take it from January till July.... I asked him to have it in writing just in case... I should have pointed out earlier that me and my roommate are pretty close... We've been there for each other in many hard times... so yea... I guess thats that.. This post already came up before. Why the repost? what do you mean??? this literally just happened today Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarlette007 5,232 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Glad it got resolved. 👠Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanilla Cupcake 3,584 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 I have spoken to him honestly.. and I told him how I felt.. and he sensed that I was unhappy.. so we came up with a compromise... since we already signed the lease... We will switch apartments in 6 months... He is going to take it from May to December and I will take it from January till July.... I asked him to have it in writing just in case... I should have pointed out earlier that me and my roommate are pretty close... We've been there for each other in many hard times... so yea... I guess thats that.. Ahhhh... I see. I guess in that case, it's just a case of misunderstanding and lack of communication. I thought this guy is a random guy from Craigslist lol Good luck with the new apartment Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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