My Everything 23,397 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 so i have a friend who i consider my best friend we've known each other since 2012 we really get each other and stuff etc anyway so we celebrated her birthday a few months ago and i got her a present. and like i told her i was going to give her something and she was fine with it. my birthday is this month and it seems that she's not going to get me something. because by this time around she usually texts me asking me what i want (yeah she's like that lol) should i feel some type of way that i'm not getting something from her? like obviously i'm not going to say anything that would be rude but when you give birthday presents to friends don't you usually want a birthday present back or at least anticipate it maybe i'm just being dumb thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soulrain 3,077 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Maybe she'll surprise you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gloupipoo 1,619 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Yeah I realized my ex-closest friend and I were growing apart when she got mad that I skipped her bday present (but she'd skipped mine 6 months beforehand) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vagus 2,607 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Maybe she'll surprise you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jujuwah 3,144 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 maybe she wants to surprise you be all slick and stuff i think you should wait if she's not your best friend i think it's okay if she doesn't gift you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redheart 7,440 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 well first of all don't give bday presents just because you want something in return, you should give one because you want you rfriend to feel special or you want to make them happy just because you did something for someone, doesn't mean that the person would do the same for you also just like the others said maybe she wants to surprise you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
My Everything 23,397 Posted May 15, 2016 Author Share Posted May 15, 2016 well first of all don't give bday presents just because you want something in return, you should give one because you want you rfriend to feel special or you want to make them happy just because you did something for someone, doesn't mean that the person would do the same for you also just like the others said maybe she wants to surprise you i guess i'm the asshole Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redheart 7,440 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 i guess i'm the asshole no that's not what I meant to say what I mean is some people always take but never give back so if you don't want your feelings hurt do things for people because you want to not whishing that you'll get something in return either way you'll get really bad suprises in life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nyai 4,059 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Wait until your birthday. If she gets you nothing and you are still upset about it, talk to her, if she is your bestfriend she'll understand why you are upset (try to talk to her, not bash/scold her). You can decide not to give anything to each other if you are more comfortable that way (my bff and I decided to do that because I'm a messy person who forgets about present and who is not used to give present even for my family. She is totally cool with it, I just invite her to dinner or spa, instead.). Friendship over flowers presents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OREKI 213 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 My 2 friends did that so I just ditched their asses and found new friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
virus.exe 1,014 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 If it's a one time deal, I would just let is go But if your friend continually does it then I'd worry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nana.B 67 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 She could surprise you or somethin. Your concern is reasonable since you'd obviously expect something awesome in return, especially if you got her a great gift. First: Think about how lucky you are to have someone you can celebrate your birthday with. Secondly: Appreciate how good of a person you are. Thirdly: Never set your expectations too high in life, you'll always get disappointed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uaena 1,895 Posted May 15, 2016 Share Posted May 15, 2016 Isn't a nice "happy birthday" message all you really need to know she cares? She'll surely get you a gift when she has the money/opportunity/time etc. As long as she's a good friend I wouldn't sweat about a missed birthday gift. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roamingcat 767 Posted May 17, 2016 Share Posted May 17, 2016 I would wait 'til your actual birthday to see what she does. For all you know, she could be putting together a really nice surprise gift for you. However, at the risk of being called immature, I would say when your birthday rolls around and she doesn't get you anything, or tells you happy birthday, then it's clear she doesn't consider you as good of a friend as you do her. Don't be upset if she doesn't get you a present. As long as she tells you happy birthday, that's good enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mon chan 4,645 Posted May 18, 2016 Share Posted May 18, 2016 Honestly we r too close that I don't even mind if she is too busy and forget my birthday=)). Neither does she. Cuz we are bff, we don't mind trivial things like celebration, we also have our own life to care for. But important thing is, no matter what, even when she doesn't contact me for long, we are ALWAYS aware that we r bff, that we are there for each other all the time, no words needed. I think she's the only one that I can TRUST that way. I can't maintain relationship w my bf like that=)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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