What do you think about people having children in your late 40s?

[solbinsus]

If you're wondering, I'm not 40 or trying to have a baby. My mom just told me she's trying to have another baby. She's 48 btw. I think it's too late... She also told me she's gonna name him Dusty... What kinda name is Dusty?? I think she's trolling with me.

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[____shawnee]

pointless because they're halfway dead already

[Only 1 U Need Connoisseur]

if they want to who cares? It's their life.. some people don't want kids early or can't physically have them. Some people want more kids after their others have grown. 

[YNRA]

its selfish. having a baby past 35 can be really dangerous and the liklihood for both birth defects increases dramatically 

[Sailor Mars]

if she knows about the risks about it and is safe then why not...it's rare to have a kid that late but not impossible, i just hope she is very very very very safe... but the risks are higher...... it's not my life nor is my mom trying to have another kid so idk how u're feeling. idrc as long as she is mentally capable for it

[sickwithsin]

I try not to care about how other people live their lives ... doesn't always work that way.

 

Dusty is a name more suitable for a pet than a child.

[yeokdae]

i don't really think anything of it, i just sometimes think that older parents might have a harder time keeping up with younger children physically. most 50-60 year olds aren't up to chasing a 10 year old around the park, you know..

 

but there are benefits to older parents. older parent usually have more money to take care of the kid, or may be close to retirement and have lots of time to spend with the kid.s

 

i know some people with older parents and just from what i've seen those kids are either perfect all achievers or they run wild. older parents teach you manners and raise calm, polite children, or kids take advantage of their parents age and get away with things that couldn't otherwise.

[Anti-fan]

pointless because they're halfway dead already

[Sybil]

Do what you want, but I personally wouldn't go for it.

 

Kids born to older parents have higher chances at health risks, and raising kids is expensive. I'd be wary of bringing another life to the world if I wasn't sure if I'd have enough money for her/him to have proper schooling down the road. I'd have only some time left before retirement calls, and I dunno if I'd make enough in that time to give my kid the best opportunities I can give them.

[SugaJam]

it's hard to get pregnant at that age but sure, why not? If they want to and have the means to then kudos to them

[solbinsus]

 

Do what you want, but I personally wouldn't go for it.

 

Kids born to older parents have higher chances at health risks, and raising kids is expensive. I'd be wary of bringing another life to the world if I wasn't sure if I'd have enough money for her/him to have proper schooling down the road. I'd have only some time left before retirement calls, and I dunno if I'd make enough in that time to give my kid the best opportunities I can give them.

I'm talking about my mom btw but thx

[Sybil]

 

 

I'm talking about my mom btw but thx

 

 

 

 

 

i meant "do what u want" as in a general statement. if i was talking in terms of you i'd say "w/e why not sure" bc i'd be slightly curious what you'd do w/ a kid you'd name dusty in the 21st century

[solbinsus]

 

i meant "do what u want" as in a general statement. if i was talking in terms of you i'd say "w/e why not sure" bc i'd be slightly curious what you'd do w/ a kid you'd name dusty in the 21st century

Ohhh lmao ok and Dusty is just an awful name

[A Hamster Named Loneliness]

My uncle and aunt-in-law were in their mid to late 40s when they had their youngest of 2 daughters, and she's fine in terms of development. 

[totally-seopies]

I mean my grandmother (who is like in the later 60's i think) has been taking care of her "grandson" (its a complicated situation) since he was born 

 

Its both a challenge but also a good thing for her. She has to deal with him and all the things that come with having to take care of a young child (he's 11 now, so he's finally kind of independent) and other issues, but also having a kid around means having someone around who will help her do things around the house and at stores with no real issues or complaint. He really really helps her out. 

 

My cousin also has some issues with social development (complicated once again) but actually living with my grandmother seems to have made him mature in a lot of areas that other children his age are not. For example I feel like younger parents are a bit less patient with their kids. Kids are naturally curious but younger parents are usually pretty busy with work and other life issues and aren't as patient when kids ask a million questions about the world.

 

Since older parents are usually way more settled down in life, I feel like they're more likely to actually be patient with kids and help them as they try to understand the world. Like when I stay with my grandma and cousin, I always hear her explaining stuff to him, whether its something on the tv or just a random question he had. I think this is why my cousin seems to be pretty exceptionally thoughtful for his age

[A Hamster Named Loneliness]

its selfish. having a baby past 35 can be really dangerous and the liklihood for both birth defects increases dramatically 

 

I don't consider it selfish. Like for example, in my aunt and uncle's case, they had their 2nd child somewhere in their 40s (I have no idea how old they both are, I just know my uncle is some years younger than my mom), and their older daughter liked having a little sister. My younger cousin is also fine in terms of development. 

[waterbender]

I do think it's quite late to be getting pregnant. It's not just "society being judgmental," but there are genuine risks to the fetus and mother at this age. Some have had babies up to 60 and turned out fine, but that's not to say everyone's going to have that experience. It's a fact that the older you get, the riskier it is to have a baby. She should speak to her doctor before trying to conceive. I think a lot of women want kids when their kids start getting older and they miss having someone to look after and hold onto, y'know?

 

To put it in perspective, my parents were quite "old" when I was born. The were middle-aged and not necessarily old, but for having a baby, it was risky. There is a reason women are most fertile around their teens to early thirties, and why many have that feeling of their "biological clock" ticking away. I didn't mind having older parents, but it did make things hard. Right now, I'm dealing with watching someone grow old. It was bound to happen, but all my friends' parents are in their 40's now, and mine is in their 60's. They're healthy and not that old yet, but you will notice the difference in parenting age. You will see them get sick or be rushed to the hospital, watch them age, watch them become forgetful, watch them come to terms with getting old, the huge generation gap, and thinking about wills and what their wishes are if they become unable to care for themselves. Maybe I'm selfish but I'm too young for this - and I can't imagine this being the case with a young teen if your parents were to go ahead with it. I'm not saying not to, and everyone deals with things differently, but it is something to think about. Because when they are older, there is already a risk of death and not just health problems, it'd be unfortunate to see a kid being parentless or being raised by their siblings. But it is ultimately her decision. Not sure if she's just messing with you though, especially with that name lol

[NeyNeyTuWy]

My parents had me late and it didn't change much, i just couldn't get away with as much as my siblings (who are all 10-14 years older than me) because they'd already seen it all.

[BeautyQueen ElleBean]

People need to stop judging others for their life choices. The risks involved in these situations are at that person's own discretion. If they take precautions and see a doctor to make sure they're healthy enough to have a child than it is fine. But no matter what they do, it isn't up to us to judge them. I really don't think anyone has the right to call it "selfish"...like who do you think you are? You do you and let them do them. 

[Bumblebae �]

My parents had me when they were 43-44 and there are definitely downsides to it

 

I have no personal relationship or deep connection with them than how you would usually see a child with their young parents and when it comes to school, they're not involved or know anything about my grades so I've been very independent but also very lonely when I'm at home and it doesn't help that my siblings are 13,14, and 21 years older than me so I have this huge generation gap that closes me off from creating a personal relationship with them

 

I get embarrassed sometimes because my sister is almost always mistakenly taken as my mom and I kind of get embarrassed when someone finds out that these old looking couple are my parents