What should I do?

[T0ph]

What should I do? 

 

There's this cute transfer student that transferred (no shit) to my school 3 weeks ago. Let's call her Kat. She's nice, very very pretty and charming. She has a nice body(works out a lot), a cute face, fair skin, she has everything. I really like her, so I talk to her a lot at school and sometimes text her when I'm home. I don't know if she's just being nice and feeling out the new environment, or if she actually likes to talk to me. I'm not that good looking but I am indeed quite witty and funny (people say that a lot). This is my first time feeling this feeling towards a girl, and I'm a sophomore. 

 

BUT

 

The actual problem is she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is far away, as she's a brand new transfer student. She facetimes him every night, but they say every LDR is bound to break up at some point of time. I guess her boyfriend is quite popular there, and I don't actually know when she'll be coming back to her old city, so I don't want to risk my already-good friendship with her. Plus, my friends are also after her, so I may have to beat out my buddies(a pun here) if I want to actually have a chance.

 

Please please help me, I like her a lot and I'm not exactly a nugu in my school, yet I'm not one of the top popular guys who fucks around with girls a lot. I treat girls nicely, not like other guys in my school. 

However, 

Please also keep in mind that I would regret losing my friendship bond with her. I know she's special and I want to be with her, but I'm scared things would turn out very, very wrong.

 

At this point I have came to learn my real world friends will be of no use. They can spread this shit around. So I thought bringing this into OH instead. Please help me juseyo~

[ICETERO]

I think you should not confess yet but just stay very close to her. Try to be someone who sticks 24/7 to her like a best friend so that your friends give up.

 

After she breaks up with her bf comfort her and stay close (: then later you should confess

[Peekamoon]

Lord, I thought you were female. I need to stop assuming genders based on DPs and sigs.

 

Onto the topic at hand,

 

I'd say give it more time since it's only been three weeks.

Besides, she's still attached in a relationship.

Whether or not she's happy with the guy or if they're going to end up breaking up is really not for anybody to say.

If I were you, I'd keep things friendly now. Talk to her, text her, just be good friends.

See how things unfold with time.

[酒�]

i m not the right person to say it, since I have no experience lolol

 

confess to her? when you're ready? or when she's going to leave? and the say, let's don't be awkward and don't make it change anything between us?

 

also I don't like cheating and people doing it. so.

[I Tzus Yu]

Simple. You wait for the right time OR wait for the right one. 

 

This video might be handful to you.   

 

 

[T0ph]

Lord, I thought you were female. I need to stop assuming genders based on DPs and sigs.

 

Onto the topic at hand,

 

I'd say give it more time since it's only been three weeks.

Besides, she's still attached in a relationship.

Whether or not she's happy with the guy or if they're going to end up breaking up is really not for anybody to say.

If I were you, I'd keep things friendly now. Talk to her, text her, just be good friends.

See how things unfold with time.

 

Yeah, haha, I thought people with girls as sig and DP are more likely to be guys..

 

But anyway,

I did think a lot before posting here, I've thought about your solution, and I guess the only thing I need is reassurance, because I've moved schools a lot and I've never ever seen one quite like her. I want to show you her pics (some people may think I'm bullshitting), maybe in PM, but not here. I guess I can say I'm a proud oppa 

[Peekamoon]

Yeah, haha, I thought people with girls as sig and DP are more likely to be guys..

 

But anyway,

I did think a lot before posting here, I've thought about your solution, and I guess the only thing I need is reassurance, because I've moved schools a lot and I've never ever seen one quite like her. I want to show you her pics (some people may think I'm bullshitting), maybe in PM, but not here. I guess I can say I'm a proud oppa 

 

You made me curious.

Do PM me some pictures 

[firefox]

I think you should not confess yet but just stay very close to her. Try to be someone who sticks 24/7 to her like a best friend so that your friends give up.

 

After she breaks up with her bf comfort her and stay close (: then later you should confess

i second this

[Venus Script]

Simple. You wait for the right time OR wait for the right one. 

[numeronia]

I think like what most people here already said, more time is needed. You can maintain your closeness to her, but just leave it as friendship for now.

 

If by some chance they break up, be a reliable pillar in her eyes, then confess at a later time when she's in a better state. Anyways confessing is something that you have to count the cost and be willing to bear the risk. But don't be too fixated on it.

 

If she rejects you, then pick yourself up and move on. It sounds harsh, but who knows, there might be another time/person that's better.

 

Sorry for the long post, it was just some thoughts that came to my mind as I read your post. All the best!

[T0ph]

I think like what most people here already said, more time is needed. You can maintain your closeness to her, but just leave it as friendship for now.

 

If by some chance they break up, be a reliable pillar in her eyes, then confess at a later time when she's in a better state. Anyways confessing is something that you have to count the cost and be willing to bear the risk. But don't be too fixated on it.

 

If she rejects you, then pick yourself up and move on. It sounds harsh, but who knows, there might be another time/person that's better.

 

Sorry for the long post, it was just some thoughts that came to my mind as I read your post. All the best!

 

I know I'm gonna have to face it, that's why it's a double edged sword. Thanks for the advice and the wishes!

[Starry Night]

I think like what most people here already said, more time is needed. You can maintain your closeness to her, but just leave it as friendship for now.

 

If by some chance they break up, be a reliable pillar in her eyes, then confess at a later time when she's in a better state. Anyways confessing is something that you have to count the cost and be willing to bear the risk. But don't be too fixated on it.

 

If she rejects you, then pick yourself up and move on. It sounds harsh, but who knows, there might be another time/person that's better.

 

Sorry for the long post, it was just some thoughts that came to my mind as I read your post. All the best!

[numeronia]

I know I'm gonna have to face it, that's why it's a double edged sword. Thanks for the advice and the wishes!

You miss 100 percent of the shots you don't take. But yeah, do think through rationally and keep calm

[Shhhhh]

Dont confess to her as long as shes in a relationship. Just be a good friend to her and maybe if they break up she might develop feelings for you. Also, if they break up and shes feeling sad about it, make sure you comfort her. I cant speak for others, but sweet and caring guys really make me weak.

 

But remember, always keep your eyes open. I mean what if they dont break up? You dont wanna miss opportunities with other girls, right?

 

Anyways I wish you the best fighting!!

[Acey]

I think you should be the one she needs for now. Don't expect for anything, though. Provide her what could make her life complete through simple measures (ex. helping out a math problem, share copy of handouts, etc). Plus, don't show any motive, don't let out simple indirect confessions. 

 

Just be the best friend; doesn't exactly mean you plunge yourself deep down below the friendzone but being close to her as a best friend would mean many things for her.

 

She'd be happy having your company, and I know for sure that her happiness would be your happiness, too. 

You can do these things thought you're not the boyfriend, and these are much greater than that. Confess when it's true. Confess when you're ready.

[T0ph]

I think you should be the one she needs for now. Don't expect for anything, though. Provide her what could make her life complete through simple measures (ex. helping out a math problem, share copy of handouts, etc). Plus, don't show any motive, don't let out simple indirect confessions. 

 

Just be the best friend; doesn't exactly mean you plunge yourself deep down below the friendzone but being close to her as a best friend would mean many things for her.

 

She'd be happy having your company, and I know for sure that her happiness would be your happiness, too. 

You can do these things thought you're not the boyfriend, and these are much greater than that. Confess when it's true. Confess when you're ready.

Thanks Acey, appreciate you coming here.

[SinBeautiful]

I guess it really depends on the situation...

 

Right now she's taken. Got a boyfriend. In a relationship. And if she's making the effort to contact him on the daily and facetime, she's heavily invested in that guy and probably isn't looking for another possible boyfriend. In fact, she's probably not even thinking that they'll break-up.

 

Just be happy with your friendship. Show her that you're there to support her, show her that you're fun to hang around with, show her that she can talk to you and trust you with anything - basically everything a best friend does for another friend.

 

If a break-up does actually happen, she's gonna need some time to recuperate - don't immediately pounce on her bones like fresh meat. It all depends if she's attracted to you too - one sided feelings aren't enough to start a relationship. Casually hint that you're interested in her (when she is single obvs) and see how she takes it. If you stay in the friendzone, just assume that she's not interested and move on.

 

And in the case she is looking for another guy to have a fling with while she still has a boyfriend...is that really the kind of girl you want as your own partner? Just saying.

 

[T0ph]

I guess it really depends on the situation...

 

Right now she's taken. Got a boyfriend. In a relationship. And if she's making the effort to contact him on the daily and facetime, she's heavily invested in that guy and probably isn't looking for another possible boyfriend. In fact, she's probably not even thinking that they'll break-up.

 

Just be happy with your friendship. Show her that you're there to support her, show her that you're fun to hang around with, show her that she can talk to you and trust you with anything - basically everything a best friend does for another friend.

 

If a break-up does actually happen, she's gonna need some time to recuperate - don't immediately pounce on her bones like fresh meat. It all depends if she's attracted to you too - one sided feelings aren't enough to start a relationship. Casually hint that you're interested in her (when she is single obvs) and see how she takes it. If you stay in the friendzone, just assume that she's not interested and move on.

 

And in the case she is looking for another guy to have a fling with while she still has a boyfriend...is that really the kind of girl you want as your own partner? Just saying.

 

 

 

 

Yeah, I know I'm gonna miss out if this fails but I'm not gonna die coz of this either, so a win-win situation for me, I'm still young so I'm willing to learn for my future

[Anti-fan]

Are you cute if you're not cute then that's the problem.