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I constantly compare myself to my ex boyfriend's new girlfriend... I am lacking. I am disgusting. I feel like crap

 

She has perfect breasts because she got implants... I do not even have the money for the surgery, my breasts are ugly and I hate them so much

 

He left me because of that? or is it because my face is ugly? or my hair?

 

He used to be a complete prick to me, when he was with me he always wanted to hide and did not want the people to know that I was with him...

He never took pictures with me... with her he has a lot of pictures

He obviously treats her better than he treated me

Even a fucking douchebag I have on social media texted me saying he saw them eating right now... they are together at this exact moment and I am in my house wanting to die

They probably get laid a lot

I am dying of abstinence... I suck man, I suck

 

I've been 5 months without cutting by now... But I am really starting to get the urges to cut again... I feel so sad, I am obsessed about my ugliness compared to her...

 

I want to post pictures but I think it would be unethical? I dunno 

 

please help !!!!!

 

 

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Try not to let someone else make you feel bad about yourself. They're not worth it. You're not with him for a reason, and maybe that reason is you're made for someone else. (someone infinitely better) I'm sure you are beautiful and even though you don't feel it right not you'll realize it someday. 

 

If you ever need to just talk to someone you can pm me.  

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:omg:

 

Don't hurt yourself over a guy who doesn't treat you right. 

Find new interest, do something that makes you happy. 

 

I try. I do sports to try to keep my mind off it but it doesn't help much :( 

 

he sounds like he's not worth stressing over

 

probably not but I am weak and he was my first one...

 

cutting doesn't change anything so pls stop

 

I won't cut this time even if I feel like it .. I must be stronger

 

You deserve someone who makes you happy. He will come but you need to love yourself first

I have waited for too long but nothing happens D: nobody comes

 

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Confused why you're stressing over this asshat to the point of wanting to hurt yourself because of him. 

 

Because I am still not over him... after more than 1 year :-/

 

He's her problem now. Why do you even want him back? He sounds like a douche.

 

He is a douch, but he is making her happy now, even though he made me miserable lots of times, the moments when he made me happy were the happiest ones in my life... 

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Implants need to be changed every certain time, it's horrible, so that it's gonna backfire to her; besides at the beggining everything seems nice, before you could tell they'll be miserable in no time; focus on healing yourself and cut any incoming news from them

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Well he sounds terrible when u guys still togetgher, I don't get y u didnt see the warning over the place with him hiding u in public. You should break up with him first before he broken up with u. Honestly I'll be piss at him rather than the gf. But I think is better off for u without him, and who knows, he may get his own medicine through this girl for treating u like shit Lmao

 

I'm sorry u feel this way over his new gf looks, but doesn't mean u can't be happy with what u have. You may had things in life that she doesn't have but u just way too focus on comparison on one thing that she has and u doesn't. Thats why, it make u sounds depress and obsessed. Jealousy is normal in human being and we always complain why we cant have this and that compare to that person (esp. our enemy). Then we forgot to look at people that much more misfortune than us (my mom always said this, always look at bottom not the top, and it will make u much happy). I hope u can discover your own self and created ur own happiness, not to tht hand of others (in this case ur new ex bf'so girlfriend).

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Because I am still not over him... after more than 1 year :-/

 

 

But why are you not over him? You admitted he was a douchebag when he was with you, so why on earth would you still want him?  :unimpressed:

 

Have some more respect for yourself. Love yourself a bit more.

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He's not worth it. Just forget about both of them. You shouldn't stress over a guy who treated you like shit. Come on, have some self worth. You'll find someone better eventually.

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I try. I do sports to try to keep my mind off it but it doesn't help much :( 

 

 

probably not but I am weak and he was my first one...

 

 

I won't cut this time even if I feel like it .. I must be stronger

 

I have waited for too long but nothing happens D: nobody comes

 

 

Because I am still not over him... after more than 1 year :-/

 

 

He is a douch, but he is making her happy now, even though he made me miserable lots of times, the moments when he made me happy were the happiest ones in my life...

I don' know if this will help but just give it some time, I guarantee you you will get over him. Good luck. *hug*
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Try to move on and stop comparing yourself with that girl!! Everything happens for a reason . Cutting yourself and crying over a guy is just not something that you should be doing. Indulge yourself in doing good things instead. You have a life to live. He is your past and you shouldn't look back!

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I hurted myself yesterday... I am sorry. I am so weak. I gave in

now I have some bruising D: 

 

She put a picture of her with him in a pool embracing each other

and I know that they had a great expensive dinner at a chinese restaurant on saturday...

he never took me to places like that

only crappy places..

is it because I am ugly? lol

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Don't do it. It's pointless, and as you can see, only makes you feel bad about yourself. He's with you now, not her, so that's what matters. She's an ex for a reason. Focus on your relationship and not his ex, or you could lose him to your insecurity or fixation on her. A lot of people remain friends with their ex so eating with them isn't that weird. It depends, but I wouldn't draw conclusions just yet. But if you're losing in your relationship to depression, constant need for approval and feeling inferior to her and him, then him losing interest can happen. I know that sounds mean but you have to imagine the tables flipped and if your partner was behaving the same all the time. Don't stress too much though - just focus on you, a healthy relationship and stop comparing. You'll be much better off.

 

And I don't mean to assume or offend here, but have you considered seeking professional help? For any issues like depression, potential underlying disorders, suicidal behaviour, low self-esteem etc. That might help as well if you do have access to it. No shame in that.

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tbh, i think your ex was a douche to you because he knew he could bully you and get away with it etc. He saw the weaknesses in you and hurt u. 

 

You should really focus on your self and delete him/his ex off all social media and delete his number because having him around you is CLEARLY not healthy. please talk to some of your friends and have fun with them or talk about stuff with them. if you have the time or money, or if you are in school; please seek professional help because cutting yourself is very bad for you and your mentality. 

 

love your self booboo, reading this kind of ish makes me never want to be in a relationship. 

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