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Ok so 3 years ago my kind of ex and I split up and it ended on bad terms. Recently she messaged me saying she wants to be friends and we talked for 5 hours. I was really glad to hear from her and I really missed her when we first broke up but I feel so weird after talking to her. It's not like I still have feelings for her but it was so out of nowhere I feel shocked. It's been 4 days. I want to be her friend but I don't know whether it's worth it if it's going to make me feel like this. Or is it the initial shock? WHAT TO DO??

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I have that problems sometimes. Did her personality change after y'all broke up?

Not really its just that the way I remembered her in my mind when we hadn't spoken was different and just the shock of the sudden contact too

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As long as this "shock" feeling doesn't make you feel bad or something, I think it's okay to continue to be friends with her.

It's overwhelming and scary tbh but idk if it will go away or not

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It ain't worth it. Nothing good will come out of being friends with an ex.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Really? I don't have any feelings for her at all anymore and would just like her friendship honestly but I truly just don't know. I'm a really emotional person when it comes to stuff like this and my feelings are just on 100 and all over the place at the moment. Perhaps if I calm down I might feel better?

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It ain't worth it. Nothing good will come out of being friends with an ex.

LOL everyone's saying no and I'm like 'goddamit'.

I know , I tried to fix it. I got mad and gave up

It's okay at least you tried

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Don't do it, OP. Cut her loose. She's probably looking for validation. Did she recently break-up with someone else? In my experience, when an ex comes back around its for the wrong reasons, like to prove that they can still have you.

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Don't do it, OP. Cut her loose. She's probably looking for validation. Did ahe recently break-up with someone else? In my experience, when in ex comes back around its for the wrong reasons, like to prove that they can still have you.

I don't if she did but that's an interesting point. Hmm. She told me she wanted to apologise for the stuff that happened but there could be something more to it.

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I don't if she did but that's an interesting point. Hmm. She told me she wanted to apologise for the stuff that happened but there could be something more to it.

Oh there's more to it. Something has gone wrong in her life, and now she's realizing that you two probably had a good thing. Hey, I've been on the other side of this. I almost reached out to one of my ex's years later after realizing that I had fucked up (it took another failed relationship for me to realize this). Luckily, I talked myself out of contacting her.

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Oh there's more to it. Something has gone wrong in her life, and now she's realizing that you two probably had a good thing. Hey, I've been on the other side of this. I almost reached out to one of my ex's years later after realizing that I had fucked up (it took another failed relationship for me to realize this). Luckily, I talked myself out of contacting her.

Girl....omg. I feel like a mess for being happy to hear from her. Can I ask are you single now? People are just so damn messy. She needs to take all that to a therapist.

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Really? I don't have any feelings for her at all anymore and would just like her friendship honestly but I truly just don't know. I'm a really emotional person when it comes to stuff like this and my feelings are just on 100 and all over the place at the moment. Perhaps if I calm down I might feel better?

 

The way you are feeling right now, you might not want to admit it to yourself but you see an inkling of hope from the past...

I believe that's the main reason why you are quite confused right now...

Best advice: Let time do the healing first before anything else happens...

^_^

 

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Girl....omg. I feel like a mess for being happy to hear from her. Can I ask are you single now? People are just so damn messy. She needs to take all that to a therapist.

No, I'm married now. But I had a lot of failed relationships in my late teens/early twenties. So I know a thing about ex's coming out of the woodworks. 

 

It's easy to slip back into having feelings for someone. And if it ended badly once it'll probably end badly again. 

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I love how this is considered pulling a kinky Santa haha, fair enough I guess.

I personally think it's fine to be friends with your ex as long as there are boundaries. You might not want to listen to me for advice on exes though hahaha

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No, I'm married now. But I had a lot of failed relationships in my late teens/early twenties. So I know a thing about ex's coming out of the woodworks.

 

It's easy to slip back into having feelings for someone. And if it ended badly once it'll probably end badly again.

Congratulations! Thank you for the advice <3 I really appreciate it and it opened my eyes on a lot of stuff
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