strawberrykiss 1,969 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 that I met at uni last year. she's really cool and we both had kpop in common so we hang out a lot. i've noticed she's extremely self conscious. she stans taeyeon and tells me everyday that she wishes she looked like her, or was petite like her or cute like her. she tells me she wishes she had hair like her and fair skin like her. she wishes she was feminine like her and it honestly confuses me cause she's so pretty herself?? how do i make this girl realise how beautiful she is and how she doesn't need to look like anyone else? thanks x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
☆ Trash ☆ 230 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 compliment her everyday. I know it may sound like it will not work. But trust me, one day she may start to believe it <3 Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peachtea 1,885 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 compliment her everyday. I know it may sound like it will not work. But trust me, one day she may start to believe it <3 Good luck I agree. Reassurance and compliments can really mean a lot to a girl. Hearing someone say you are beautiful can really boost your confidence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Is there a problem? 1,000 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 theres obviously something more. might be a mental issue if she is like that. and simply complimenting them doesn't work. thats how people develop addictions to plastic surgery or body building. there are alot of people like this and its definitely a mental health issue Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strawberrykiss 1,969 Posted April 25, 2016 Author Share Posted April 25, 2016 theres obviously something more. might be a mental issue if she is like that. and simply complimenting them doesn't work. thats how people develop addictions to plastic surgery or body building. there are alot of people like this and its definitely a mental health issue i dont think so. she was bullied at school and i think thats where it stems from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grape Soda 12,004 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 I have a friend like that too. Thinks she's fat and ugly, and no matter how many people tell her she's not she still feels the same. I honestly don't understand it. I guess because she prob sees taeyeon as an overall beautiful or the closest to what she sees as perfectly beautiful and she herself doesn't look like that she sees herself as ugly. Tell her she's beautiful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k8oboi 764 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 that I met at uni last year. she's really cool and we both had kpop in common so we hang out a lot. i've noticed she's extremely self conscious. she stans taeyeon and tells me everyday that she wishes she looked like her, or was petite like her or cute like her. she tells me she wishes she had hair like her and fair skin like her. she wishes she was feminine like her and it honestly confuses me cause she's so pretty herself?? how do i make this girl realise how beautiful she is and how she doesn't need to look like anyone else? thanks x “Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.†― Shannon L. Alder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vanilla Cupcake 3,584 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 You can't. It's something internal that she has to work out. I know because I do the same thing too. My BF tells me all the time that I look great, but there's something in my head that keeps telling me otherwise. I really wish I could just shut it off, but I couldn't. I really don't think this is something a compliment can fix. If this persists, I think therapy would be great! And I might just do the same too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anti-fan 1,353 Posted April 25, 2016 Share Posted April 25, 2016 Tell her she's prettier than Taeyeon, at least that you can promise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
(i_i) 291 Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 Holy crap, what you said was so sweet Anyways, just tell her yourself. Tell her that she is a beautiful human being, to her face, and that she doesn't need to compare herself with anyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean Grey 2,400 Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 show her this thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil 139 Posted April 26, 2016 Share Posted April 26, 2016 It's hard to change her mind, its kinda her fight with herself. Even with compliments and what not she needs to accept herself as she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlackSmilexxx 1 Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 Tell her that she's very pretty in her on way. If she doesn't believe you show her why she's pretty and how you find her pretty. Try to give her self-confidence Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KaniPi 2,626 Posted April 29, 2016 Share Posted April 29, 2016 that I met at uni last year. she's really cool and we both had kpop in common so we hang out a lot. i've noticed she's extremely self conscious. she stans taeyeon and tells me everyday that she wishes she looked like her, or was petite like her or cute like her. she tells me she wishes she had hair like her and fair skin like her. she wishes she was feminine like her and it honestly confuses me cause she's so pretty herself?? how do i make this girl realise how beautiful she is and how she doesn't need to look like anyone else? thanks x Show her a mirror, then a picture of someone with deformities. She should get the message then. I don't mean to sound blunt, but I dislike when people who are healthy, obsess over pointless things like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripiaoppa 15,307 Posted April 30, 2016 Share Posted April 30, 2016 don't... once a girl thinks shes pretty she is really full of herself just keep her humble Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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