Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 so, basically I broke up with my ex like 9 months ago, and we had the most complicated relationship... we've known eachother for 6 years as so many things so he was a random dude that i met at a party, then he was my friend, then we were dating, then we broke up n really hated each other, then we became friends and eventually best friends, and then started dating again..then we broke up and he texted me like 2 months ago to see how i was doing but the conversation didnt go far lol but i cant stop thinking about him like almost every other day... i've been trying 2 get over him but nothing is working so...help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sapphicsunmi 2,713 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 i need this kind of advice too, but about a friend leaving me ik what ur going trough ugh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bitchcraft 1,377 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 Find someone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Is there a problem? 1,000 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 get married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WonderTwice 3,518 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 get in another relationship always works Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 get in another relationship always works Find someone else. not as easy as it sounds lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auggiebr 5,975 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 First of all it is true when people say time heals. At least in almost every case. What I did is to delete the person from my cellphone, line, whatsapp and all these social network things. Seeing the person makes it harder to forget. Also dedicating to your hobbies helps too. Going out and watching movies, visiting your best friend. All these things worked with me. I got better after 3/4 months which isn't that bad if you consider everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dasom's Nose 1,100 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 so i googled 'how to get over someone' and this comes up and there are only five steps: don't bottle up your emotions, don't torture yourself, be cut-throat when it comes to contact, rediscover the best part of being single and lastly remember to take your time. more here. so all the best? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 so i googled 'how to get over someone' and this comes up and there are only five steps: don't bottle up your emotions, don't torture yourself, be cut-throat when it comes to contact, rediscover the best part of being single and lastly remember to take your time. more here. so all the best? thanks~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 Honestly, time is the only thing. Probably not what you want to hear but in time you will her over him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jvng 3,864 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 replace them, that is guaranteed to work. but idk any other solutions sry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellectrified 3,571 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 I don't know if this will work with you but I've been in this position before and what I did was I got myself so damn busy. Getting involved with many communities, focused more on my job (I even worked as a freelancer during my free time to keep myself busy), reconnected with my old friends by having mini reunion or something. The point is to keep your mind working during your waking hours so that your mind will get distracted. When you do nothing, you tend to have your mind wandering off so far and it's not always a good thing. I know it will only distract you so far, but when I remembered again about the relationship that faltered, it didn't bother me much anymore. What they say that "time heals" is not just some made up fantasy, you know. In time, you'll cope with your problem. But you should keep yourself busy along those intervals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 First of all it is true when people say time heals. At least in almost every case. What I did is to delete the person from my cellphone, line, whatsapp and all these social network things. Seeing the person makes it harder to forget. Also dedicating to your hobbies helps too. Going out and watching movies, visiting your best friend. All these things worked with me. I got better after 3/4 months which isn't that bad if you consider everything. Honestly, time is the only thing. Probably not what you want to hear but in time you will her over him. I don't know if this will work with you but I've been in this position before and what I did was I got myself so damn busy. Getting involved with many communities, focused more on my job (I even worked as a freelancer to keep myself busy), reconnected with my old friends by having mini reunion or something. I know it will only distract you so far, but when I remembered again about the relationship that faltered, it didn't bother me much anymore. What they say that "time heals" is not just some made up fantasy, you know. In time, you'll cope with your problem. But you should keep yourself busy along those intervals. thanks, i've been leaving it up to time for 9 months and its still hasnt gotten any better tho.. but i guess i needed to make myself busier for it to work lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BadBadNotGood 11,616 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 thanks, i've been leaving it up to time for 9 months and its still hasnt gotten any better tho.. but i guess i needed to make myself busier for it to work lol It took me over a year. It'll happen for you, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ellectrified 3,571 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 thanks, i've been leaving it up to time for 9 months and its still hasnt gotten any better tho.. but i guess i needed to make myself busier for it to work lol I don't mean to be intrusive but I think during those 9 months, you weren't busy enough to have your mind distracted. But note that when I said "get busy" it doesn't necessarily mean trying to put yourself into a high stress level due to working too many hours. You should have good rest too. Hope it works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 It took me over a year. It'll happen for you, too. hopefully~ I don't mean to be intrusive but I think during those 9 months, you weren't busy enough to have your mind distracted. But note that when I said "get busy" it doesn't necessarily mean trying to put yourself into a high stress level due to working too many hours. You should have good rest too. Hope it works. i do agree i have actually been less busy than normal, thanks for the advice~ ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs.Galaxy 2,475 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 when someone finds the solution let me know. Its been 9+ years gdi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bitchcraft 1,377 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 not as easy as it sounds lol Time will help you, and meeting someone you think can reciprocate your feelings and concentrating more of your attention on him/her so that you don't have time to think about your ex or anything. Hanging out more with friends/ going out etc so that you don't have that much time to get bored and start reminiscing. Etc If you're really legit in love, which has never rlly happened to me, then maybe it'd take a long time, i don't know. But i swear it'll go away (unless it's some kind of EPIC shakespearian love that's like the love of your life...Which is something i don't believe in) Good luck!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erii 3,227 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 Hmmm Seriously, just cut all of the contacts with that person, if you guys not gonna be together and you still think about him, just stop talking to him because it will hurt you more than it hurt him. Go find a new hobby that you enjoy and keep doing it so it will somewhat help you forget about him (this take time so don't rush) Hang out with your friends, do something new with them, play games maybe~ Don't beat yourself up, you will find someone eventually ^^ I know when you stick with someone for so long, the need of not letting go is hard- But do your best ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iron Girl 3,768 Posted April 15, 2016 Share Posted April 15, 2016 definitely NOT find someone else as in the first random guy. idk why people think it's the best solution. in this case it's not a rebound but having someone else doesn't mean you'll forget your ex that easily. you'll come through it eventually, just be patient. as said before be more busy but doesn't mean work more. even look for a new activity, you could even met new people on the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 Time will help you, and meeting someone you think can reciprocate your feelings and concentrating more of your attention on him/her so that you don't have time to think about your ex or anything. If you're really legit in love, which has never rlly happened to me, then maybe it'd take a long time, i don't know. But i swear it'll go away (unless it's some kind of EPIC shakespearian love that's like the love of your life...Which is something i don't believe in) Good luck!! thank you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 15, 2016 Author Share Posted April 15, 2016 definitely NOT find someone else as in the first random guy. idk why people think it's the best solution. in this case it's not a rebound but having someone else doesn't mean you'll forget your ex that easily. you'll come through it eventually, just be patient. as said before be more busy but doesn't mean work more. even look for a new activity, you could even met new people on the way. lol i would never like date the first random guy haha, but being busy n meeting new ppl along the way sounds like the best solution, thanks~ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fvs 40 Posted April 19, 2016 Share Posted April 19, 2016 make yourself busy with activities, find another one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anonymouslove 7 Posted April 20, 2016 Share Posted April 20, 2016 something similar happen to me. I eventually forgot about him - naturally. Time went by as I continue with my life - of course the occasional thoughts of him cross my mind but all I did was no longer cried about it - just thought to myself 'good riddance, he wasn't that good of a guy anyway' haha. And he wasn't when I think back to it. Have a cry all you want and think about that there was a reason why it didn't work out - do you really want to go through it again and deal with the roller-coast of emotions? I hope you can get over him and be a happier person - so that you can attract the guy who was meant to make you happy ^__^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wonder. 4,181 Posted April 20, 2016 Author Share Posted April 20, 2016 something similar happen to me. I eventually forgot about him - naturally. Time went by as I continue with my life - of course the occasional thoughts of him cross my mind but all I did was no longer cried about it - just thought to myself 'good riddance, he wasn't that good of a guy anyway' haha. And he wasn't when I think back to it. Have a cry all you want and think about that there was a reason why it didn't work out - do you really want to go through it again and deal with the roller-coast of emotions? I hope you can get over him and be a happier person - so that you can attract the guy who was meant to make you happy ^__^ thank you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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