Rio224 300 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 A girl has been complaining that her foot hurts really bad,and it has been painful for her to walk. So we go to the doctors and he says that she has gout and she has to cut back on salt and stop eating red meat. So she says "were gonna have to change the way we eat", and i'm like "what's this "we" shit? your the one with gout.. there's nothing wrong with me". And this big ass argument pursues over "support" "being there for me". So dinner time comes around she cooked some vegetables and some tofu like substance... i ordered a personal size pizza, and she starts crying and shit. Ok i understand i should be more supportive,maybe eat real food out of her presence i realize that....but i think she's fucked up for wanting me to change my whole eating lifestyle because she has too...i should suffer because she has too? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeMyBoy 1,659 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Maybe there is a lack of support but I don't think support necessarily means changing your eating habits too. Omg @ her crying bc you ordered a side pizza LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsquinnbro 1,628 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 The girl is. She can't control what you eat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImJustASlyFox 8,349 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 The girl is. She can't control what you eat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midnightdreams 810 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 so she's insisting you eat what she eats when she's not around? I can understand if she doesn't want you to eat like that around her because it's tempting for her. My mom gave up practically anything edible (gluten, sugar and dairy) so in the beginning my dad and I didn't eat too much of that in front of her but over time she was able to handle others eating in front of her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Envied 5,831 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 A girl has been complaining that her foot hurts really bad,and it has been painful for her to walk. So we go to the doctors and he says that she has gout and she has to cut back on salt and stop eating red meat. So she says "were gonna have to change the way we eat", and i'm like "what's this "we" shit? your the one with gout.. there's nothing wrong with me". And this big ass argument pursues over "support" "being there for me". So dinner time comes around she cooked some vegetables and some tofu like substance... i ordered a personal size pizza, and she starts crying and shit. Ok i understand i should be more supportive,maybe eat real food out of her presence i realize that....but i think she's fucked up for wanting me to change my whole eating lifestyle because she has too...i should suffer because she has too? Cackling lol! You could be more supportive of your girl and yes ordering that pizza was wrong, but she's also in the wrong. She has to eat less salt, She needs to cut it out her diet. You can be supportive and eat some healthier foods with her, but You aren't the one with the problem. 1+1 don't equal 43 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AznGirl 127 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 well,you don't have to suffer because she is suffering. But eating in front of her is temping and it shows her you don't give a f*ck about her situation. So, eat, but not in front of her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irrelephant 4,710 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 your girlfriend cried real tears... over pizza Don't be so harsh on her though. She might feel bad that she has to change what she eats so you should be more patient with her reaction since it's not you who's having a truer hard time. Comfort her, but make it clear that you eat according to what your body needs and the same for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Schitstainz 1,562 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 You're in the wrong. It doesn't hurt to compromise. She needs your support, so give it to her. It's not going to kill you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Knee 2,642 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 Both of you. She can't control what you eat but you could still be a little more supportive. Don't eat tempting food in front of her and give her words of encouragement and you should should be good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
المروة 745 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 It'd be nice as a partner if you supported her through hard times and it'd also be nice if you explained to her why you're not up for following her lifestyle and maybe she could try to understand but you don't sound like a very good boyfriend at all by the way you're insulting her on here and shaming her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Girls'Generation 88 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 you both have a point. i understand she wants your support but at the same time it's unrealistic for her to expect you to change your lifestyle. i'm more on your side, cause lawd knows i wouldn't give up meat for nobody!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinypuffling 943 Posted November 11, 2013 Share Posted November 11, 2013 While she's going through this shock/disturbance to her life, I guess you should be more supportive and try not to taunt her with food in her face.. At the same time that girl be ridonkulous. Why on earth should you stop eating just cuz she has to? Red alarm on her insecurity and clinginess right there man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ancor288 3,306 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 Fuc* that, if my bf had the same thing I would be supportive yes, but I wouldn't necessarily stop eating what I eat just cause he wants me to "be supportive"... Sounds to me like she's a chicken and thinks she can't do it alone and needs to drag someone else with her in this miserable journey called "cutting back on good food"... Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Wine 1,540 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 Both of you. She can't control what you eat but you could still be a little more supportive. Don't eat tempting food in front of her and give her words of encouragement and you should should be good. ^ ^ ^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flex 1,467 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 well,you don't have to suffer because she is suffering. But eating in front of her is temping and it shows her you don't give a f*ck about her situation. So, eat, but not in front of her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Number Eight 514 Posted November 12, 2013 Share Posted November 12, 2013 lol dude pizza tho? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gayness 2,400 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL OMGGGGGGGGGGG. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Someone actually 4,572 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 she cried over pizza lolwut you're both in the wrong. you could be a bit more supportive and she could be less controlling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jwhy 239 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Neither is wrong. There's nothing wrong with showing a bit of concern and empathy (something you seemingly aren't capable of). You have to understand, she JUST heard this from the doctor... don't give her the "suck it up" bullshit. Be supportive and sensitive about the situation. No, you shouldn't change your eating habits but you've got to show that you can be there for her and that you're willing to sacrifice certain aspects of your life so she can get through it with support... She's bound to be oversensitive for the time being, but when she calms down and is emotionally stable enough to be more reasonable, then you can discuss how you guys should eat from there on. There's no harm and holding her hand through it for a bit until she's comfortable on her own. However long that takes, that's dependent on you and her. Being an ass right off the bat doesn't help even if she's overreacting, all you're doing is adding to it and making her feel like you don't care (which it seems like you don't because of how you reacted and the fact that you're complaining about it on a fucking kpop forum hoping that others will think she's being ridiculous, which in itself is quite asshole-ish as well). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tamar braxton 151 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Wasn't OP the man who made a thread about wanting to hit women? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rio224 300 Posted November 13, 2013 Author Share Posted November 13, 2013 Neither is wrong. There's nothing wrong with showing a bit of concern and empathy (something you seemingly aren't capable of). You have to understand, she JUST heard this from the doctor... don't give her the "suck it up" bullshit. Be supportive and sensitive about the situation. No, you shouldn't change your eating habits but you've got to show that you can be there for her and that you're willing to sacrifice certain aspects of your life so she can get through it with support... She's bound to be oversensitive for the time being, but when she calms down and is emotionally stable enough to be more reasonable, then you can discuss how you guys should eat from there on. There's no harm and holding her hand through it for a bit until she's comfortable on her own. However long that takes, that's dependent on you and her. Being an ass right off the bat doesn't help even if she's overreacting, all you're doing is adding to it and making her feel like you don't care (which it seems like you don't because of how you reacted and the fact that you're complaining about it on a fucking kpop forum hoping that others will think she's being ridiculous, which in itself is quite asshole-ish as well). Actually i think i'm an amazing bf and can be quite charming, we rarely argue and most of the time we'll reach an easy solution if we have a problem pretty quickly. As for me making this post here, i admit some of it was to rant/vent and i think it's ok to talk about it here where people don't know me and don't know her in real life it's "anonymous". Way better than talking to family and friends where she can possibly be embarrased in real life about a in house problem don't you think?Also curious and wanted to look at another perspective from the public on who's right or wrong here...but that's fine if you think i'm an asshole ^_^ Ps:i do think she's being ridiculous, i'm more than willing to make adjustments, but she's out of her mind and we can part ways right now if she tries to force the issue on me. sorry not willing to sacrifice my happiness and bend over backwards to please her for such a selfish request Wasn't OP the man who made a thread about wanting to hit women? no, i made a thread on "would you ever hit a women?" big difference. And i haven't ever hit a woman or would unless under really abnormal circumstances Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris 8 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 The blame would be 45% for the girl, and 55% for you. Yes, she was kind of rude for demanding that you change your whole diet because of her, but on the other hand, you bought a pizza right after she was told to avoid those kinds of food. That's like a slap to the face saying that you don't care about her health, and screw that crap, you're on your own girl. A compromise can be reached like modifying both of your diets slightly, or eating at separate times. But about that crying over the pizza thing, not sure if she was crying over the pizza, or over her boyfriend being a jerk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaeYuSu 3,082 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 both at fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starryknight 1,113 Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 You not wrong for refusing to change your diet to match her's but you could have handled the situation better. Try to put yourself in her shoes a bit . You may not demand she change her diet for you but I'm sure you would appreciate her not eating something you want but can't in your face. Did you even warn the girl before getting the pizza? Assuming you guys live together I think a nice way to support your GF would be eat one meal of her choice with her whether it's the breakfast, lunch or dinner.. If you work together I'm sure you can find dishes you'll both enjoy during that time. At minimum though try not eat forbidden foods in front of her. Spare her that much.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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