You now those "friends" that do this during an argument?

[Nev Schulman]

Like do you or did you have those "friends" that literally insulted everything about you during an argument? Do you trust them again?

A few months ago I had an argument with a friend and I told her to shut her ass because she didn't know anything about me and she went on at how I always run away from my problems and she insulted my entire existence and I am like "Why are you even friends with me if you dislike me that much?!" ... I didn't even talk trash about her except for her behaviour at that moment and she basically went on at why she disliked me like she was my enemy for the past few years. Then she apologized a week later, I had discussed this with a friend and she said usually those who are like that are not your actual friends.

I accepted her apology but I don't trust her to this point.

Do you all know people like that? or did you?

You still friends? you still trust them

 

what would you do?

[foo]

Well, usually when you do this "I told her to shut her ass because she didn't know anything about me", people can get pissed off.

[Kim Hyolyn]

Tbh drop them, everything she said during that argument is what she thinks about you and she could be talking about you behinf your back. I had a friend like that and after a few arguments i started to realise how much of a bitch and how judgmental she was. She was my best friend for 3 years but not once did i trust her because of how two faced she was.

 

People like that arent true friends and are toxic, i dropped my friend that did the same and honestly it felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. 

[Nev Schulman]

Well, usually when you do this "I told her to shut her ass because she didn't know anything about me", people can get pissed off.

Well that's because she was assuming, I didn't tell you the whole story but basically, it started with her ASSUMING things that are not right and I simply told her to shut up because all she did was blowing up my phone with baseless assumptions. Nothing wrong with telling her what she shouldn't do. She started of calling me a bad person, what did she expect? 

[GG Bae]

You had that coming lol. "SHUT UP YOU DON'T KNOW ME NOBODY UNDERSTANDS ME" is something naive, scared little brats say when cornered. In fact she probably read you DOWN and was right about everything she said lol

[Nev Schulman]

You had that coming lol. "SHUT UP YOU DON'T KNOW ME NOBODY UNDERSTANDS ME" is something naive, scared little brats say when cornered. In fact she probably read you DOWN and was right about everything she said lol

did you read my previous response?

THE GIRL was assuming and I literally said nothing until my phone was blowing up. You are dumb as hell if you think she actually read me lol half of it wasn't even true.

 

I guess people on oh like to assume as well, I didn't even tell ya the full story and I'm getting dumb responses lol

[lovely_me]

Well that's because she was assuming, I didn't tell you the whole story but basically, it started with her ASSUMING things that are not right and I simply told her to shut up because all she did was blowing up my phone with baseless assumptions. Nothing wrong with telling her what she shouldn't do. She started of calling me a bad person, what did she expect? 

U must have done smg what give her this assumptions. No one make them out of blue. She think that u lie or have done smg.  What ever. She don't trust u. Try to find out the reason. Smg in yr behavior have done her angry. 

 

Btw I would rage, if u would tell me to shut up, and in that tone.. Ugh

[Nev Schulman]

U must have done smg what give her this assumptions. No one make them out of blue. She think that u lie or have done smg.  What ever. She don't trust u. Try to find out the reason. Smg in yr behavior have done her angry. 

,Yeah it was an argument that I had resolved with other people, she wasn't even involved. It had to do with other people who I rightfully apologized to and they took my apology and accepted it. In the end ,I found out that she thought this whole situation was about her when it wasn't. She was not part of anything, she was being the "third" party when it was not even her business to begin with.

 

But that's not my point

 

my point is those people who talk trash like they were your enemy for the past year after 1 argument like ???

[lovely_me]

,Yeah it was an argument that I had resolved with other people, she wasn't even involved. It had to do with other people who I rightfully apologized to and they took my apology and accepted it. In the end ,I found out that she thought this whole situation was about her when it wasn't. She was not part of anything, she was being the "third" party when it was not even her business to begin with.

 

But that's not my point

 

my point is those people who talk trash like they were your enemy for the past year after 1 argument like ???

There must have been smg what have her let think and feel it was about her. Words, looks, bad experience etc..  Maybe its an misunderstanding. Ask her rarer y she think she was meaned, as to tell her to shut up. Its not the right way to get it out of world. It only will bring more hate. If she make assumptions, ask her y she think so, and don't tell her to shut up. Even less in this tone. 

[Nev Schulman]

There must have been smg what have her let think and feel it was about her. Words, looks, bad experience etc..  Maybe its an misunderstanding. Ask her rarer y she think she was meaned, as to tell her to shut up. Its not the right way to get it out of world. It only will bring more hate. If she make assumptions, ask her y she think so, and don't tell her to shut up. Even less in this tone. 

Lol I get what you mean but I still think she deserved it after blowing up my phone. If she really knew me she would have known better, to me it seems like she was pretending to be my friend after all these years. I am very sensitive when it comes to people making baseless assumptions so if she really knew me she knew she'd have it coming. I never apologized to her or said sorry because I don't trust people like that. I'm cool with her but I just don't trust her anymore.

[Nowhere Boy]

I had a friend that would insult everything about me in an argument once. He'd insult me, my family, my other friends, my personal interests, and really everything about me.

[lovely_me]

Lol I get what you mean but I still think she deserved it after blowing up my phone. If she really knew me she would have known better, to me it seems like she was pretending to be my friend after all these years. I am very sensitive when it comes to people making baseless assumptions so if she really knew me she knew she'd have it coming. I never apologized to her or said sorry because I don't trust people like that. I'm cool with her but I just don't trust her anymore.

I think that u maybe have done smg what broke her trust in u first. She maybe think now u lying and tried to get yr head out of the thing. 

Also u can know ppl for years, but never rlly know them, u know. The is always a limit in trust, and she couldn't follow yr story blind. Even more if there was smg what have hurt her, for what ever reasons. Get in her skin. Do u trust and know all yr friends 100% and follow them blind no matter what they say? Wouldn't u get mad, if u think someone is lying to u or try make a fool out of u? 

 

 She is maybe sensetiv for lies or stories etc, as u for assumptions. 

 

Idk her, or u or the story behind. But I know well about making assumptions. I exactly know the feeling and also y it happens or can happen. Every normal human make it from time to time. I am borderline. Its worse. So this knowledge of me to how and y is a bit stronger. If I make assumptions it have a strong reason. But not borderline ppl have also reasons to make them. As I sayed, no one make them out of blue. There must be a reason. There is a misunderstanding, so try to speak it out. Hear at what she say. Assumptions are an result of hurt feelings and not enough trust. 

 

If u would apologize, even if u think u aren't guilty, it would give her the trust back maybe. Apologize for giving her the feeling that it was about her. Something like this. 

 

I wrote too much. Hope u understand that I mean. 

[Hosh]

i sat across from nev on the subway in nyc a couple of months ago

[Tokki the Awkward Potato]

If y'all get into an argument and they're already prepared to insult ya whole life, they ain't really ya friends stop fucking with them

[Caiii]

lol with friends like these, who needs enemies? I've never had a serious argument with a friend mostly its about petty things or stuff about games.

[KaniPi]

If this is the first time, they have said these things to you, perhaps you could give her the benefit of doubt. Sometimes, when people get angry they say things. Also, we're all not perfect, we all have flaws. Your friend is also human, just like you. I'm sure you would have similar type of views about her too, it doesn't necessarily mean you see her as your enemy. I don't really know what type of relationship you have with her, but if there are other instances where she has been quite shady, then perhaps its better to keep your distance, but as I said before, if she is a good friend besides this, I'd probably forgive her and move on. As for not trusting her, its difficult. Anyone can speak badly about anyone, you cannot just assume just because someone is nice with you right now, that they're not. Its up to you, OP. I hope you understand each other better.