Katie 1,449 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 Did any of you feel really overwhelmed when you got to the end of your college life? I'm in my last semester of college and I am so stressed out about it. I don't have a job or anything lined up after I graduate so I feel like I'm gonna end up having to live with my parents and have no money and then I'll never get a job because employers are gonna see that I haven't done any work that relates to my majors and I'll end up in some never-ending cycle of never getting hired. (Which I know is extreme, but I tend to be a worse-case-scenario type person.) I applied for two internships about a month ago and haven't heard back from either of them and it's making me nervous. I am planning to apply for a specific job soon though but I feel like I'm horribly under-qualified even though I know I'm not because this one guy who has the exact same education background as me got the exact same job. IDK I feel like even if I get a job I'm gonna show up to it and not have a clue what's going on and get fired in a week even though I know that's ridiculous too. Also I've never given a job interview before so that's scary and making me even more anxious. Plus I still have to focus on finishing out this semester which is really not going well for me because my classes are both a lot of work and hard af and I've set way to high standards for myself and I don't know if I can keep them and it makes me feel like a failure. I won't lie, half the reason for this post is just because I needed to get these feelings out there and I don't like talking about it with people that I know in real life. Did any of you guys have really high levels of stress/anxiety when you were finishing college? And if so, how did you deal with it? Please tell me this is at least somewhat normal lol OTL @ this novel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~K.i.t.s.u.n.e~ 496 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 how old are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kstarnet 1,502 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 Yes. I understand how you feel cos I been there before. I remember applying for numerous companies for internships and no one call me. That time I was so frustrated that I cry from threaten to kill myself that time to giving up my religion but my mom comforts me n tell me to keep trying. I end up found one that I want. So don't give up, keep trying and pray hard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EVA02 4,755 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 You can start with small jobs and gradually work your way up. It doesn't matter if it's not related to what you majored in Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xharuharux 2,487 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 something I'm learning to this day lol, for every 100 applications you send out- you hear back from like 5 ! keep going you can do it !!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deâ„“phina 14,904 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 · Hidden by Pineapple, March 20, 2016 - No reason given Hidden by Pineapple, March 20, 2016 - No reason given You sound like you got some mild GAD. Did you ever get counselling ? Also, I'm a sophomore but : t I haven't done any work that relates to my majors a I applied for two internships about a month ago . I am planning to apply for a specific job soon though Seriously ? What the hell were you doing for 4 years ? And only two ????? Sis/bruh, get to work and send your resume to every and any job that is even remotely related to your major ASAP. You can't be nitpicky if you don't have any experience tf. but I feel like I'm horribly under-qualified even thou You are tbh. Link to comment
Aearom 1,071 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 Don't give up. I know it must be stressful. But it will all work out for good. Consider taking small/part time related jobs first. Or maybe some online work that is related to the field. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trixbox 2,982 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I was already on internship before i graduated. I didn't feel any anxiety or pressure since you aren't expected to excel on anything by the company. The first year was a breeze to me kinda like i was just there to get money and browse internet for free. The stress comes in when you get tenured and get a lot of responsibilities specially on my line of work which is IT wherein you are bound to be on 24/7 shift and even if your home you are gonna get called and expected to join a conference call whatever ungodly hour that is. You are expected to be the best engineer as you are hired to be one. Your still a new grad. don't be stressed out. Try to learn what the culture of the company that your are applying to and how you can mold yourself to that company and make it easy for yourself too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sakurahanabira 6,634 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I'm gonna end up having to live with my parents and have no money and then I'll never get a job because employers are gonna see that I haven't done any work that relates to my majors and I'll end up in some never-ending cycle of never getting hired. I graduated college last year and this has been my life since graduating It's hard finding jobs with my degree (Japanese--yeah yeah, I knew that I would have difficulties finding a job with this major, but I still went with it. ) since most jobs looking for Japanese language skills require JLPT N2 or N1 certification, so I'm trying to study my way up so I can pass them. In the meantime I've been applying to minimum wage jobs just so i can earn myself some extra money on the side and going to interviews, but no luck. /terrible speaking skills Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShoogurrKween 1,347 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 99% of people feel like you do so dont worry...trust me, I recently just finished law school and I STILL feel this way. No matter what, people will make you feel unqualified and try to underpay you...unfortunately thats just what us millennials have to deal with and its fucking bullshit but you shouldn't feel bad about still getting help from your parents. Thats just how it is these days. I'm sorry if my answer isn't really inspiring but its just the truth of the situation. Edit: my actual advice is apply to whatever the hell you want to and DONT give up. Almost every job you enter into will train yoou first so your outside experience doesn't matter allll that much unless its a highly specific position Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dasom's Nose 1,100 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 you remind me of me. oh good old times. i know what you're feeling, but you are going to be fine trust me. focus on your studies they are more important rn. and only after that can you stress about other things. about getting a job, it might take some time, it might not, it depends. sometime all you need is luck, as sad as that sounds. what is important is for you to not care what people might think of you. so what you're taking much longer time to find a job compared to your other friends. you can do small/part time jobs. gain experiences. communicate with other people. learn new skills. go to jobs fairs. have some fun. take things slow but surely. don't worry too much op you're going to be fine. also don't be ashamed of living with your parents, appreciate them while they're still near to you. you don't know what the future brings. tl:dr don't worry too much. go with your own pace. all the best! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SAUCY 44,499 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 dw, im in the same boat. Last year and I'm just applying to where ever and whatever. I was panicking about it today too and kept crying to my friends about it. But you keep at it. Final year fucks with everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vader 3,297 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 my brother just finished last year, he's now doing a part time job as a math tutor waiting to pilot jobs to open up since that what he studied to be (hopefully soon to i hate him sitting around doing something he didnt really train to do) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adina kim 484 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 i have my own business now,so i can close my shop when ever i want and open it when i need money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
👑A.M👑 661 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 My fvcking bvtch Sister will graduate Tonight... I'm Proud for her But i will never ever gonna attend on her graduation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katie 1,449 Posted March 20, 2016 Author Share Posted March 20, 2016 Thanks for the responses guys. how old are you? 21 Yes. I understand how you feel cos I been there before. I remember applying for numerous companies for internships and no one call me. That time I was so frustrated that I cry from threaten to kill myself that time to giving up my religion but my mom comforts me n tell me to keep trying. I end up found one that I want. So don't give up, keep trying and pray hard I'm happy it worked out for you and you didn't give up! I graduated college last year and this has been my life since graduating It's hard finding jobs with my degree (Japanese--yeah yeah, I knew that I would have difficulties finding a job with this major, but I still went with it. ) since most jobs looking for Japanese language skills require JLPT N2 or N1 certification, so I'm trying to study my way up so I can pass them. In the meantime I've been applying to minimum wage jobs just so i can earn myself some extra money on the side and going to interviews, but no luck. /terrible speaking skills I wish you luck on your certifications! It sounds like a really cool degree to have tbh. And I know what you mean about speaking skills. I am dreading any interviews I have to give in the future. 99% of people feel like you do so dont worry...trust me, I recently just finished law school and I STILL feel this way. No matter what, people will make you feel unqualified and try to underpay you...unfortunately thats just what us millennials have to deal with and its fucking bullshit but you shouldn't feel bad about still getting help from your parents. Thats just how it is these days. I'm sorry if my answer isn't really inspiring but its just the truth of the situation. Edit: my actual advice is apply to whatever the hell you want to and DONT give up. Almost every job you enter into will train yoou first so your outside experience doesn't matter allll that much unless its a highly specific position Lol, I wasn't really looking for inspiring so all's good. I just kinda feel like no one else who is graduating with me is stressed and I'm like ??? how ??? are you ??? not ??? worried???? lol. But they're probably just keeping it internalized or talking to someone else and are just as nervous as I am. So to know others are feeling the same way I do is both good and bad because I'm not the only one but like, this feeling sucks no one should have to deal with this. you remind me of me. oh good old times. i know what you're feeling, but you are going to be fine trust me. focus on your studies they are more important rn. and only after that can you stress about other things. about getting a job, it might take some time, it might not, it depends. sometime all you need is luck, as sad as that sounds. what is important is for you to not care what people might think of you. so what you're taking much longer time to find a job compared to your other friends. you can do small/part time jobs. gain experiences. communicate with other people. learn new skills. go to jobs fairs. have some fun. take things slow but surely. don't worry too much op you're going to be fine. also don't be ashamed of living with your parents, appreciate them while they're still near to you. you don't know what the future brings. tl:dr don't worry too much. go with your own pace. all the best! I really needed to read this, thank you. dw, im in the same boat. Last year and I'm just applying to where ever and whatever. I was panicking about it today too and kept crying to my friends about it. But you keep at it. Final year fucks with everyone. edit; forgot to say something to this one OTL I hope it works out for you too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icedcoffee 457 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I was in the same place as you when I was about to graduate university. I did have a part-time job so when I finished school I worked there for awhile while looking for a full time job (which was extremely difficult. I applied to many places and never received any replies back). Keep applying and you'll get something. I was out of university for 6 months before I found a full time job. EDIT: and even now, it's a contract job. So I actually don't own my position. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chaedy10 209 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 I was in the same place as you when I was about to graduate university. I did have a part-time job so when I finished school I worked there for awhile while looking for a full time job (which was extremely difficult. I applied to many places and never received any replies back). Keep applying and you'll get something. I was out of university for 6 months before I found a full time job. EDIT: and even now, it's a contract job. So I actually don't own my position. This was exactly me. Except I just resigned from my contract job and am now back to square one and feeling super confused about life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Galaxy. 3,572 Posted March 20, 2016 Share Posted March 20, 2016 My situation is different because I passed a competitive exam and was already on internship during my last year of study. But I had another kind of stress: not being legitimate enough for my job, as I have many responsibilities (too many for my young age, I think). So yeah, it's sooooo normal to be stressed out; whatever your situation is, I feel we are all stressed out when we become adults. Never give up, and use the time you'll have between your studies and your first "real job" really wisely. Learn the basics of a new language. If you have the opportunity, don't hesitate to travel. Even if I was very short on money, I travelled for my studies and it did wonder to my confidence. And if you don't find anything in your field of study at first, don't be afraid to accept very different part-time jobs, as each one of them will bring you experience and a wide range of skills. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pryzilla 376 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 You're not alone! while you're job hunting, here are some things you can do to keep yourself in the game... (1) If there are certifications in your industry, get certified! Studying for this stuff while you're working 70 hours a week is horrible. (2) While you're still a student, join professional associations or societies so you get the student rate. Sometimes joining is even free while you're in school. Talk to your career center to see if your school will pay your dues. Then attend association meetings to network, stay up on training, add people on linkedin and so on. (3) If it takes you more than a year to find a job, strongly consider taking a class at community college so you have access to their career website/counselor/contacts. A lot of professional jobs will only offer internships to current students. (4) Network, network, network. Have a business card with a link to your linkedin profile and give a bunch to your parents. Especially if you're bad at interviewing. In your daily life you probably meet a lot of people and make a great impression because you're not nervous. Great time to network professionally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherrrypie 311 Posted April 22, 2016 Share Posted April 22, 2016 I had many friends in this situation in our last year of college and even during the year after college. It's definitely difficult - rejection is cold and hard. Sometimes you don't even get rejected, they just ignore your existence - and no matter how you brace yourself, that hurts. But make sure to do things you enjoy, spend time with family and friends, and not have your self-worth and confidence depend on your immediate success in the job market. That being said, persistence is key! For one of my best friends, it probably took her ~300-400 job applications over the course of a year + a few months after graduation, but she never gave up and now she's working at what I think is her ideal job in government. Put applications out there, talk to people about what you're looking for (half the job market isn't job postings but through networking) - you can do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miyami 642 Posted April 24, 2016 Share Posted April 24, 2016 I was actually really relieved when I finished all that school stuff. First took a break before I went for job searching/work so no stress. There's plenty of time. Dont stress over it since everyone has to go through those hoops. I got sent plenty of applies, but most of them I never ever heard anything back. Apparantly that is really normal nowadays. no biggie, just continue of what you are doing and trying to reach. If i were u id try to finish school first so u can take things 1 at a time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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