LGBTQIA Community Thread! If you're queer come here~

[25%Cotton]

yeah, it really sucks for them. how dumb.

 

but it acts as a reminder in my head that people are gayer than they may lead on or even think themselves.

[25%Cotton]

people misunderstand the term "bisexual." it doesn't mean you have to like both genders equally.

 

as for the full LGBTQIA, it's obviously not everybody's go-to acronym of choice when LGBT acts as a typical catchall that is much shorter. it's just a more accepting, all-encompassing one to be used in official names/etc. for instance, the "A" is for straight Allies who obviously don't directly benefit from LGBT rights seeing how they are straight (unless there's some kind of weird circumstance or you are being annoyingly figurative), but they are included because they are supporters who check up on the same news and content LGBT people do. Q is a catchall within LGBTQIA to cover anybody whose sexuality doesn't quite get where it fits in because of the crazy gradients of emotional and sexual preferences (asexual people probably belong in here because even without sex they can still have men vs women aesthetic/emotional preferences). I i guess is for people who are physically in between genders... i think... i don't know very well.

 

basically they are just covering extra ground so that people who are fighting for the same or similar things don't feel left out or ignored. but when speaking, LGBT will usually [be assumed to] cover all the bases in though it doesn't word-for-word include them.

Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

Those are unnecessary. Would you think someone who classifies themselves as these made up sexualities is normal? Transgender can't be grouped with gay and lesbian people because they have nothing in common. And you can actually choose to be transgender whereas with homosexuality you can't

that's transsexual, not transgender.

 

transgender fight for protection, equality, and awareness... which are all big things that lgbqia people also fight for... you know that gay marriage is not the only thing that lgbtqia fights for, right? it's a recent focus, but it's not the only goal and not the end goal.

 

*edit: forgot one of the s's in 'transsexual.' pretty embarrassing since i had the word bolded and everything..

Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

guys, take a look at this article

 

 

 

In no circumstance shall sexual orientation regulations supersede the First Amendment rights of individuals, churches and religious organizations to freedom of speech and the free exercise of religion. For the purpose of this statute religious organizations are those whose policies or culture are substantially influenced by religious values, including but not limited to Christian bookstores, adoption agencies, hospitals, businesses, social organizations and student clubs on college campuses.

 

Statement of legislative intent: The First Amendment Supremacy Clause is designed to ensure that the first principles of the Bill of Rights to the United States Constitution, namely religious liberty and freedom of expression, are preserved and honored as essential values deeply rooted in our history and laws, as against the claims and reach of the newly invented category of law known as Sexual Orientation Regulations. It is the purpose of this legislation to clearly recognize and affirm that laws and policies based on sexual orientation, gender identity or like terms have no power to infringe upon or otherwise restrict the inalienable rights of Americans which are enshrined in the First Amendment, and which many generations of our citizens have shed their precious blood to protect.

can someone point out to me how religious rights are getting infringed upon? the only thing i can see that they're losing is their free passes at defaming and slandering others. which... i'm pretty sure telling gay people they are evil, need to repent, or going to go to hell are offensive things. if a student told them to their teacher, wouldn't that student get sent to the principal's office for being disrespectful?

 

 

 

It's the same thing. People who fight for protection, equality and awareness are transgender? Are you retarded?

gurrrl your post doesn't even makes sense. i cannot for the life of me extract meaning out of it. Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

Questions for all da queers up in dis thread, do u ever catch urself self-hating, because I can't seem to stop it.

once upon a time. mostly middle school era (i don't even think i believed i actually liked guys until 8th grade) and then i think i got over it during my first or second year of high school.

 

now i'm like "YES I LOVE MEN AND I LOVE THAT I LOVE MEN"

[25%Cotton]

only when I would watch lesbian porn to get off. I hated that I couldn't just do it to "regular" porn. But now I am over it.

the weird thing for me is that i found women attractive... especially in middle school. but then when i started seeing porn images and videos on the internet, i was totally turned off by them and could only get into the gay ones.

 

though i later realized it's partly because straight and "lesbian" porn is just awful, i really was interested in men. it just took me a long time to admit even though i was fapping to guys having sex and unable to get off on straight/"lesbian" vids.

 

tbh, i'm still not that certain about my sexuality as far as women are concerned. i still find some really attractive and everything... but i don't know if i'd be able to actually sleep with one? not just sexually, but i feel like emotionally there are very few girls who i'd consider dating or that sort of relationship with; they generally just all hit my FRIEND filter.

 

i actually get worried sometimes that maybe i'll end up with a woman; not because that's bad, but because i really like men and i think men x men relationships are adorable.

 

for all intents and purposes, i'm definitely "at least gay" (though i probably lie near the range of bisexuality/bicuriosity). i'm probably the gay version of those straight guys who is really straight but... ... he's really straight, but... .

 

 

damn, that's still young tho lol. but yeah for me, I realized early grade 12 or late grade 11 or maybe earlier grade 11. Idk i stay coming out and then going back in the closet then coming out lol.

i didn't FULLY accept it until grade 11. i had fallen for a good friend and like... even though i wouldn't admit it even to myself, i definitely fantasized about being his boyfriend a lot. it's a weird dichotomy, but eventually i just told him outright one day that even though i didn't fully understand it, i liked him.

 

after that i started to warm up to the thought of actually being gay.

Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

Oh, kumi... you're such a dumbass.

 

I would really love to hear this from the Japanese guy whose dick I'm after.

on another related note, one of my cute japanese friends...

 

i don't KNOW if he's gay or bi or whatever, but he has cute, moderately feminine body language and i have always gotten vibes from him (he's fashionable and takes good care of his physical appearance, too, but that's not really a signifier of anything in asia). my other japanese friend has noted that this guy has something mysterious and hidden about him and that he'll probably know "the real him." anyway, he told us that he really wanted a girlfriend but couldn't find one (and has never had one).

 

but like...

 

as one of my friends pointed out to him, he essentially has a large harem of loyal female friends who not only chat with him very familiarly but also initiate physical contact a lot. they aren't even ugly, there are plenty of pretty faces among them. i won't say anything to him or to any of my friends without something more solid than that, but... i can't help but wondering if he really does want a girlfriend.

 

^^more on potential gay guys in japan searching for gfs because it's just what is done

Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

i'm the same way. Well, not the whole being attracted thing. From a young age I knew I liked girls, all my early crushes were girls. There was prob only one time I thought I liked a guy when I was little but it was only cause he was the only person being nice to me in that class and we had become close. But the whole not being able to see yourself sexually with the opposite sex, yeh totally feel the same. The thought of a guy just laying on top of me is just eeeeew  . Its not that I am like 'nope will never date cause that person is a guy.' I do believer that sexuality is not something that is rigid and you fall for who you fall for, but its just I've never felt that way about a guy.

just to clarify, i'm a male.

 

i did feel attraction to women growing up, but it's confusing because it's often such a weak feeling that i'm not sure is "enough" to warrant being considered as part of my sexuality whereas i'm totally into guys.

 

nvm i think i just misread your post while i was in a rush.

Edited July 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

that's just weird. he's either a db or he's trying to make you jealous and desperate... which also makes him a db.

[25%Cotton]

i always saw the difference between the battle for lgbtqi rights and racial/gender equality (in the sense of women being treated lower) is that lgbti issues are "invisible."

 

i mean, there are signs that can be observed (such as body language and other not entirely reliable signs), and technically in the case of Intersex there are physical differences -- you just don't see them generally because of clothes --, but basically you can't really be certain unless someone tells you (not necessarily restricted to language but also through symbols and actions).

[25%Cotton]

i always saw the difference between the battle for lgbtqi rights and racial/gender equality (in the sense of women being treated lower) is that lgbti issues are "invisible."

 

i mean, there are signs that can be observed (such as body language and other not entirely reliable signs), and technically in the case of Intersex there are physical differences -- you just don't see them generally because of clothes --, but basically you can't really be certain unless someone tells you (not necessarily restricted to language but also through symbols and actions).

 

i suppose there are times when you can't be certain from looking that someone is a woman or man, or their ethnicity could be ambiguous... but it's to a much smaller degree.

 

the histories are a bit different as well.

and even today lgbtqi people are thought of as if they are all the same (if you've studied anything about lgbt issues in japan, you'll know that many people have difficulty understanding the differences between gay, bi, transgender, transsexual, etc).

 

 

 

 

don't really have much of an aim with this, just throwing out possible explanations.

Edited July 27, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

eric east (eric bao) and guy tang, for those who care:

 

[25%Cotton]

^^if he is, then get some and while you're at it make a certain someone jealous. :v

[25%Cotton]

Are they really gay? They're so hot 

guy on the right is a popular openly gay gogo dancer,

guy on the left is in a mediocre gay porn series.

 

gay.

[25%Cotton]

Do you lot do some actual work there, or do you just re-enact highschool movies together?

i hear the next one will be a gender-swapped version (except for the male love interest) of "adventures in babysitting"

[25%Cotton]

Met the new guy. Flamboyant, unattractive, and we did not become biffles. Oh well. Still gushing over my manager, who has the most adorable laugh when I poke him. He's so precious.

while i want to say, "Myth, play nice!"

 

i don't really know anything about him; maybe he's stifling, obnoxious, or untrustworthy with secrets. ~~

maybe he's not that bad, though, and you can biffle him later when you get used to him.

Edited July 29, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

check out this article, "Sexual minority students send letters to the schools where they suffered"

 

small except:

 

“After I made my sexual identity known at the school, the therapist who was counseling me told me that I had gotten AIDS and sent me to a house of prayer,†admitted a girl who had graduated from a high school in Gwangju.

this is actually kind of an amazing and mature idea, in my opinion. i especially loved the touch where they sent pamphlets and stickers, though i expect many of the teachers will resist changing their thinking and not use them. still, i hope they can change some minds and help some innocent students out there from getting victimized like this.

Edited July 29, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

myungsoo's gorgeous calves:

 

[25%Cotton]

i feel like this is an appropriate time (with achluophilius's story) to relink this

 

 

 

don't punch, guys, don't punch.

 

Edited August 3, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

Meanwhile in Russia, a single gay protester against a squad of soldiers:

 

 

So who's the real man here? Besides, those are the gayest fucking uniforms I have ever seen.

what is going on in the video?

 

i don't have sound so i don't know if i'm missing something important, but i assume that it's all in russian anyway so i wouldn't understand anything. it looks like they are trying to get him to make a strike so they can really hurt him... then the police come and arrest him ??

[25%Cotton]

there are so many cute guys everywhere at the event i'm at for a few days. guys from all over the world who are adorable and who i will probably never see again after tomorrow.

 

craicrai

Edited August 5, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

cute cashier at a nearby SEKI (a drugstore/mild groceries... think 'walgreens' but in japan)...

 

he remembered me (at least that i had a point card)

and deliberately touched my hand when he was returning my change. 

 

;;

 

i can't remember if it's the same cashier that started talking to me about having studied abroad in the US and spending a month in forth worth, texas... unfortunately basically every time i go to SEKI to pick something up i'm already incredibly tired and this frickin summer heat&humidity is death.

[25%Cotton]

do you guys find cocky guys to be attractive? 

nonononono

 

it's really important to me to be humble. back at my old job i would always be humble about my seniority and ability to new people (just a movie theater job, but again it's important to me to be humble). but then one time one of the guys who was in his first month was like "ok, if you're not that good i'll do it. i've got this part pretty down."

 

and you know what.

they really weren't that good about it and the incident still haunts me to this day -- i really don't like arrogance/overconfidence unless it's sarcastic and/or joking.

Edited August 15, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

i think drag queens are cool in general, but i wish some softer fashions were more popular. not a fan of the high arched eyebrows, huge lips, and mega hoop earrings.

 

like,

the amount of work many of them put into their appearance is incredible and it shows, but i think they could be even more fabulous with a slightly different direction.

 

^^then again, maybe that's just the heavily popularized drag queens that sport this sort of fashion and maybe there are many out there who go for different looks. i don't know because i only see really popularized mainstream queens.

 

 

 

 

 

*update* [aka not update]

 

i haven't seen the incredibly cute guy that works at the drugstore across the street in like... two weeks. and i stop by a lot... like, today i had to pick up something for the curry i was making (i didn't realize it was part of the recipe until i started cooking).

 

of the other male employees, only two are cute, and one of them is kind of... not the best worker towards me. he never asks me for my point card no matter how many times i come by. ;; not that that's a real problem -- actually, i'm probably just bitching because i don't know if i'll ever see the guy i have a crush on again and the last time i saw him i was having a bad day and kept stumbling over my japanese.

Edited August 26, 2013 by 25%Cotton

[25%Cotton]

loooooool